Anxiety is the product of human evolution. Moderate anxiety helps human beings to cope with danger and keep alert to the uncertain factors around them. Such as exams, competitions, etc. All need moderate anxiety to help mobilize the whole body function and improve performance. So anxiety itself is positive.
Generally speaking, when we feel nervous and anxious, we can first perceive what kind of physical feelings such emotions bring us. For example, be aware of your breathing, whether it becomes urgent, whether your heart beats faster, and whether your hands and feet are tight. At the same time, I told myself that I clearly felt these changes in my body, and I accepted these physical reactions and stayed with them for a while. Then, try to focus on breathing, keep breathing steady, make breathing slower and deeper, and keep breathing for a while. Usually, the general tension and anxiety will be relieved by this awareness.
Of course, we will inevitably encounter exciting events beyond our living ability. If you have difficulty in coping, which has seriously affected your normal life and work, and you feel that you can no longer rely on the help of yourself or your family and friends, it is recommended to find a professional psychological counselor and seek help. Through the process of psychological counseling, we can understand our own coping style and improve our coping ability and methods.
In impermanence, what will never change is change. Only by improving your inner strength can you keep changing.
Above, I hope to help you.
When you are too nervous, you can do something to divert your attention, such as thinking about something happy, listening to music and chatting with others.
If you need to relieve tension, there are several ways:
1, it is recommended to do relaxation training, that is, after lying in bed every night, relax your limbs, clench your fists with both hands, clench your fists again, and hold it for 10 second until you can no longer clench your fists, and finally count down to 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3. It is recommended to do it about 5 times a day;
2, relax on the third line, sit on the bed every night, do yoga cross-legged, feel the three lines on both sides, before and after, focus your thoughts on the acupuncture points and relax the acupuncture points;
3, exercise, there is no problem with the heart and joints every day. It is recommended that you exercise for half an hour every day, and keep your heart rate at 1 10- 120 times/minute for about half an hour. If you insist on it every day, it will have a very good effect after one month. There are other sports recommendations, such as five-element music therapy, yoga, Tai Ji Chuan;
It is recommended to have sunshine every day. If possible, you should be exposed to the sun for 2 hours every day. Pay attention to sun protection and wear a hat in summer.
I just want to tell you what I'm going through. If you are nervous, you can ask yourself:
Life is just a few decades, and I am in my thirties before I know it. Except for the pension time after the age of 60, I only have 20 years to work hard for myself! ! I haven't met anything in these 30 years, and there is nothing I can't pass! There is nothing to be afraid of! There is nothing to be nervous about! Others can, so can I! The more nervous you are, the more afraid you are. Learn to express your thoughts loudly, and the effect will be very good!