You can directly convey the meaning of your father-in-law to your mother-in-law. And tell your mother-in-law why your father-in-law doesn't tell him directly, so that your mother-in-law can fully understand your difficulties, and he doesn't want to embarrass you, so he won't go to the square dance again.

Talk to your husband and ask him to give it to you. If you think what you say will make your mother-in-law angry, then you can directly tell your husband about your difficulties and let him say it for you. Your husband and your mother-in-law must have a very good relationship in private. They will often discuss some things at home together, and you can leave such small things to your husband to solve. And you have to tell your husband that your father-in-law's behavior makes you feel embarrassed, and you don't want to be a messenger between your father-in-law and your mother-in-law. You think this will cause conflicts between you and your mother-in-law, and your husband will find your father-in-law and tell him what you think, so that similar things will never happen again.

Take your mother-in-law shopping and say it when you are happy. If you have to say it, you can take your mother-in-law out shopping together. If you meet a gift your mother-in-law likes in the mall, you can buy it for her. When your mother-in-law feels very happy, you can convey the meaning of your father-in-law to her mother-in-law. It is best to make a joke and let her know what her father-in-law thinks. Your mother-in-law may complain about your father-in-law in front of you. Just listen. When your mother-in-law goes to the square dance, you can beat her to remind your father-in-law that your mother-in-law doesn't want to embarrass you and not dance.

You can persuade your father-in-law to let them go dancing together. Your father-in-law doesn't want your mother-in-law to dance. He may think that living at home is too boring. You can encourage your parents-in-law to go dancing together. Two people will be very happy together, and your father-in-law will no longer reject dancing. Dancing is a good exercise for the elderly, and you should support and encourage them to do it.