When I opened my notes, the first sentence I saw turned out to be "understand why I insist on pain, the meaning of pain, and connect with the superego."

This sentence touched me at once and touched my memories of the past. I think every encounter is meaningful. At this moment, a person, an event, a situation, a sentence ... just like I suddenly have something to say because of a note. So, I wrote this topic: Why insist on pain?

Suffer from the "superego" that has been realized and the "superego" that cannot be realized!

I think Freud's greatest contribution is to clearly divide the personality structure into three levels: ID-ego-superego. Let us see a complete self.

The reason why we human beings cherish life and pursue it constantly is because the superego is leading the way. If you lose your superego, you will lose your direction and fall into confusion and chaos, just like animals. So how afraid we are of losing our superego!

The superego was born with the arrival of our bodies, but the superego has a pair of wings, a flying fairy, and plays hide-and-seek with the ID and the ego.

When we were born, I cried and called for the superego, so we laughed, and then in the long journey of life, we kept crying and laughing and ran forward. I cry for the superego, and the superego smiles and comforts me. I live together and make my life.

When I was born, the superego often went to find my mother. When I am hungry, cold, hot, thirsty and painful, I cry. A caring mother can always feel your call and conform to your needs. You are strong and fat, and you firmly believe that you can grow better. What about a mother who doesn't care? You can't see your little superego, you can't feel the call of the id all the time, and you don't know what your future will be like, with cold and hot discomfort and worry.

All our experiences have made us who we are now.

Pain, because everything you get is lost, persist in pain, because everything you get is persisting.

A person is lovelorn, which is painful to death. I even like Xianglinsao and tell my girlfriends again and again. You don't know how to enlighten her to "put it down and start over", but she is more painful. She will tell you that she can't forget the happiness in love. Yes, what she can't forget is that she is so excellent in love, so worthy of being loved by others and appreciated by herself. When her lover left, she wondered why she was not good enough to be loved by others. She suffers because she misses her who was good enough, and she suffers because she can't be so good now. And this "good enough" is to be with the person you love, not with yourself. She forgot that whether anyone loves you or not, you are good enough for yourself. The "superego" that has been achieved and cannot be achieved now has become the source of her pain. You were once good enough in love, and you deserve to be loved. In the future, you will be good enough to deserve better love. When the superego flies too high, you will feel pain and be anxious to call it back.

We always think that we are good enough in the eyes of others. Without the approval of others, I feel that I am not good enough.

I remember that my relationship with my best friend broke up. For more than a year, I have been trapped in deep remorse and shame. Constantly recalling the happy time I spent with my friends. I feel that I used to be so excellent and so wise. I like to be happy with my friends. However, at this point, it is gone, and the pain has buried itself, constantly shouting "What did I do wrong? Unforgettable, not allowed. " Keep telling yourself that if you give me a chance to start over, I will do better and I will change.

I am happy because my former superego has met the expectations of myself and others, and I don't want to extricate myself because my present superego has let myself and others down, hoping to reach the superego that can satisfy myself and others again. I am full of joy in the painful self-abuse and feel that I used to be so worthy of nostalgia. The superego I want in pain is so worth looking forward to, so beautiful, but I don't know where it went. Therefore, I abandoned my real self, lived in my superego and abused myself.

Finally one day, someone woke me up. "All your experiences are aimed at achieving a better you" and "Everything is the best arrangement". There is only one difference between you and others, and the difference makes you grow. You call back the "superego" that has been frightened by you, and let it fly ahead to lead you forward.

Everyone lives with trauma. But don't hurt too much.

I once heard a cruel story. A ten-year-old girl took 100 yuan from home and bought many things she likes to play. Dad found out and beat him so hard that his ears were cracked. The girl never took the money again. But her bravery became frightening. When I met a snake in the forest, everyone else ran away. Only she caught the snake, skinned it and ate it raw. Her superego soul was shattered by her father and she didn't know where to go. Being frightened out of my wits is fearless terror.

The superego is the soul you have been following.

On Saturday afternoon, I attended a lecture on "Action School-Dream List". Walking on the road, I have been thinking that my daughter should go to college to listen. Maybe I can only relive my blood boiling. As for my dream, it may be a distant thing. Most of the people present are young college students. I would have regretted it if I hadn't seen the faces of several familiar fellow practitioners.

The speaker did talk about passion, but I never felt my blood boiling, I just trembled quietly. Less than 50 years old, want to know if you are really old? How feasible these methods of realizing dreams are. The problem is that I can't find my dream, or I dare not think about it.

When I wrote down my dreams on my dream list, I actually wrote down eight. I am secretly glad that I still have a dream. When the teacher asked me to cross out what I didn't really want to achieve, leaving only one dream. What I left behind was to make my body light and fit. It is true that I have been trying to lose weight for years. Although I am 1 m 58 and weigh 63 kilograms, I don't look bloated at the age of 50, but losing weight has always been an indispensable thing in my life, as if it had followed me all my life. My superego always leads me to regain the weight when I was young, but I never seem to be very active, but I never give up. Now it's a dream. I questioned myself when I wrote it. Is this really my dream?

When the teacher asked us to share our dreams in the group, as soon as I said it, others said, let's go to the gym, which is not difficult to achieve. This is really not difficult to achieve, and I really went to the gym recently, and the effect of slimming is also obvious. I changed my dream in shame: to be an excellent psychological counselor. Is this my dream? This is a dream that I never dared to think about. I have studied psychology for three years, obtained the certificate of psychological counselor, and have been studying some consulting theories and courses, but I have never regarded this as my future goal. I know the meaning of excellence. For myself who can't completely help myself, it's crazy to want to help others, and I don't have a dream.

I have reached my destiny, and I believe it will come naturally. Don't do it deliberately, don't get tired of the so-called dream. I don't want the superego to fly too high, but I have the helplessness and pressure to look up. The superego is the soul that never leaves me. It is just above my head, and I know its existence and direction.

Being with my soul, not being far away, is the most suitable distance for me.