Now that I have tasted sadness, I want to say it. I want to say I'd better have a rest, but I said it's cold and autumn.
Yes, with the growth of age, people's loneliness gradually increases. There is a simple reason. The more you experience, the more you worry. If you can't adjust your mentality in time, you will be depressed too much, and loneliness will naturally occur.
For example, the loneliness brought by work is always inevitable. If you don't work, you won't get paid, but if you work, you will have constant psychological contradictions. If you can't adjust your mentality in time, your inner loneliness is inevitable.
Another example is the loneliness brought by marriage. In the past, people said that marriage was a great happy event in life. The fact is, it's lonely not to get married, and even more lonely to get married. Because not getting married is a psychological defect, and loneliness is normal. Married, family conflicts are inevitable. If you can't solve them, your inner loneliness will increase day by day. This kind of loneliness is an unspeakable loneliness.
Finally, the loneliness brought by social life. Nowadays, things that we don't understand and are unhappy abound. I can't figure it out. I can't see through it. I can be said to be with you every day. The resulting loneliness is really one after another. If you can't get rid of it in time, you will live a tasteless life.
Therefore, loneliness exists every day, and a big heart is a good hand!
My heart has no arc, and I can't see the sun, although it is brilliant.
Loneliness should have nothing to do with the year. But lonely life is the normal state of the elderly, and it is also a new social phenomenon, especially the one-child family.
Let's talk about loneliness first The older you get, the more lonely you feel. In my opinion, this is the psychological feeling of personal social communication activities and a psychological consciousness of personal self-existence.
At work, I am very busy every day. When I am happy, sad and relaxed, I always have colleagues and friends to accompany me, and I don't feel lonely.
After retirement, I gradually fade out of the circle of work and friends, suddenly quiet down, and it is a long-term lifestyle, so I will gradually feel lonely.
Therefore, after retirement, many old people go to the university for the aged, write and draw, learn poetry and sing, dance in the square dance to make friends, and take their grandchildren to do housework, so their loneliness will naturally disappear in their busyness.
Therefore, if life is rich and content is substantial, there will be no feeling of loneliness. On the contrary, doing nothing and eating all day is bound to be boring and lonely. Conclusion: Loneliness is a psychological feeling that appears every year.
From this, I think that the generation and feeling of loneliness depends on the individual's choice of lifestyle and the individual's grasp and filling of time.
As for loneliness, I think it is true that the older you get, the more lonely you get. This is the law of nature.
First, children grow up and leave home, which is the starting point of parents' loneliness.
Second, the child is married and separated from his parents, which is the beginning of loneliness.
Third, retired, at a loss, time spent in boredom, which is the acceleration of loneliness.
Fourth, grandchildren have grown up, which is rare. This is the deepening of loneliness.
Fifth, the age is too big, there are fewer and fewer people in the circle of life, and the acquaintances and friends they know have died one after another, and they are in poor health and need companionship and care. These are the most lonely stages of the individual. From psychological feelings to real life, it will be really lonely.
These five stages, in fact, the first four stages are not a problem. As long as you are physically and mentally healthy, you can live independently, and you can enjoy what you have learned in your later years, which is a good time to enjoy life and live yourself. We should not think it is lonely and pitiful, but live alone, enjoy ourselves and be happy in our later years, and our children and grandchildren can rest assured.
In the fifth stage, as long as it is carefully arranged and handled, it is also a happy time to enjoy the old age. Then there will be no loneliness or loneliness.
In a word, the generation and control of loneliness is suitable for people, and it is based on one's lifestyle and learning ability. It can be overcome as long as you work hard.
The older people get, the more lonely they feel. That's true. There are many ways to have this mentality.
Children have their own families, most of them live alone, are busy with their own work, and don't have much time to go home and have a look. It is normal for the old couple to feel lonely when they live in an empty house.
When a person gives up his career and devotes himself to a simple life of providing for the aged, it is difficult to get used to it for a while. At this stage, there is nothing to do, no communication, and most of the original friends have lost contact. As a result, the disappointment in my heart and the change of my life have also produced loneliness.
How to get out of loneliness, Xie Ling still has to be a bully. Try to go out for a walk during the day, take part in some meaningful activities and interact with some friends. Watching TV, playing mobile phones and sending videos to children at night should be an interesting life.
If you are strong and have a skill, you can re-enter the society, and you can make a difference in your old age. This kind of life is the most fulfilling and more exciting.
In fact, loneliness is also a kind of enjoyment, and it is a realm of old people. In loneliness, recalling the past, decades of life, everything is dull. Be worthy of justice and conscience, have no regrets in this life and live with dignity. In peace, a cup of tea, a book, a piece of music and a song are not immortals, but they are better than immortals. Why talk about loneliness?
Will people feel more lonely as they get older? Everyone is an independent individual. With the baptism of years, from youth to old age, do you feel lonely as you get older? To be lonely, in fact, young people are lonely. When they go out into the society and see some unfair situations or situations beyond their control, they flatter and so on. And when they have no ability, they are trying to rent a house and change the fate of their families. Will they be lonely at night when their ideal goals are realized? That loneliness is also thinking, for a better life, and turned into a driving force to meet every dawn. Life is endless.
Middle-aged people are under great pressure, such as paying the house, working and taking care of their children. Parents need to be taken care of when they are old, but we insist on it. When you work hard, everything is getting better and you realize your dream. At this time, a person's loneliness can't tell anyone's weakness, and the tears secretly shed are all joy after being strong and touching feelings, which will make you love every relative and friend around you more.
In my later years, after years of hard work, I also have some capital. At this time, I sat down and faced a cup of cool tea. With the fragrance of tea curling, the past is like the wind. Loneliness is a girl without sadness, and loneliness is a Gesang flower. After the storm, I am still as tall and straight as when I was young, but I am less flashy and become calm and elegant. When you can control your emotions, look at mountains or mountains and water, you will understand that loneliness is the normal state of life. All experiences and the past are the only way. Only with a strong heart, can we be inclusive, boating, providing for the elderly, and enjoying a warm spring in the world, bloom.
In fact, loneliness and illness in life have a certain relationship with a person's occupation or unemployment. Loneliness is a key to solving the troubles of walking in the world. When you have tasted loneliness, you will come out of confusion, face life bravely, try to say hello to people around you, and try to love every touch of life. So the older you get, the lonelier you get. We are not alone, we will always be together. Thank you for meeting you and listening!
In old age, most people are inevitably accompanied by loneliness. If it is not handled properly, it will be like an invisible sword, which will always sting people's body and mind. Many people are willing to indulge in loneliness and eventually become lonely slaves.
What is loneliness? Psychologists say that true loneliness does not mean that you live alone in a room, but that when you are in a crowd, you feel unable to communicate. Therefore, the best way to cure autism should be to break self-imprisonment and learn to communicate.
As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. In today's society, the phenomenon of loneliness is by no means a case. Why don't those "lonely people" form a "lonely alliance" in mutual appreciation, or talk, or play chess, or play the piano, or painting and calligraphy, or singing and dancing ... If so, it will be lonely!
May old friends be happy in their later years!
Yes, when people are old and girls are married, if they have sons, they will definitely work outside. Finally, only their own old people are left, very lonely. If his wife leaves another one, it will be even more lonely. What should I do? I don't have much money in the countryside. If I have money, I can send the elderly to a nursing home. The place is lively and someone cooks three meals a day for her. At night, I don't have to be alone at home. I hope the elderly who have no one to take care of at home are best sent to nursing homes. It's good to send the children outside every month to save a little.
My grandfather and father are both from Wuhan, and both sons are workers. The conditions are very good. My grandfather and father also have retirement benefits, but nobody cares. I've seen nursing homes for a long time. Every holiday, I take my grandpa and dad back for the New Year. My sons asked him if he was good at it. He speaks very well and there are many people. He plays mahjong every day and eats everything in it. Grandpa and dad said they were used to it, and I was lonely when you worked at home. So don't worry, I'm fine, thank you.
Loneliness comes from inner feelings, the contrast with others.
Age, a thing that changes with time, has no peers to play with when you are young, but parents are always happy. Will it be like this as an adult? Loneliness often comes from ignorance and self-isolation.
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Loneliness will exist with the growth of age, but everyone's environment, experience, self-adjustment ability and adaptability are different, which will eventually make a world of difference.
Being able to recognize this change, recognizing the shortcomings with others, and striving to be within the controllable range can also reduce loneliness step by step.
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Sometimes I see that others are not lonely, but I don't know where everyone is most vulnerable.
Examine yourself, reduce loneliness, and the most important thing is to go out. In the recent fire movie Green Book, the protagonist Tang seems to be the most famous pianist, but in the rain, he expressed his inner feelings and was in a dilemma between his black compatriots and whites. He looks charming, but he is the loneliest.
Everyone will be lonely, but this is a measure and your own grasp. Put loneliness at the edge so that it won't affect you.
I hope you can comment on your lonely years!
The famous writer Zhang Ailing once said: When people reach middle age, they often feel lonely. Because when you open your eyes, there are people who depend on you, but there is no one you can rely on. With the growth of age, people's loneliness will become stronger and stronger. This is not caused by subjective factors, but by real objective factors. First, there is less interpersonal communication. After not working, interpersonal relationship becomes simpler and simpler, and the relationship between colleagues and friends becomes weaker and weaker. In the end, only family and relatives are left. Second, fewer people take the initiative to contact you. Especially some leaders, from adaptation to loss, feel more lonely. Third, less entertainment. In the past, every once in a while, a few friends got together to push a cup for a change, which was enjoyable. When I am old, considering my physical condition, I am not active, active and enthusiastic about socializing. Over time, life becomes a straight line, from home to the vegetable market, and then from the vegetable market to home. Fourth, the children are not around. When children are older, they have to earn money to support their families and work hard outside all the year round, so there will be less time for family reunion, especially for the elderly who live alone, and their loneliness will be stronger. The fifth is the worry about the future. My health is getting worse and worse. When I see people around me suddenly leave because of illness, I always worry that one day this will happen and my children will not be around.
Everyone of us loves to be lively, but in fact loneliness is the normal state of life!
Before the age of 20, carefree, parents will always open all the way for you, you just need to walk flat, no pressure, happy every day, you don't feel lonely!
After graduating from college, you first entered the society, left your hometown, stayed away from your parents and familiar relatives and friends, and repeated the trivial things of life every day, with dreams and heavy burdens! On the way to adulthood, you should be mature, independent, and tell everyone who cares about you with a smile that you are doing well. But are you homesick in the middle of the night and want to talk to your parents about your worries and grievances?
The older you get, the more prepared you seem to be for everything. When you come home from work and face the empty room, you will suddenly find fewer friends. Encountered an interesting thing, eager to share, and finally found that I couldn't find anyone to share through the address book!