Everyone needs to think about the following questions before becoming a parent: 1 Do you have enough time to accompany your children to grow up? If you are pregnant and have children, you must be mentally prepared. In the first year after birth, you must take care of your children by yourself. Don't let him leave your side until he 12 years old. Do you have enough patience to accompany your children? Do you know the basic stages of children's psychological development and what parents need to do at each stage? If you can, you must read Developmental Psychology and Child Psychology. If you know what is particularly important to your child, then make up this lesson, and maybe your child's future life will be smooth sailing.
Behavioral problems and related psychological problems in this age group all originated before 12 years old, and most of them originated from the way parents raised their children.
A healthy life requires both health preservation and heart cultivation.
Parents' psychological influence and control over their children don't care how successful their parents' career is, how knowledgeable and rich their parents are, but only how much effort you put into their early life and how much time you spent with them during their attachment. That is,/kloc-before 0/2 years old.
As long as the psychological education is not in place, then TV and internet will educate him, and it will be too late to act when we find all kinds of problems with our children. This is that psychological development has a critical period. Especially in the era of only child.
Because I am a scholar, my idea is that as long as your own heart is pure. First of all, you should trust your own research. Second, do you think your research is selfish? If you have no selfish interests, then you are really speaking from an objective perspective. Don't be afraid to bear the misunderstanding of others, because this society is pluralistic.
It took me nearly five hours to finish reading this book. I'm not going to finish reading it today. Especially when I read the first chapter, I endured a strong sense of discomfort, because what Mr. Li said was true cases, most of which we knew. I feel that many negative emotions are affecting readers. So it is also one of the reasons why I recommend this book at a low level, four stars. If only from the perspective of content and text, it is enough to recommend four and a half stars or five stars. But in the end, my mood eased again. One reason is that although the latter case has stimulating factors, the influence of the first chapter is enough. Secondly, I choose to skip reading real and detailed cases and read only theoretical suggestions and conclusions. There is no doubt about Miss Li's professional level, and I am not very interested in her professional works. But I especially like her research on the influence of family education on people's growth and behavior. There are few professional and authoritative academic research works on family education in China, and they are very consistent with the actual situation. Therefore, I will look for Mr. Li's family education-related works to read in the future. To sum up, this book is suitable for all parents and college students, as long as they are not particularly disgusted and stimulated by the case, or skip the details of the case like me. College students under the age of 18 have no time to read this kind of leisure book, which is not recommended!
The description of criminal psychological portrait is not a single description of people's psychological characteristics, but a comprehensive description of psychological characteristics.
What a criminal psychological portrait can do is to provide a biographical description that is very similar to an unknown criminal suspect.
Emotional stimulation will probably continue in the long run. People's emotional cultivation is very important.
Studying them is not only for inspection, but also for serious psychological problems. Understand the formation path of their psychological problems, that is, how they happen, and then we will know how to help others not to have such psychological problems again.
The loss of this opportunity to form ideas through experience leads to their lifelong psychological vacancy: lack of the basis of warm judgment, thus forming a potential psychological crisis.
He left few memories of being loved and taken care of.
Lack of ideas.
With a good partnership, he will have a process of group communication. This is an early social development of mankind. Without this experience, children will talk less and it will be difficult to communicate with society in the future.
Love, that is to say, he can make a sound to the feelings of strangers.
A really good mother, an excellent mother, will tell children how to think of others and be kind to others. In fact, teaching children to be kind to others is sometimes a life-saving thing.
Many times, the retaliated often don't know the existence of revenge.
This kind of person has a small life and a narrow mind, and everything will be magnified.
Knowledge will also make you broad-minded.
No close physical contact with people.
How long will this stable upbringing take? At least six years, which can be extended to 12 years.
Now I call for a question, that is, parents should not leave their children before they are six years old, just six years old.
All social problems are human problems. People's problems are social problems. People's problems are early problems. Many people's growing environment has been destroyed.
People who have not been treated well since childhood often do not treat society well.
We generally know that the problem begins with space, and the best thinking is length, history and time.
We should understand other people's problems as well as our own.
One of the most important things about people's psychological pain is that they can only know the outside world but not themselves. Those who can know themselves are not painful.
Society itself has a circular thing. What is a cycle? Everyone is cruel to each other, so you must get this in the end.
What's the difference between belief and idea?
Once people's ideas are formed, people will react unconsciously. We have too many behaviors that don't know why. This is the influence of parents' role models.
In the personal upbringing of parents, your child is copying the concept and character of caregivers and the behaviors and attitudes of his closest people. Generally speaking, people's looks are mostly inherited, but people's personality and ideas depend entirely on their parents' behavior.
I also want to tell those parents who are worried and scared about their children's problems all day: as long as you and your wife love each other and respect each other, as long as your family is harmonious, as long as you respect morality and etiquette in daily life and deal with problems in a reasonable way, there is not much difference between the children around you.
Human life and what we perceive are limited.
The earlier the concept, the more it will become something in our bones.
From concept to belief, and finally the question of belief.
Compared with now, the living environment in ancient China may not be so hard. It can't be as stressful as it is now. However, there must have been life safety and material shortage in those years.
China used to be a rural society, called acquaintance society and family society.
We really need a group of people to sit down and study how China will develop in ten or twenty years.
The students are too good to ask questions.
Our college entrance examination has taken away all the people in poor places, so there is nothing to change in poor places. The most active and outstanding people in the poor areas have all left. Every village has been hollowed out, leaving only women and children. I can't go back, the countryside is disappearing, and so is my hometown. Not only the material environment has been hollowed out, but also the things in my heart have been hollowed out.
The purpose of most children's education is to consider nothing. I really hope that our education can be realistic, so that elite education only accounts for a small part.
What is your dream life like?
Leisure creates culture. Without idle people, it is impossible to create culture.
Language can completely control people's psychological activities.
Forgiving others is also forgiving yourself and being kind to yourself.
This stage of adolescence is more prone to violence.
Nowadays, adults' views on right and wrong are very chaotic. How do they educate their children?
Children must have friends. Especially in middle school, if he is isolated, he will be easily bullied.
With the development of society, the role of family is weakening. Because industrial production has brought the trend of urbanization of life and socialization of occupation, the family, the most basic unit of society, has suffered an unprecedented impact.
Personality is the core part of personality, which is mainly formed from birth to adolescence.
Although we will go through kindergarten, primary school, middle school, university and workplace in the process of growing up, no matter how big our social circle is, family will always be the axis of this circle and our destination until we are mature and independent, and then form a responsible family. Therefore, family is the key place of personality education.
Everyone who had a happy childhood will recall a happy family. Parents' love and kindness to their children is one of the prerequisites for every child to grow up happily and form a good personality.
Family stability is the premise of shaping teenagers' good personality. Under this premise, the quality of parents determines the future character of children.
Most of these non-intellectual contents involve behavior, not verbal content. They can't force people to study, review and accept by examination, they can only rely on influence and influence. -Li Meijin-The role of family in adolescent personality education and crime prevention.
Our three major education systems-family, school and society-once had the best three points in the same direction. The words at home are in the same direction as those in the school society, and now they are in three directions, so it is utilitarian for children to choose what is useful to them.
Family education is a science, which needs wisdom and skills, exploration, learning and mastering relevant knowledge. A lot of experience can give us knowledge, but in family education, when parents have experience, children have grown up and the opportunity for education has been missed.
People's psychological development is orderly, and the psychological problems of minors are lagging behind. Minors are passive and weak, and their weakness and passivity determine that all this is caused by adults. Family education is not only material, but also psychological. Humanistic education is more important than intellectual education, and personality really determines fate. The premise of caring for children is respect, and parents should know what their children's basic rights and life are. To change the behavior of children, we must first change the behavior of adults.
Although intelligence, grades and academic qualifications are very important, throughout human history, most successful people who are admired and remembered must have the most basic human feelings. They have a sense of responsibility, compassion and fraternity. They can control themselves, give to others and cooperate with others. Responsibility, self-control, cooperation, dedication, etc. It's all human character, not intelligence.
The primary task of family education is how to educate parents, how to let parents know the psychological process of children's growth, and how adults can consciously find their own problems and adjust themselves first when children have problems. Only in this way can family education have real value. Change the behavior of children, first change the behavior of adults. -Li Meijin-Six Concepts of Family Education.
Psychologically, mental problems may be related to social changes.
Emotion is the physiological reaction, psychological experience and external expression of people's needs whether they are met or not. Emotional problems involve physical problems.
Sex education before the age of 6 is to instill in children the idea of how to protect their bodies. Tell him why only his parents can bathe him, because not everyone can look at his body casually. Sensitive parts of the body should not be touched by others. If anyone wants to touch it, you must tell me quietly when you come back. It's a secret between us, okay? Li Meijin
If a person has psychological strength, then he will appear more elegant.
Middle-aged men have rich life experience and already know women very well, which is easy to attract the attention of girls.
When people lack psychological strength, they tend to use violence.
You must be careful in finding a partner, don't get married too early, and don't have children too early.
Good family background and good family education.
Some of a person's personality problems stem from physiology, some from environment, and the rest from family. Many personality distortions are acquired, and pure physical problems are not the main ones.
Love is easy, and marriage really needs a choice.
Many of our loves are taught by movies, and novels become the teaching materials for our love, but this is irresponsible, and the price is for you to experience it yourself.
It makes sense that traditional things can last for so many years in human society.
/kloc-people who commit crimes under the age of 0/8 basically have problems at home. I think the quality of people in a society is closely related to the family situation. Marriage should be taken seriously, because it concerns the quality of the whole nation.
Consciousness is more of a spiritual image. Mental image is a kind of mental image or mental scene presented by the stimulating image of things obtained by people through external sensory perception.
Imagination solves practical problems, while fantasy solves the problems of psychological intoxication and satisfaction.