It suddenly occurred to me that many, many years ago, Sammi Cheng and Andy Lau filmed a wonderful love sketch, Lonely Men and Few Women. Feng Jingen, the heroine she plays, locks herself in the bathroom and screams after hearing her boyfriend's cold and heartless phone call. Everyone thought she was going to do something to hurt herself, but found her squatting by the toilet, wearing clean gloves and struggling to clean every corner of the bathroom.
Before I finished breathing, I rushed out to buy a shirt by swiping my card and bumped into my boyfriend holding another girl and saying "I love you". When she got home, she fell flat on the bed with a straight face. Her parents asked her to take out her savings and pay the down payment ... She didn't cry, didn't shout, didn't make a scene, just stood there in a daze.
Go to work as usual the next day and turn the tide at the company meeting.
Sammi Cheng played Feng Jingen vividly. She is very thin and a little neurotic. She is an office girl everywhere in Central and a true portrayal of every woman who works hard in a big city. We encounter such disgusting things every day, and we can only vent on hobbies that don't disturb the people: shopping, cleaning, burying our heads in sleep ... When we get up the next day, we are still heroes. (of course, you can't eat and drink at will. Sammi Cheng once put forward in "Slimming Men and Women" how much it costs to eat yourself into a fat man when you are lovelorn. )
The black spots on facebook, which are not concealed or explained, are the most typical Sammi Cheng-style port female wind. How many times have we heard her sing "How to cry? There is no basis for crying "... Although the ego in my heart is curled up and crying, there is always an alarm in my heart: cheer up and be decent, no one can love me, but I can't lose my strength.
We have learned a lot of survival skills from a Hong Kong girl like Sammi Cheng. We live tenaciously and gracefully, love ourselves but calmly, and then love others.
In the lovelorn songs, most female singers in Taiwan Province province express their feelings, which are sentimental because of the weather environment, while female singers in Hong Kong are actually linked to work wages.
Sammi Cheng quit the record company and produced a song "I can't bear to part with you", which sounded like love, but was sung to her old club. "I can't bear to part with you, but I want my freedom. * * * You spend it in an ordinary way, not enough for me alone. "
You can't forget the past days, but you have to make your own decisions about the future development, and the serious things are yard by yard.
Miriam Yeung also sang in "Yi Shu said", "Don't complain about bleeding from the bottom of my heart, you can only vomit blood if you concentrate too much on your work" or "My way to survive", "I have my parents to worry about, my career has a future, and I can still live without ambition."
You have to live if you can't die, your parents have to take care of you, and your career has to continue. How many people walked on the road in Central one after another? The traffic lights clicked and the world changed instantly.
The first rule of Hong Kong women's survival: the world is big and the work is big.
In those unforgettable TVB TV dramas, forensic doctors, lawyers, policemen, pastry chefs ... Every woman has a career that she loves and strives for, and love is just a part of life. It is icing on the cake, but there is no need to live or die.
The best cases are Shi Nansheng and Tsui Hark. Like Xu Zhian and Sammi Cheng, they know little about it and go hand in hand in their work.
At that time, Shi Nansheng came back from studying in England, worked in a public relations company, and worked in a radio and television station. He looked tall and fashionable. She is a smart girl with style, wisdom and courage in the hearts of a group of intellectuals. Tsui Hark, on the other hand, is sloppy and "like a Vietnamese refugee". On the one hand, his creativity is like a torrent of rivers and seas, on the other hand, it is easy to get out of control.
The new art city film company has just been established, and the distribution and publicity are all problems. They found the formidable Shi Nansheng in those days-it was said that couples could easily get away with it when they worked together, but they saw that for many years, thanks to Shi Nansheng's overall planning, Xu Kecai was able to run amok.
It is said that John Woo once made a sequel to "The True Color of Heroes", made two films and refused to cut them. He almost turned against his boss and old friend Tsui Hark. As a result, Shi Nansheng came forward, took a counting machine, cut the film inch by inch, and the film was released. With her in Hong Kong, no one can touch Tsui Hark.
So inseparable, so interdependent, just like two sides of a coin, they become one. Tsui Hark said that Shi Nansheng is irreplaceable. She showed him many possibilities of life and gave him a clear understanding of emotions. But when Shi Nansheng was 63, they divorced. It is rumored that Tsui Hark has a crush on his assistant girlfriend who is 30 years younger than himself.
Heather was born quietly. After confirming the news of the divorce, I don't want to say anything more about their feelings. She is also his producer. Every day, she opens her eyes to go to work and knocks on the table. In 20 17, Shi Nansheng won the Lifetime Achievement Award and publicly thanked Tsui Hark. Because of his carelessness in budget and shooting methods, he forced himself to redouble his efforts and become a better producer than expected.
It was also this year that she personally admitted in an interview that she still felt sour when she saw Tsui Hark with her young new lover.
A handsome woman is not without love in her heart, but can arrange her career and love clearly.
Many people, especially women, are unhappy because they like others too easily and themselves too hard. So I often feel sorry for myself and look down on myself. But Hong Kong women only know how to accept themselves, like themselves and fulfill themselves before they can ask for a close partner.
Having been partners and lovers for many years, I can't argue about the budget one second and have dinner together the next. No one can control the ups and downs in feelings, but they have known the root cause for many years. Instead of starting a new stove, let's continue to show this harmony in our work together.
Real Hong Kong women never let themselves be short of water. Love can be projected on people and careers, and the most important thing is the pattern and the world. What she needs, from the society, from the boss, always pays off. Why do you want it from men?
That's too risky. You might as well rely on yourself.
Hong Kong has always been rich in two kinds of women: beautiful enough and cruel enough.
Most of them are beautiful, and their names appear on the cover of magazines only because they are entangled with wealthy businessmen; Those "desperate" people have propped up the entertainment circle for 30 years.
Anita Mui, Sammi Cheng, Miriam Yeung, Joey Yung, Xie Anqi, the most handsome, or wearing the name of ugly duckling, stood in front of you, never selling, and no one framed him. From the first day of his career, he saw his shortcomings in Gossip Weekly and worked hard day and night to fix them.
People love Sammi Cheng not only because of her style and excellent performance, but also because she is an effective template for life-she has never bothered anyone, and wearing size zero is not because she is born thin, but because she works hard all the year round and has not enough to eat; It's not that the popular tentacles are particularly strong, but that you can try any style without the burden of a jade girl.
After she recovered from depression, she was photographed by the media two months ago as "unicorn arm" and "pig belly". She ran hard for two hours every day, plus several hours of special training. Sure enough, I returned to a perfect state on the day of the show. The audience will not envy her, but will only admire her efforts-there are not many impossible things in the world, just to see if you are willing to do it.
Hong Kong women are sincere and hard-working, and their fists are full of meat. They are always combined with shiny materials, so they should be thin, beautiful and beautifully dressed, and their love life will never be learned.
Because we witnessed all this, when the unrest happened, we grew up with her. Although we were distressed, we didn't want to label her feelings. Although this Hong Kong woman is a bit clumsy, she is surprisingly stubborn. She has been down-to-earth living in the most grandiose world. She has been bleeding profusely since she hit the south wall, and has experienced stormy waves, but she has always shown the sparkling beauty of Xu Lai and the cool breeze of Xu Lai.
"We need to know that we are just human beings and there is no need to pose as' I am doing well' for a long time. We must know that in our lives, sometimes we are absolutely' no problem and no problem'. " This is a sentence that Sammi Cheng once wrote, and all those who love her want to tell her.
No matter how beautiful it is, it is not as expensive as you.
As for the ending of this scandal, I actually expect her to forgive him.
Don't believe in true love or anything. However, marriage is a very complicated matter, which contains too many levels of combination. Love is only one of the final decisive factors. Real marriage has many gray areas where human nature is insufficient. And Hong Kong women can best understand the complexity of marriage.
It's much like the heroine's marriage choice again and again in A Good Wife and Mother-there are so many things to be busy that there is no time to argue about right and wrong.
You can sigh "Too bad" for her. "Why don't you leave? ! ""What else does this man have? " ... but don't forget, this will always be her life and her choice. Your emotions, your condemnation and even your sympathy are of no use to her. Give her peace.
If one day, you are trapped in an unbearable life, I just hope that you don't spend too much energy to resent, complain, blame, and recall how Hong Kong women like Sammi Cheng and Sammi Cheng responded. Maybe you can find some strength.
"God is ready, and there is another comfort in cruelty."
"I'm not perfect, but you can't see how much you love beauty."