If Zhu Guofeng wants to die in his own house in his later years, but he wants to get rid of loneliness, I think having an old neighbor who can chat with you every day is likely to reduce his loneliness in his later years and increase his sense of security in life. "Who is most likely to come to talk to you every day?" I've been thinking a lot about this problem recently. My mother's foreign nurse aunt left without saying goodbye, and my mother rejoined the ranks of "elderly people living alone" One night, when I got married and came home with me, I saw my mother slowly leafing through the faded old photo albums. I feel sorry for my mother's loneliness in living alone, and I can't help asking her, "Mom, are you bored at home alone?" "I didn't expect my mother to look up at me and say with a smile," Socks, after my aunt left, mother Chen came to accompany me every day. Mother Chen is an old neighbor and has been in contact with her for more than 40 years. They are the first generation of residents when this community was just built. On the way to being a mother and aunt, they left many marks on each other. After Uncle Chen's death, Mother Chen began to live alone, and even gave her ID card, seal and other important items to her mother for safekeeping. My mother used to be accompanied by foreign nurses, and I didn't pay much attention to the visits of these old neighbors. Now, my mother has returned to the ranks of elderly people living alone, and I feel precious for the daily visits of my old neighbors. Because when I am old, living alone, too weak to be sent to the sunshine center, or rejected by the sunshine center, is there anyone who can come to talk to you every day? Many people think of old friends first. I found in popular articles on the Internet that modern people have high expectations for growing old with their friends. But the reality is that when life is about to see sunshine, old friends may move, emigrate, or even get older for several years, despite his brilliance. My mother often looks at an old yellowed photo taken by several sisters in the heyday of the hair salon. My mother pointed to the people in the film and said with infinite sigh, "This one has been gone for more than ten years, and this one left earlier ....." Those who are still alive are either not working well or are sent to nursing homes by their children, and they can only call occasionally to say hello. (pixabay) So, if you want someone to chat with you every day when you are old, can you expect your brothers and sisters who grew up together? Grandpa Liu has five brothers, but they live in the north and south of Taiwan Province Province. Brothers and sisters are like cowherd and weaver girl. They meet once a year in the "Queqiao", just in front of the tomb of Qingming Festival. Perhaps there is no ancestral property to compete for. Grandpa Liu's extended family lived in harmony, but more cases were brought to court, and family disputes even extended from the first generation to the third generation. "Brothers live next door, litigating and counting property" is the latest social news. When brothers and sisters with the same inheritance rights are torn apart, even if they live next door, it is too late to fight again. How can we expect the elderly to be accompanied by their families? If Zhu Guofeng wants to die in his own house in his later years, but he wants to get rid of loneliness, I think having an old neighbor who can chat with you every day is likely to reduce his loneliness in his later years and increase his sense of security in life. "Who is most likely to come to talk to you every day?" I've been thinking a lot about this problem recently. My mother's foreign nurse aunt left without saying goodbye, and my mother rejoined the ranks of "elderly people living alone" One night, when I got married and came home with me, I saw my mother slowly leafing through the faded old photo albums. I feel sorry for my mother's loneliness in living alone, and I can't help asking her, "Mom, are you bored at home alone?" "I didn't expect my mother to look up at me and say with a smile," Socks, after my aunt left, mother Chen came to accompany me every day. Mother Chen is an old neighbor and has been in contact with her for more than 40 years. They are the first generation of residents when this community was just built. On the way to being a mother and aunt, they left many marks on each other. After Uncle Chen's death, Mother Chen began to live alone, and even gave her ID card, seal and other important items to her mother for safekeeping. My mother used to be accompanied by foreign nurses, and I didn't pay much attention to the visits of these old neighbors. Now, my mother has returned to the ranks of elderly people living alone, and I feel precious for the daily visits of my old neighbors. Because when I am old, living alone, too weak to be sent to the sunshine center, or rejected by the sunshine center, is there anyone who can come to talk to you every day? Many people think of old friends first. I found in popular articles on the Internet that modern people have high expectations for growing old with their friends. But the reality is that when life is about to see sunshine, old friends may move, emigrate, or even get older for several years, despite his brilliance. My mother often looks at an old yellowed photo taken by several sisters in the heyday of the hair salon. My mother pointed to the people in the film and said with infinite sigh, "This one has been gone for more than ten years, and this one left earlier ....." Those who are still alive are either not working well or are sent to nursing homes by their children, and they can only call occasionally to say hello. (pixabay) So, if you want someone to chat with you every day when you are old, can you expect your brothers and sisters who grew up together? Grandpa Liu has five brothers, but they live in the north and south of Taiwan Province Province. Brothers and sisters are like cowherd and weaver girl. They meet once a year in the "Queqiao", just in front of the tomb of Qingming Festival. Perhaps there is no ancestral property to compete for. Grandpa Liu's extended family lived in harmony, but more cases were brought to court, and family disputes even extended from the first generation to the third generation. "Brothers live next door, litigating and counting property" is the latest social news. When brothers and sisters with the same inheritance rights are torn apart, even if they live next door, it is too late to fight again. How can we expect the elderly to be accompanied by their families? It's easy for old neighbors to get together every day, so I think if you want to have a chat object that comes to your door every day, you should find it from your neighbors, just like my mother's old neighbor and good neighbor: mother Chen. Mother Chen's legs and feet are actually not very neat, but they degenerate slower than my mother's. When she learned that "leaving her job and absconding" was also a person's life, Aunt Chen began to accompany my mother every day, either in the morning or in the afternoon. Although the two old people lived alone, they chatted with each other every day, and the long day passed quickly. Later, I also found out that mother Chen wouldn't mind my mother repeating the regret that her life was delayed by grandpa's dislike, because mother Chen might have had a similar experience. And mother Chen, like my mother, is also "forgetting while talking", and neither of them will get tired of repeating the old topic. In the common life experience, they are actually healing each other and letting go of loneliness. Many elderly people who live alone are only accompanied by televisions and radios, but two-way communication with temperature can slow down the deterioration of dementia more than televisions and radios that receive information in one direction. In addition to companionship, Ms. Chen also played the role of "safe visit" invisibly. Before hiring a foreign nurse, my mother once fell on the floor in the middle of the night and lay down until dawn. Because she can't get up or climb back into bed by herself. Now with the daily visits of old neighbors, my mother's sense of security has increased a little. The companionship and visits of old neighbors are precious and priceless. You know, in the new long-term payment method, "safety watch" and "companion service" have prices. The service of "Safety Watch" numbered BA 18 includes: "Be on duty at the case home and pay attention to the abnormal situation". If it is the first hour of the day, the payment price is 400 yuan, and it is only for people with mental retardation. In other words, even if you want to "click" this service for my mother who lives alone, it is not qualified. There is also a "escort service" numbered BA20, which includes: "Watching with the case, or reading paper or electronic news or letters". With 1 hour as 1 payment unit, the price of a payment unit is 350 yuan. After 1 hour, the price paid every half hour is 175 yuan. Although mother Chen didn't show my mother any paper or electronic news, she provided more warm chat and care every day. Mother Chen's "safety watch" and "companion service" are precious and priceless in my heart. If you want to die in your own house in your later years, but you have to get rid of loneliness, I think it is necessary to have an old neighbor who can chat with you every day. This may reduce your loneliness in your later years and increase your sense of security when you live alone. But I also know that neighbors mean more opportunities for friction, which reminds me of an anecdote in the Qing Dynasty. During the reign of Kangxi, Zhang Fu repaired this mansion in Tongcheng, Anhui. Because of the border issue, we had an argument with our neighbor Wu Jia. Both sides believed that the adjacent passage should be their own, so they sued the county government. Zhang Fu quickly wrote a letter to Zhang Ying, the then minister of rites, hoping that Zhang Ying could use her authority to influence the outcome of the lawsuit. I didn't expect dr. zhang to reply: "A thousand miles of books are just walls. Why not make him three feet taller?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. The family received a reply, and if they realized anything, they offered to give up three feet of open space. The Wu family was deeply moved and stepped back three feet to make way, resulting in the famous "Six-foot Hutong" in Tongcheng. It is reported that Emperor Kangxi also gave memorial archways in recognition of his good reputation of making way for his neighbors. Modern land is narrow and dense, so it is difficult to reproduce the story of Liuchi Lane. On the contrary, because it occupies parking spaces, flower pots, shoe boxes, this and that, there is more friction. However, as long as we think of the antidote to the loneliness of the elderly, or the sense of security of the elderly, the answer may be that we are close neighbors, and maybe we can fight less. Think about it, do we always treat our neighbors as air? Or decades of neighbors meet in the stairwell, at most just a faint nodding acquaintance? How did my mother and Chen's mother change from harmonious neighbors to interdependent wives? It turns out that in their early years, they were all mountain friends of community morning sports. They met countless mornings together in the back of the community; Gather firewood together in the forest and enjoy a pot of hot tea. If you don't have the opportunity to do morning exercises with your neighbors and want to find a chat partner who will take care of each other when you are old, you can also seize the opportunity to give timely help. I remember that Typhoon Li Na ravaged Taiwan Province Province, and the virgin community was also the hardest hit. My mother lived on the first floor and was rushed in by a flash flood. At that time, many old neighbors came to lend a helping hand, some invited to stay and take refuge, some sent buckets of drinking water, and some took away dirty clothes every day ... These old neighbors who took the initiative to lend a helping hand had a friendship of * * *, and the possibility of taking care of each other when they were old was much higher than that of a nodding acquaintance. As the saying goes, "1000 yuan to buy a house, 10 thousand yuan to buy a neighbor." In fact, no amount of money can buy an old neighbor who can chat with you every day. You must start looking hard before you get old. 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