Some people say that there is only one reason for confusion, that is, thinking too much and doing too little at the age when you should struggle. On second thought, I think this sentence is very reasonable. We always say that life is boring, but we don't know how to taste; We are always competitive, but in fact our vanity is too strong; We always complain, but it is our own fault!
There is an old saying: "Worry has no roots, and it is easy to learn from nature without being passive."
In fact, the root of trouble is not others, but yourself who cares too much about everything. I heard a special heartfelt sentence: "The most unhappy people in this world are those who think too much." They always use their excessive imagination and brains to make up some unwarranted questions, which makes them exhausted physically and mentally!
A famous American psychologist also said, "Overthinking is a disease." Many troubles are caused by thinking. Times are hard and life is not easy, so why bother yourself? When things are over, there will be another world!
I once saw a netizen's self-report on Zhihu, saying that she accidentally added it to the WeChat of an elder whom she admired very much. At first, they chatted happily, but suddenly the other party didn't return her message. She began to think, did she say something wrong and make her predecessor angry? Or is chatting with her so boring that the seniors don't want to talk to her anymore? Or do you think you don't deserve to hack her directly? My mind is always thinking about bad things, so I am absent-minded in everything I do. Suddenly, more than an hour later, she received her predecessor's WeChat: "Sorry, I was just outside, and my mobile phone was dead!
Someone said, "More than 80% of the troubles in life are caused by thinking too much." Because we think too much, we will complicate a simple problem and even create a problem that doesn't exist at all, thus getting ourselves into endless trouble. It seems that the netizen in the story made up a tortuous drama to torture himself just because the other party's mobile phone was dead. People who think too much are really tired, and sensitive people are the easiest to break their hearts. In fact, others haven't returned a message, just an ordinary "hehe" or an exclamation circle of friends, and they will sit in the right place, thinking that the other party is targeting themselves, and then their hearts are broken. Some people's excessive sensitivity and care are all diseases, which will make people live like frightened birds!
A famous American psychologist once did an experiment in which a group of experimenters wrote down all their troubles in the next seven days and put them in a box. After three weeks, I found that 90% of my troubles didn't happen. Then he threw the rest of his troubles into the carton, but after three weeks, he found that those troubles were no longer troubles. The troubles you think may not happen; Even big problems have their own solutions.
Stevenson put it well: "One should abandon those disturbing distractions and focus on the road of life under one's feet." You can't stop those who should come, and you can't ask those who shouldn't. If you think less, you will have less troubles; Overcome it and happiness will come. When you adjust your mind, life is free everywhere!
Why should life be entangled? It's sunny when you think about it, troubles are born of your heart, and difficulties are created by yourself. The so-called troubles are much ado about nothing. Open your heart, you will feel at ease! There is a proverb in the west: "the same thing, if you want to open it, it is heaven, but if you can't open it, it is hell." Heaven and hell, but the happiness between people's thoughts is actually not difficult. It is blessed to think about it. Think about it and you'll find a way!
As the saying goes: if you walk too fast, your feet will get tired, and if you think too much, your heart will get tired! If you think too much, you will be tired. If you think too much, you will care too much about other people's feelings and ignore your real needs. People live a lifetime, don't be hard on yourself, be optimistic in everything and live simply. Let the heart become simple, and people can live easily!
Life is easy, life is easy, but life is not easy. Don't worry, don't think too much. A person's life is short. The most important thing is to be alive, happy, relaxed, heartless, and make them happy and relaxed. Think about everything, relax, as long as you are safe and healthy, plain and stable!