The best time to plant a tree is ten years ago, followed by now.
One thing, from the beginning, means half done. When you set out, you had already completed the most difficult part. However, at the thought of the beginning, many people will have all kinds of "small voices" in their minds. For example, when the conditions are perfect, I will start again, and then I can't start.
A European magazine conducted a questionnaire survey on the elderly over 60 in China: What do you regret most in your life? First of all, 92% people regret that they didn't work hard enough when they were young and don't want to work hard from now on.
Unwilling to start is a bad habit. Worse news, when bad habits control our behavior, can you imagine what kind of world you live in? That world must be full of lateness, anxiety, procrastination and complaints, life is fruitless, confidence is lost, and a vicious circle!
But if 70% of our behavior is controlled by good habits, then our life must be full of new sunshine, a happy breakfast, a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day, and sweet sleep time!
Habit is a repetitive behavior. There is no doubt that having good habits is good for life, but how to cultivate a college is a problem. Many people are trapped in not knowing how to start something and stick to it. We will explain it in two parts. Today's topic is a bad start, and next week's topic is how to strive for perfection and deliberately practice habits and key skills in life.
In today's lecture, I will bring you ten rules for forming good habits from bad beginnings. If you do these ten things, your biggest regret in this life is definitely not that you didn't start pursuing what you want to do. If you want to be very successful, you must listen to it.
Rule 1, give up perfectionism
Perfection is a disease. Many people often ask for perfection when they start doing something or are doing something. Once the conditions are not up to or not as good as they expected, they will delay starting or give up altogether. However, without beginning, there is no chance to finish. Only the beginning can buy us time and keep improving in the process. Start first, finish first, and then perfect.
So my suggestion is, don't be too strict with yourself, accept the imperfections in the beginning and the process, start first, and you will have time to continue doing it. Only through continuous revision and improvement can you have a perfect result.
Perfection is a result, not a beginning, not a process. In fact, every imperfect beginning and process may hide the possibility of perfection. Every difficulty and every imperfect occurrence is a gift of life.
Rule 2: Start with willpower.
You still have to start with willpower. Willpower is to control the three forces of "I want to do", "I don't want to do" and "I want to do". Like muscles, you can become stronger through exercise.
It is to make the right choice at the right time, that is, to experience what you want tomorrow and get happiness, and to choose what you want to do today and what you don't want to do is not good but particularly attractive.
Therefore, when you want to form a habit or prepare to learn a skill, first give yourself a written pledge to fulfill a military order. For example, I will get up early for 30 days in a row and read for half an hour every day for three months. You can choose to start by willpower. In this process, you choose to do what you want to do every day, and your willpower will be improved.
Rule 3: Start with one thing.
Willpower is a scarce resource, which is exhausted in A. We have no willpower in B. I mentioned the "28 Rule" many times in previous courses. I said that life should do important things and produce results in important fields.
It's the same here You must want to do a lot of things, but we are not superman. People have limited willpower, self-control and concentration, and they are busy every day. Once they get more, they get nothing.
Therefore, when you want to form a good habit, you must start with the habit that you think is the most important. Moreover, there can only be one. When you firmly form this habit, you can start a second new habit.
If you ask yourself to get up early and learn to exercise, it will be easy to forget, and even you can't do it because of unexpected situations. At this time, you are prone to frustration and inferiority complex. So I suggest you: start with "1"! Start by focusing on doing an important little thing.
Rule 4, small enough to be willing
I talked about the procrastination formula U=EV/ID in the lecture on time management 100. U stands for efficiency. There are four main variables in this formula, each of which can be measured by a scale: your confidence in the success of the task (e), your satisfaction with the whole task (v), how easily you get distracted (i), and how soon you will get paid back (d).
In fact, procrastination mainly comes from factors such as lack of self-confidence, limited by current difficulties, unwillingness to pay and unwillingness to accumulate. When the situation gets smaller, it can't be smaller, but it is small enough to be willing, and the role of these factors will be reduced.
For example, the graduation thesis that many people think of is too important for us. If you pass, you may not be able to graduate. We must write it to the highest level of our research.
It is precisely because of this mentality that I want to have a good start, but I haven't started yet. Then when the deadline comes, I have to start, and it is even more impossible to do it well. The result of crying to finish things can only be a hasty thing.
Therefore, no matter what I do and what habits I develop, my pertinent suggestion is: start with a unit that can't be smaller, find something that can be done now and immediately, and start first. For example, as long as you run, whether you run, walk or walk at first, whether it is 1 km, 3 km or 5 km.
Rule 5: Get up early and do it first.
Doing a fixed thing at a fixed time every day is to turn the habit you want to cultivate into a fixed behavior pattern, so that you will be more and more relaxed, no longer need willpower, automatically embedded in your life, and repeat the fixation every day to form a habit.
Please turn the habit you want to cultivate into a correct and regular behavior pattern. I suggest that we should try to start early every morning. First, exercise reading should be done before meals, and important things should be done immediately after eating and drinking. It is easier to repeat actions into patterns than to take actions at the same place or time every day.
If there is any shortcut to cultivate good habits, it is a fixed time, a fixed place, a fixed thing, and continue to do it every day. In the morning, our willpower and decision-making ability may be much greater than at other times. More importantly, the possibility of interference is minimal.
Rule 6: Record the punching time every day.
It won't happen without a record. Keeping a good record of forming habits and punching cards every day allows you to give yourself an objective evaluation and feedback.
Lyubyshev's "Event-Time Log" recorded his strange life and brought rich and outstanding achievements.
For example, if you want to get into the habit of getting up early, then during this time, you only pay attention to getting up early and make every effort to get up early.
You can try to get up at five every morning. As soon as you get up, you can listen to my lecture in Himalaya 100 for six minutes every day to help you get into the habit of getting up early.
At the same time, you punch in at the early hour to record your homework. /kloc-After 0/00 days, you will really be different. Although I don't recommend not going to bed early and getting up early, no matter how late you are, you should get up early at a fixed time, which can be said to be a nap in bed. When we are sleepy, we are forced to go to bed early.
Rule 7, the return is variable in advance.
There is a man who keeps monkeys. He keeps a group of monkeys. He rationed food to monkeys. The monkey's food is the fruit of the oak tree. He said to the monkeys, "I will give you three acorns during the day and four acorns at night." The monkeys were very angry. The monkey keeper changed his mind and said, "I will give four acorns during the day and three acorns at night." "The monkeys are very happy.
Therefore, it is very important to reward yourself in time. It can give yourself positive feedback and make you more motivated to stick to it and do it with your heart. You can set up incentives for yourself after the task is completed, such as watching movies, shopping, traveling and so on.
8. Match something meaningful
For example, you want to run, but running by yourself is really boring. Come on, with something meaningful, you will be more motivated.
Have you ever found that college students, many boys don't like studying, and in order to catch up with girls, they often help girls who love studying to occupy seats, and over time they find learning very interesting. For example, what if your boyfriend and girlfriend run away with you? Even to exercise and go shopping, is it very motivated?
In the process of habit formation, it is normal to feel bored and boring. At this time, I suggest you find some topics, add them, and continue to do it. Survival is victory.
9. Let's be more exciting together.
What I advocate is to announce your small goals loudly, such as getting up early for 2 1 day in a row, such as losing weight 10 kg. Announce them, find someone to help you, find someone to encourage you, find your best friend, find a group of people to do something with you, and get started. In this way, you will be particularly powerful.
I often do this, so I did what I wanted to do and let more people do meaningful things together. For example, I walk, run, marathon, do public welfare, travel around the world and so on. And it's fun to do, influence and spread.
For example, in order to travel around the world, I led everyone on foot from Guilin. Along the way, countless people have realized this wish with me. For example, I joined a running course for running, and now I have been insisting for three years, helping myself and countless people develop the habit of running once a year.
Today is 9.9 public welfare day. 20 15 began to have the idea of doing public welfare once a year and began to donate royalties for making good use of time. This year, I donated the first lecture fee of 1. I also launched a "free smart computer" to empower rural teachers of Tencent's public welfare with the True Love Fund. It's too noisy. So there is a saying that getting together is more exciting. One person can walk very fast, but a group of people can walk very far.
10, find more meaning behind it.
"Work is to get the food needed for life. Many people think so. They believe that getting paid for eating is the value of labor and the primary significance of work.
It is true that it is one of the important reasons to work in order to get the food needed for life, which is not wrong. However, do we work hard just to eat? The purpose of people's work is to improve their minds ",which is kazuo inamori's view.
It is difficult to improve a person's mind, and some monks may not be able to do it after long-term strict practice. However, there is great power hidden in the work of achieving this goal. "kazuo inamori thinks that the meaning of work lies in the latter."
When something is meaningful, we do the same thing, but we will do it differently. When doing things, it is easier to enter the flow of mind and experience concentration and growth. So I suggest that you can write down ten reasons for one thing and post them on the wall or where you can often see them.
Don't expect to become a master in three days, this is the way to ensure that you become a master in the 3000th day. Aristotle said: "what we do repeatedly every day makes us, and then you will find that Excellence is not an act, but a habit."
When we find that bad habits are a stumbling block to our offline life, we can find ways to change the bad start and get good development and good results.