Since you think extramarital affairs are a dilemma, it shows that you have understood the benefits. Obviously, the advantages outweigh the disadvantages. After the initial excitement and novelty, what awaits you is the hard ending after the incident is revealed. If you don't want to make your life difficult to clean up, you'd better get out early.
First of all, we must understand that boredom is long-term. After the husband and wife get married, the emotion moves towards a stable track, and many men ignore the expression. At first, when his left hand held his right hand, the two kindreds became dull. How much of the feelings of normal couples in the novel are thrilling? Even if you have an affair, after the initial fresh stimulation, you will still return to dullness. Plain feelings are like three meals a day at home, and you can't stand eating big fish and meat. Vegetables, radishes and simple meals are the basis of health preservation.
Secondly, we should understand our role in this relationship. Extramarital affairs are shameful in themselves and morally condemned. After enjoying the entertainment, I ask myself in the dead of night that I have no guilt for my children, my husband and my family. If you think that the family is not really loveless, then get out of the marriage first and then look for the happiness you want, instead of playing an immoral role in extramarital affairs.
Third, extramarital affairs affect not only emotions, but also careers. Take the stars, for example, Angel, Ma Rong and, more recently, Li XiaoLu. Instead of being the target of public criticism, they were reviled, and their family affairs were spread out for public comment. There is no privacy at all, which not only affects my family and children, but also causes trouble to my career. I'm afraid they have to make more efforts if they want to turn over.
Smart women are not trapped by extramarital affairs. The wise thing to do is to pull out her sword, cut off her feelings and leave in time.