According to the logic of Confucianism, if Zhao Haoqi of Qin State can't live in harmony with the closest people, and can't use moral power to influence their shortcomings, how can we talk about governing Qin State?
From the motive point of view, good people are well-intentioned and bad people are malicious, but people are separated, so it is not easy to distinguish good people from bad people at a glance. A good minister is a villain.
Interpersonal skills
Mencius: "As far as inferiority is concerned, it is also a crime." It means to speak according to your own identity and not to cross the line. Not in its place, not for its politics. Although Fan Ju is a despicable person, he pays attention to his priorities-from the beginning, he has been thinking about how to replace Wei Ran. When he first met Zhao Xiang, the king of Qin, he only analyzed Wei Ran's mistakes in national strategy, which was fair and reasonable. When Fan Ju became the confidant of Zhao Xiang, the king of Qin, it began to stir up. The villain speaks so calmly and pays attention to rhythm and discretion. Of course, a gentleman cannot speak lightly. Jia Yi is a negative example, so a young and talented person is outstanding in everything, but as long as he sees a problem, he will say it at once, which will certainly make the old minister jealous. Smart people know how to hide their emotions and opinions.
A thoughtful person should express his opinions and hope that these opinions will be adopted and achieved results. Privately expressing suggestions is called repairing Taiwan, and publicly expressing opinions is called dismantling Taiwan. A gentleman often doesn't care about the way he speaks when his moral consciousness rises, because he is doing the right thing, sitting upright and doing good things for each other sincerely. In order to achieve some ulterior purpose, the villain must carefully plan his own way of speaking, relax moderately, advance and retreat moderately, be as quiet as a virgin, and move like a rabbit. Fan Ju won and Jia Yi lost.
When he heard that he wanted to take his head, he abandoned his post as prime minister of Wei and went to Zhao. If you don't clean up Zhao in time, your momentum will be lost, which is not conducive to your prestige. Therefore, Zhao must be punished.
"Touching the Dragon", originally meant as "Warring States Policy", is vivid in image and rich in details, much like what the novelist said, all to set off the clever persuasion skills of touching the dragon.
Talk about daily affairs
It is said that when Touchdragon entered the door, the Empress Dowager was still full of gas and was completely on alert, so the first thing Touchdragon had to do was to calm the Empress Dowager down and relax her vigilance.
The easiest thing for ordinary people to say at this time is: "Empress Dowager, please calm down." Of course the truth is right, but the effect will only be counterproductive. Therefore, the expression "please calm down" is listed as taboo when training employees in the service industry today. Mo Long gives a textbook-level solution: slow down, change the topic and chat with others.
Touch the dragon and walk slowly, sit down slowly, apologize for being clumsy, and then care about the health of the queen mother. The topic of health preservation is an eternal social currency for middle-aged and elderly people. The queen mother's mood really eased down, saying that she couldn't walk well, moved by a chariot, and her appetite was not very good. She only eats a little porridge every day. Then, Mo Long began to chat with the Queen Mother, saying that his youngest son, Shu Qi, was old and loved him very much. Although he was not very successful, he hoped that the Queen Mother would allow him to make up for the shortage of palace guards. The queen mother agreed.
Mo Long replied: This child is 15 years old. Although he is still young, he really wants to arrange his future when he is alive.
Yes Touch the dragon is like this, inadvertently aroused the queen mother's * * * sound. Sure enough, the Queen Mother asked, "Do you men love your sons, too?" Mo Long replied, "More than one woman." The queen mother smiled and said, "Of course, women love their sons more."
In this way, Touchdragon set a trap for the Empress Dowager step by step, and because the defense of the Empress Dowager has been withdrawn, it was gradually introduced into the ambush circle by Touchdragon. At this time, Touchdragon threw out another sentence that would definitely cause the Queen Mother to refute: "I think the Queen Mother loves her daughter Yan more than Chang." The Queen Mother really retorted, "You are wrong. I love An Jun more."
Touch the dragon and close the sleeve
Touchdragon began to take back condoms: "Parents love their children and will make long-term plans for their children. When you send Yan Hong to get married, you are particularly reluctant to let your daughter get married. When Queen Yan got married, you still missed her very much, but every time you offered sacrifices, you prayed that she would not be divorced by her husband's family. Isn't this for her long-term interests, and I hope that her descendants will be princes from generation to generation? " It needs to be explained here: Zhao's daughter married the prince, so she is called the prince.
Touching the dragon continues to give examples, looking at the world from a domestic perspective, saying that since the founding of Zhao, no matter which country, no descendants of a monarch have survived to this day. The reason for this phenomenon is that these people are rich and powerful but have no credit. At this point, the topic finally turned to Chang: "The Queen Mother gave Chang rich land and precious ritual vessels, but did not give him the opportunity to make contributions to the country." One hundred years later, why did Chang stand in Zhao? Therefore, I think you are too short-sighted to Chang. You love Chang more than Yan Hou. " However, Zhao finally sent him to Qi as a hostage in exchange for Qi's reinforcements, so Qin withdrew.
The experience gained from special cases is not universal.