The reporter learned that the boy's name is Chen Chen and he is 14 years old this year. When Chen Chen was four years old, Chen Chen's father and Chen Chen's mother divorced on the second day of studying in a middle school in Lin 'an. Chen Chen lived with her father for the next ten years.
A few months ago, Chen Chen looked very tired in front of his father. Chen Chen's father said that last August, his son told him that he didn't want to study. At this time, the father found that his son had developed a very serious weariness of learning, and he felt that his son's idea was very dangerous.
So my father came up with this idea when there was no other way. That is to drag my son to the construction site where he works to experience life. On the first day, Chen Chen smiled like a hippie and found it very interesting. The next day, Chen Chen felt a little tired of doing it, but in the end he gritted his teeth and left. On the third day, Chen Chen wanted to give up. Chen Chen's father told the contractor to be strict with Chen Chen. On the fourth day, chenchen fell to the ground with blood bubbles on his hands, which led to a scene in the video.
Chen's father said that he could clearly feel that his son's attitude towards learning had changed greatly. During that time, all he said was study. In the face of children who are tired of learning, the father is really helpless at this time, so that his son can re-understand why he should learn in his own way. Chen Chen's father said: "My personal opinion is that at least children should change their cognitive attitude towards learning!"
Dad said that it has been eight months since this incident. He thinks the child is much better than before. He joked with his son the other day that we would not study. In any case, we can't study and work hard. The son said decisively, "What if you don't let me study at my age?" What can we do? Is it really good for children's growth to take them to move bricks when they are tired?
Let's see what counselor Fan said. First of all, you should understand the deep-seated reasons why children are tired of learning. This requires more communication with children and a real understanding of their inner thoughts. First of all, you can ask your children first, are you tired of working on the construction site? Second, thank the children for their understanding of their parents; Third, ask the child what is the biggest feeling of work experience these days?
Finally, parents can tell their children that I know you are a good boy. The recent problem is that you don't like reading. Can you talk about the difficulties you have encountered? Parents should communicate with their children more, let them have their own ideas, and don't blame or oppress them too much.
Find out the causes and treatment of children's fatigue. Let children experience life personally, which is a kind of social education and a way of education. At the same time, parents need to give more care to their children's psychological needs. Only by letting them experience manual labor, although the purpose is to let children experience their father's hard work, as a child, he may not always feel his father's hard work. In fact, it is possible for children to have this kind of experience, but as parents, we need to pay attention to educational methods, know the reasons why children are tired of learning, and let him know the importance of reading.
She said: "I don't want my son to go through what I have suffered, because I lack education, so at his age, learning is the most important." Recalling his father's sweet memories, Chen Mou often felt that he didn't listen to his father and didn't study hard. As an adult, he could choose many job opportunities and felt weak.
In the field of social statistics, there are countless data to prove that education level is positively related to income level, health level, life expectancy level, mental health level, moral level and social responsibility level. Twenty-seven years ago, Zhang Juncheng, a security guard from Changzhi, Shanxi Province, was admitted to Peking University through self-study and changed from a security guard to a college student. He is called "the first security guard of Peking University".
Of course, the most fundamental hope is that one day, with the rapid development of science and technology, high-quality educational resources will be fully enjoyed, society will accept diversified talents, enterprises will no longer rely on academic qualifications for employment, parents will no longer worry, and children will no longer work so hard.