However, in recent years, students' traditional etiquette concepts have become increasingly weak. Influenced by bad social atmosphere, many people only strive for personal interests, ignoring the norms, responsibilities and obligations of getting along with each other, and people's etiquette quality is out of sync with economic development. However, the development of economy and the prosperity of life will inevitably attract people's attention to etiquette. Guan Zi, a famous figure in the Spring and Autumn Period, said, "Courtesy is known in the warehouse." The hierarchy of needs theory points out that people's needs can be divided into two aspects: low-level material needs and high-level spiritual needs. Self-esteem and social needs in spiritual needs are largely met through etiquette. Up to now, many people in the education circle have a lot of complaints about Locke's idea of "gentleman education", which is17th century British educator. The reason is nothing more than that Locke cultivated a gentleman of "morality, wisdom, courtesy and knowledge". Therefore, can it be said that etiquette education is a very necessary compulsory course for the real implementation of quality education? Today, with the development of economy and social progress, people are more and more deeply aware of the significance of etiquette for the all-round development of morality, intelligence, physique and beauty of the new generation in the 2 1 century and the improvement of national quality.
Etiquette is an artistic way for people to express their thoughts and feelings and reflect social life and spiritual civilization. It shows people's self-cultivation through unique language, expressions and actions, and impacts people's hearts with a special feeling. We can also show people's respect for elders, leaders, distinguished guests, friends and even strangers through special environmental arrangements, special activities and special atmosphere, so as to adapt to social norms and moral norms and promote exchanges and friendship. Whether it is the reception of national VIPs or the treatment of ordinary people, this is true. Etiquette is also reflected in the equality of personality between people, so as to affirm and praise the labor and efforts of others and make others happy. There is such a little thing that I feel deeply: after class, my chalk box accidentally fell to the ground while walking, and I bent down to pick up the chalk. A classmate came to help me pick it up. I looked at him and blurted out, "thank you, good classmate!" " "Later, I found that this classmate was particularly enthusiastic about me in the future, and he was also very serious in class, and his homework was written more clearly than before. I'm surprised. Later I read in his diary: "I am an underachiever. Teachers and students always look down on me. I feel inferior, lonely and have no fun. "Then, in this small incident, the teacher's thank you made me happy for several days. The rice is more fragrant than before, and the waist is straighter than before ... "This shows that the interaction between children and people around them needs etiquette as a medium, and the evaluation of people around them, even a greeting, will affect his personality growth. Only by letting children experience being respected, cared for and full of pleasure can they feel that their existence is decisive in this society, affirm themselves and form a sound personality.
As educators, we are faced with arduous tasks. How to educate students with excellent etiquette culture at all times and all over the world, improve their aesthetic ability and moral cultivation, and thus realize the perfection of personality? Our method is as follows.
The first is to increase etiquette classes and teach students to appreciate and feel etiquette, which is very important. In appreciation, we should first stimulate students' interest in appreciating etiquette, which is actually a sense of expectation for etiquette experience. For example, we played the video of the Tianmen military parade on the 50th anniversary of the National Day in class, and the flag-raising ceremony of the guard of honor was full of energy and uniformity. The orderly and heroic attitude of the officers and men during the review left an unforgettable impression on the students, and they felt the prosperity of the motherland in the aesthetic process and inspired patriotic enthusiasm. President Jiang said to all the officers and men when he was reviewing in an open-top truck, "Hello, comrades! Comrades have worked hard. "All officers and men responded," Hello, Chief! The scene of "bitter before sweet" made the students realize president's concern for the commanders and soldiers and the deep respect of the officers and men of the army for the chairman. Excitement, pride and other rich thoughts and feelings are contained in two simple etiquette greetings. Another example is to call on teachers to use polite language in campus culture, respect students' personality in etiquette communication, and show teachers' care for students. We are concerned that children often touch their heads, and middle school students pat their shoulders to encourage them. Facts have proved that the effect is ideal.
Secondly, the training of basic etiquette skills can not be ignored. Basic etiquette training, we take "four beauties" as the content. One is "beauty of mind". Learning etiquette should first purify people's minds and have certain cultural and moral qualities, so that students can express and create beautiful words and deeds while feeling beautiful, and abandon rude, barbaric, conceited and arrogant thoughts. Only by "self-denial" can we "reciprocate". The second is "beautiful language". Learn etiquette, strengthen polite language, and strengthen words such as "Thank you, I'm sorry, it doesn't matter, hello …" into campus language and life language. Teach students to learn the correct address forms, and treat people with polite expressions, postures and behaviors. The third is "environmental beauty". Show the most basic respect for people with beautiful surroundings. It is also possible to combine the training theme of etiquette training skills with educational purposes. For example, the etiquette training of raising the national flag can stimulate students' patriotic feelings; Etiquette training that respects personality can arouse students' self-esteem and self-love; Training freshmen in knowledge and etiquette can stimulate students' thirst for knowledge; Respecting the etiquette training of talents can stimulate students to be brave in pioneering, innovating and becoming talents.
Third, adhere to the social practice of etiquette training. It is necessary to guide students to the society and make students' etiquette learning and etiquette activities more colorful. For example, treating people in the family, respecting the old and caring for the young in the society and living in harmony in the school can exercise students' courage, enrich their experience and broaden their horizons, thus improving their aesthetic taste and moral sentiment, and enhancing their self-confidence in self-successful appreciation and pleasant acceptance by others, thus achieving good moral education results.
People can't become rich materially, but poor spiritually. Etiquette can awaken people's self-esteem, produce a kind of spiritual pleasure, and then deepen the experience and understanding of the meaning of life, and finally change in morality, sentiment and personality, and achieve the perfect personality realm of "enriching life, purifying the soul, enlightening thoughts and cultivating sentiment"