Communication between people is essentially a kind of practice. If the relationship between couples is still a two-way interaction of "I see how charming Qingshan is, and I expect Qingshan to see me like this", then the relationship with the mentor is "I will go up the mountain if the mountain doesn't come", so we should communicate with the mentor in a proactive manner, although the initiative is still in the hands of the mentor. After all, iron-clad tutors and mobile students, "a wave of unrest, another wave."

1, testimony-find out the tutor's character and bottom line

In this regard, we should actively learn from our former brothers and sisters. The teacher's legacy is not only knowledge, but also the experience of getting along with the tutor. For example, tutors are used to going to bed early or late, what is more important when listening to students' reports on their learning progress, and which minefields must not be touched in paper writing, and so on. Having the experience of "mine clearance" of predecessors can get twice the result with half the effort.

Furthermore, we should observe the teacher's words and deeds as much as possible, sum up the teacher's requirements for students, and sum up a set of strategies in combination with our own actual situation to improve ourselves in daily study.

2, put the right position-think clearly about the most important teacher-student relationship.

Before, a doctor complained that he felt that he could not be friends with his tutor. This is precisely the performance of not facing up to the relationship between teachers and students. Although many young tutors like to call themselves "friends" tutors, or some young female tutors are "girlfriends" tutors of female disciples, the essential teacher-student relationship has not changed no matter what type. Han Yu said it well: a teacher, so he preached and taught. Therefore, the correct orientation is: you are here to learn knowledge from your tutor. You have to finish your studies, write papers, send papers and then graduate. This is the main line, others are feeder lines, so there is no need to make much ado about nothing.

3. Win-win thinking-reduce the difficulty of the tutor.

Empathy is the premise of successful interpersonal communication. Tutors are actually very busy, and taking students only accounts for a small part of their lives. Tutors should engage in academics, take students, attend classes, apply for funds, travel and take internships. If the tutor also holds an administrative position, there will be endless meetings and endless official documents. Not to mention the tutor's family tutor is very busy. As students, what should we do to reduce the difficulty for tutors to communicate with us?

Pay more attention to the dynamics of your research field; The paper is carefully written, and the problems pointed out by the tutor try not to make the second mistake; If you don't understand the problem, try looking up the literature yourself. If you still can't solve it, then ask your classmates, brothers and sisters. If you still can't solve it, ask the tutor again.

How to ask questions to the tutor is also very particular. You can't just throw out questions, but also convey to your tutor how much you think about this problem and the bottleneck you can't break through; Don't delay, finish the task assigned by the tutor in time, and report it in time after completion. Pay 100% attention to the tasks assigned by the teacher.

Everyone must have such doubts. Why did my tutor send me a paper, and he only changed a few typos and a few sick sentences and returned it? I don't want my tutor to change these for me. I can change these simple ones myself. I want my tutor to help me solve problems that I can't solve. But the tutor's idea is also very simple, even the small problems such as format, typos and sick sentences can't be eliminated, and there must be a lot of other problems. Tutors' guidance on students' papers is also promoted step by step in most cases. Therefore, we must try our best to put an end to small mistakes in the content we show our instructors.

Which tutor doesn't want to take students who save trouble? Junior and senior high school teachers prefer students who are sensible, smart and study well, isn't it because it is difficult to bring them? Man is an inert animal, and naturally pursues the principle of saving as much effort as possible. Enhance the tutor's own motivation, reduce his own resistance, let him communicate smoothly with the tutor, and naturally learn more under benign interaction.

Qian Qian, the world's tutor, is an ordinary person in essence. In fact, if you have mastered a series of comfortable skills in interpersonal communication, then the communication with your tutor is nothing more than that. Knowing each other's preferences and characteristics, recognizing the relationship between the two sides, and then making efficient decisions for both sides can basically solve the problem of communicating with the tutor. You don't have to be like an "academic orphan" or an "orphan of papers" anymore, and you don't have to contact, communicate and meet with your tutor, and you don't have to reply to your tutor "Yeah/OK/Got it/Thank you/bother you" every time you go online.

I hope all of you can communicate effectively with your tutors and improve your academic level day by day.