This is a story full of tragedy. From the day they fell in love, they were separated from each other, and often the old robbery did not go away, and the new robbery was born again, full of bitterness and desolation. However, they are firm and persistent. They stayed on the moon for nine days and went to the five oceans to catch turtles. Their feelings remained unchanged. Thus captivating countless readers.
However, what I want to say is that, just like Yang Guo and the girl, during this long and arduous journey, we unconsciously fell asleep. Consciously or unconsciously deceived to varying degrees. This kind of deception does not come from the author of the novel-perhaps the author is deceived like his protagonist and readers-but from the "illusion of love", from human nature and its love psychology.
Are Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girls Really Worth Worship? The answer is probably no. At least not completely sure.
This is not because Yang Guo is a few years younger than the little dragon girl, nor because Yang Guo lost an arm and the little dragon girl lost her virginity-all the authors of these novels have arranged satisfactory solutions one by one, and the protagonists have indeed overcome these trivial obstacles.
The real love crisis between Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girl is the extreme opposition of their personalities, the extreme contradiction between their life ideal and their favorite lifestyle. In essence, they are completely two kinds of people, belonging to two completely different worlds. They came together by accident, a trick of fate, and their love was probably a misunderstanding, an unconscious self-deception.
Yang Guo has no passion for the little dragon girl.
"opposites attract" may be the first important reason for this misunderstanding. The "opposite sex" here not only refers to the gender differences between men and women, but also includes the personality differences between men and women. We often see a lively and cheerful person falling in love with a quiet and steady person, a smart person falling in love with a wooden and resolute person, an extrovert falling in love with an introverted person and so on. And they all have a relatively happy ending, which can even be summed up as a "law", that is, opposites attract and coexist. We don't deny this, but we also admit that the complementarity of personality is more favorable for the harmony or compromise of love and marriage. But let's not forget that the natural admiration for the "other pole" figure stems from an ancient aesthetic rule, that is, watching the fire from the other side. We will always find that things that are different from ourselves and far away from ourselves are better than those around us, in front of us and familiar. We are always easily confused by what we don't understand and what we don't have (never seen or seen). But once we "get", once this aesthetic distance disappears, the situation will be very different. This is roughly the case with Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girl.
In the ancient tomb, the two only felt that caring for each other was the proper meaning between master and apprentice. Since there are only two of them in the tomb, if they don't take care of each other, who will?
Interestingly, the little dragon girl left Yang Guo for the first time because Yang Guo didn't understand love at all:
Little dragon girl primly said, "why do you still call me aunt?" Don't you really take me seriously? " When she saw that Yang Guo didn't answer, she became anxious and trembled: "Who do you think I am?" Yang Guo said sincerely, "You are my master. You pity me and teach me. I have sworn that I will respect you and listen to you all my life. " The little dragon girl shouted, "Don't you treat me as your wife?"
Yang Guo never thought that when she suddenly asked him, he was so flustered that he didn't know how to answer. He murmured, "no, no! You can't be my wife. How can I deserve it? You are my master and my aunt. " The little dragon girl trembled with anger, and suddenly, with a "wow", she spit out one mouthful blood. (the seventh time)
There was a slight misunderstanding. Ouyang Feng found Yang Guo and went to the acupoint of Little Dragon Girl like crazy (at that time, he was undressing with Yang Guo to practice the Jade Girl Heart Sutra), and was taken advantage of by the Quanzhen Taoist Yin Zhiping who had admired Little Dragon Girl for a long time. The little dragon girl thought it was Yang Guo, so she lost her virginity. When Yang Guo found the little dragon girl, Yin Zhiping had already left. Yang Guo was puzzled, but the little dragon girl thought that Yang Guo was crazy and irresponsible. So, when she saw that he still didn't call her "wife" (she thought Yang Guo had her), she was angry and annoyed. She wanted to kill Yang Guo, but she couldn't bear it, so she turned and ran away from him.
But Yang Guo really doesn't know the cause and effect. I don't know how I offended Master, and I don't understand, "Why does she look so special? One moment she is tender and lingering, and the other she refuses to complain?" Why do you say you want to be your wife? Don't call her aunt. "I can't figure out why, but I thought," This must have something to do with my adoptive father. He must have offended master. "
Yang Guo has only love for his master, Little Dragon Girl, but no love for sex. There is a relationship of closeness and attachment, but there is no passionate love impulse.
He was a child then. I don't know love, I don't know sex, and I don't know the difference between the love between men and women and the love between teachers and apprentices and aunts and nephews.
After the little dragon girl left him, in the process of looking for the little dragon girl, she gradually realized the little dragon girl's requirements for men and women. Therefore, in the process of pursuing the "girl in white" (the little dragon girl is always dressed in white), he met Lu Wushuang and Wan Yanping and regarded them as the phantom of the little dragon girl.
He thought (we all thought) that he was in love with the little dragon girl, but he didn't know that the little dragon girl was just an illusion: the illusion of love. This illusion was created by his heart in Seeds of Love.
Three reasons why Yang Guo's little dragon girl will not be happy.
We said that Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girl would not be happy. There are several reasons for this.
First, Yang Guo is an affectionate person, while Little Dragon Girl is a "heartless" person. -This is the crystallization of her grave-robbing career and the necessary foundation of her martial arts. -There are advantages and disadvantages of "twelve less, twelve more" in the ancient tomb school: "think less, think less, desire less, talk less, laugh less, worry less, be happy less, be happy less, be angry less, be good less, and be evil less. Doing this 12 times or more is the cost of health care. Too much mental laziness, too much mental loss, too much fatigue, too much shortness of breath, too much laughter, too much liver damage, too much worry, too much fear, too much joy, too much anger, too much confusion, too much obsession, too much anxiety. If you don't divide these twelve or more, you will die. " (back to the 39th)
Obviously, the little dragon girl practiced this trick very well, otherwise she could not have grown up in the ancient tomb, especially she could not have lived alone in the ruthless bottom 16 years.
Secondly, Yang Guo is a passionate, lively and intense person, while the little dragon girl is a quiet and claustrophobic person. This inevitably leads to the great contrast and conflict of their lifestyles. Yang Guo once said, "Yes, it is better to be bitter and sweet than not to be bitter and sweet. I can only be crazy, but I can't live a quiet life with my wife "(the 29th time). Little dragon girl is just the opposite. The so-called "clear water means no fish, and clear people mean no disciples." Little dragon girl is weak and empty. How can she be a companion?
Thirdly, Yang Guo belongs to this miserable life, while the little dragon girl belongs to the ancient tomb. She is like a ghost and a fairy. In a word, she belongs to an empty valley, a unique field, vases and flowers in a greenhouse. Once the world is stormy, she will panic and lose her nature, such as falling into hell.
In nature, the little dragon girl is a fairy on earth (only in novels can there be such a character), while Yang Guo is an affectionate, lively, changeable and extreme human hero. The little dragon girl loves Yang Guo because of Yang Guo's deep attachment and constant "pursuit" (she often avoids or escapes); Yang Guo's love for the little dragon girl is to look at the scenery on the other side and chase the light and shadow, which is more attractive than the desolate world. Their love began with the loneliness and nature without outsiders in the ancient tomb, and then went through hardships, life and death together, and dust robbery. On the contrary, it is particularly colorful, which strengthens the significance of pursuing itself and exaggerates the degree of emotion.
Of course, you can only put forward your own questions and opinions, and you can only analyze or synthesize them according to your own ideas. We can't and can't "judge": Do they have love? Do they feel happy? Can they live a quiet and peaceful life together? None of these novels were written, and we are not Yang Guo or Miss Xiaolong herself, so we can't judge. These are things that no outsider can judge, because love and happiness are psychological feelings. How do you feel? You know what you are going through. This is the mystery and attraction of love.
We can only say that at least a considerable part of their feelings are caused by separation, inspired by expectations and consolidated and promoted by hardships. We can only say that these two protagonists are both people with amazing perseverance. Especially in Yang Guo, the little dragon girl was quiet for a long time because she didn't want anything.
However, in any case, we still want to thank Jin Yong, who wrote this kind of love story. It shows the truth of human psychology that "the more things you can't get, the better you feel and the more you want", and profoundly shows the secrets of human emotion and humanity.