"Give up completely" simply means that when you break up, you are firm and heartless, and you no longer have all hope. If you can't find his hope, you can't change it purposefully.
For example, if you are a design scheme, ordinary customers will tell you that the bad factor of this picture is that it is too red and must be revised; But in that kind of completely dead customer, he will tell you immediately that this picture is not suitable for everyone's enterprise, and he doesn't have to say that it will make you lose your way and it is the most difficult to get.
In this case, most breakups will have the following classic characteristics:
1. Children will often quarrel, "a little quarrel in two days, a big quarrel in three days", and they will bear the emotional rift that has happened. Even if they feel that they have not handled it well, they are likely to have all hope for you.
His thought is firm and decisive, and he doesn't feel procrastination.
I don't want to make complicated preparations and be indifferent to your work. How to send a circle of friends to save a dead boyfriend?
4. Or delete all your contact numbers immediately after breaking up. I don't want to see all your information, and I don't want you to go to him again.
Either way, it was formed in a day or two. The reason why you broke up must be the long-term circulatory system. As I said before, it is difficult to completely save this kind, but it is not impossible.
You need to master appropriate methods to save opportunities before you can further improve.
First, the emotional adjustment of "not asking to break up"
This way of completely giving up can also be called no-requirement breakup. It is easy to understand that you have all the emotional dependence and hope for him.
Before finding out the reason why the other party broke up with you, some girls will cry and make trouble to get their pity and concern, but what I want to tell you is that this method is not suitable for boys who don't take the initiative to break up.
Let me give you an example from my life: when my friend Xiao Tong and her boyfriend are together, their feelings are still relatively stable. Children actually belong to the kind of girls with big nerves. It is almost blatant and feasible to talk to each other. When Xiao Tong quarrels, he likes to blacklist the other party, as if he has won a short victory, and the other party is not good at wasting his breath. Unless a boy kneels down to admit his mistake, he will break up.
After repeated several times, the boy finally couldn't bear it, and clearly proposed to break up, and this time his mentality was decisive, so it was useless to let the children cry.
It can be seen from here that boys are completely determined to break up, and there are other rules for children. At this moment, the crying of children can only make each other more resistant.
I told her that every time you join the blacklist, you are actually denying the other half. You don't understand men's thinking patterns. You only feel that you will get temporary happiness and enjoy the benefits of the other party's apology first. In fact, this is just the courtesy of the other party to you again and again. You make him kneel down to admit his mistake, which is undoubtedly rubbing a man's self-esteem. Now the other party has made up his mind to break up, of course.
Second, don't blindly follow the trend to save yourself.
In the process of recovery, many girls are likely to blindly follow suit to recover. I don't know why the other party broke up suddenly and decisively, and tried every means to get the other party back to me.
What we should pay attention to here is that we don't have to blindly follow the trend to save it, nor do we have to sell ourselves to please the other half better.
They want to see you really change, sister. If you cry and hang yourself, maybe that boy will never be with you again even if he is killed.
Therefore, at this time, you should be true to yourself first, don't hide it, don't learn from others, and slowly improve yourself to make yourself more and more different from before, and the other party will slowly focus on you.
If your mentality is effectively controlled after breaking up, it is not easy to release anxiety and negative emotions rashly. By this time, you have basically succeeded by 50%.
Because most breakups are destroyed by painful negative emotions, a positive attitude is the cornerstone of getting twice the result with half the effort.
Third, find your own reasons and then attract for the second time.
Habits are not formed in a day, and injuries are not caused in a day. You can't be anxious for a while. After all, he has long been reluctant to have you in his heart.
You'd better use a quiet method and mental state to solve your feelings. Whenever you collide with each other in a manic manner, objective feedback is just cold, because what they need now is not your concern and expression of love.
Leave some indoor space for anyone, let both sides calm down, and then find a suitable way to save it.
Can you take a moment to think about why you came to this place?
When you were together, it was revealed that you were attracted to each other at the beginning, and the other party's "complete abandonment" did not mean to erase all of you. You still have what caused the other person, but the other person is dead and doesn't want to say it.
When a relationship breaks up and dies, you need to calm down to find out the reason, prescribe the right medicine, and let the other person see your change, so that you can succeed.
So if you want to save your completely dead predecessor, you have to find it yourself.
Although everyone has figured out how to find their own reasons, there are also some unexpected reasons. What do you need to do with them?
1. Have a new feeling
Boys break up with you because you make your children feel too many negative emotions, and you haven't figured out that boys have new feelings for a while after breaking up with you.
But give up completely ≠ don't like it at all.
The probability of just breaking up and falling in love with another person is not too great, so it is very likely that a boy wants new feelings to heal the wounds in his heart, but he can't cheat his heart, and you also have the probability of reconciliation.
If you find that he and his old love are seamlessly connected, or there will be new emotional involvement before you break up, then I advise you to give up.
Because the motivation of the other person's emotion is freshness and sexual attraction, what you need is a sense of belonging and a long-term development trend of emotion.
He can't give you a sense of long-term development trend, and you can't give him a sense of mystery. This situation needs to be saved.
Attract boys' attention
Of course, after breaking up, the other party will not talk to you again. If you choose to harass the phone endlessly, it is really a big mistake, and the other party can only resist you more. You need to release some data signals to make the other person feel and care about your existence.
For example, in the case of communication in the form of text messages or messages, you don't have to admit your mistakes blindly, and you don't have to show your yearning for each other. You can calm your mental state and gradually transfer your own things to ease contact.
Explain your next thought or orientation, just like chatting with a good friend. There is no need to have a lot of doubts and doubts, and there is no need to ask each other several times. The best thing is that you still care about him, but keep your distance from him.
If you really change, of course, boys will care about you, and they also have doubts. Why did you learn to let go like this when you were still thinking about dying a few days ago? Is it true if you don't love?
Before they know the situation, they will pretend to inadvertently examine your personal behavior and life, so that if you have the next contact, the rejection rate will be greatly reduced.
3. The situation in Afghanistan
If you want to save it, there is no doubt that you should contact or even meet first.
After breaking up, lovers usually feel embarrassed after meeting. This embarrassment comes from knowing that you are no longer lovers, but you don't know how to locate this connection.
At this moment, someone must make a statement. As a redeemer, it is up to you to reduce the rejection and sensitivity of the other party and get rid of this embarrassing situation.
You've been waiting for a long time, and you feel you have to reposition the relationship between two people. It's probably not appropriate to be a couple now, but it won't be completely out of touch. There is no communication like passers-by. Although everyone has learned to let go, you think it's just right to be friends, so you can leave each other alone and give each other enough indoor space.
I'm sure he will be relieved to hear this. In fact, the embarrassing situation is that you don't know how to position your relationship. Once you have a clear and precise location, it is impossible to get together again. It will be much easier for boys because your overall goal is to be good friends, not lovers.
4.p & gt
The second attraction is very important. Equal to the effect of a "storefront". You were together because you were attracted to him. But at that time, you were both paper towels, and both of you just presented the best side to each other.
With the differences and disputes behind the emotions, the bright spots and temptations on you are greatly weakened, which is also a reason for your breakup, not to say that your bright spots and temptations will disappear in the eyes of others.
So "attract" the other half for the second time. Of course, after breaking up, your contact will be less and less, and you can only spread your mystery and temptation to each other when you meet.
I think that once you fall in love, it proves that you were suitable before. It's just that the triviality of daily life exposes your negative impression. When the other person sees the bright spot on you again one day, I firmly believe that it will still be attracted.
You can find your same good friend here, preferably your good friend, and let the other half know your recent movements according to the information transmitted by her circle of friends. After all, the third party is more infectious and reliable.
Or according to your own circle of friends or Sina Weibo, post some common situations, remember not to be too frequent, otherwise it will be too intentional.
Mastering these four points, maybe you should know what you should do.
Here are some tips for enhancing temptation:
(1) Learn from each other's strong points and find out what they didn't like before to make changes.
If it is saved, it needs to be targeted and change purposefully in the process of change. For example, if the other person doesn't like your untidiness, you can decorate your house to set off your own changes.
(2) attract each other again with an "unusual" gas field.
The unique atmosphere here is not to be different from ordinary people. In fact, painting or exercising is a very unique atmosphere.
If you want to get the care of the other half, you must first care about each other.
You used to think that the other person was doing something. You can try it and see if the younger generation is looking for happiness here. For example, the other half likes playing games. You can also try to play games, and maybe you can find different happiness.
④ Appearance change
Changes in appearance are usually the most obvious. You can change yourself first, such as losing weight and designing your hairstyle, which in turn will enhance your mystery.
If you want to meet, it will inevitably be awkward.
The dialogue at the beginning is more critical. The first topic discussion is best set to the other party's industry. You don't have to say it yourself as soon as you meet. The other party can't get in a word at all. It is better to have some extensibility in topic discussion, which is more conducive to the interaction and communication between two people.
You can bring in each other's current situation from photos or discussions that connect topics. For example, the other party has a pet. I can talk about what happened to my good friend's dog recently, and how did the dog get in touch with the other family recently?
If the atmosphere is too embarrassing, you can set a question to ease the atmosphere in the middle to narrow the scope of small talk, or find something interesting to discuss the topic.
For example, what good movies you saw recently and where you went to play yesterday, these topics related to daily life make the other person feel that there is no pressure to chat with you, just like ordinary friends.
If you tell interesting stories about your life, on the one hand, the other person can experience your recent daily life, on the other hand, you show different fields, and he will gradually be attracted to you, and he can chat with you if he has interests and hobbies.
If you can change the status quo and the other person wants to get along with you slowly, then there is also an expectation of redemption. But if the other party finds a new relationship immediately after breaking up, then I don't think you have much need to save it. Even if you save it, the pass rate is very low. Because in his eyes, new feelings are more dangerous and attractive than you, which is also a sense of prevention.
How to send a circle of friends to save a dead boyfriend? Every true relationship is inevitably painful and sweet, but everyone develops after stepping through this pain, isn't it?