Everyone will struggle with such a thing all his life, that is, is it good to be gregarious or unsociable?

In the eyes of some young people who have not set foot in society, getting along with others must be the best. Otherwise, without friends, isn't life boring?

This idea is very common among young people. Because they have never seen what the human heart is and what the real world is.

However, when people reach a certain age, in fact, people's ideas will change greatly or slightly.

Especially after someone is murdered, then this person's ideological consciousness will be more profound. In addition, their ideas will change 180 degrees.

There is a saying that is very good. You don't know the reality without being beaten.

The superficial social story will tell you that you'd better get along with others, otherwise you'll only become a loner and be excluded by most people around you.

And the deep social story, that no one will tell you. Because all this needs people to feel, experience and experience.

In fact, gregarious and unsociable are not only related to people's loneliness, but also to people's life and future. More importantly, it is also related to people's life span.

When people get old, there is a huge difference in life expectancy between gregarious people and unsociable people.

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When it comes to the influence of gregarious on people's life span, we should actually start with the ancient wisdom of China.

The theory that China people admire most is actually the thought of Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism.

Confucianism tells the world that people should know the golden mean, don't go to extremes, and do things according to their own aspirations and intentions.

Taoism tells the world that at any time, people should follow the laws of nature and not be blinded by worldly desires and greed.

Buddhists tell the world that if people want to be blessed and become Buddhists, they must be calm, keep good thoughts, and cultivate themselves from their minds and hearts in order to reach a higher level.

This so-called golden mean, passing by, and cultivating the mind are all the only ways for us to cultivate music in Xiu De.

Even the Yellow Emperor's Internal Classic has a saying: "Abide by the gods, guide the qi at the right time, and calm your mind."

If you want to keep the essence full and full, then you have to channel your inner breath with the laws of time, nature and heaven and earth, so as to calm your heart.

And if you want to stop, if you want to feel at ease and calm down, if you want to achieve this state of mind, what that person needs to do most is not to make a sound, but to stay out of it and keep quiet.

Quiet is the beginning of people's lack of communication, and it is also the basis of people's self-cultivation.

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Many people in this world always like to fit in for some unnecessary situations, and then let themselves be unfortunate in the circle and become puppets in the hands of others.

Imagine that you are always behind other people's ass and don't even have time to think. Then where does your peace come from and how to improve your life?

Young people are not quiet, which is understandable, because they are full of youthful vigor and restless.

When people reach a certain age, if they are not quiet and calm at all, they can only be too impatient, too impulsive and full of worries.

At this time, if this person is forced by the outside world, I believe this person is not far from collapse. And how can people who have a broken heart live longer?

Cultivate one's mind and nature, which is the foundation of being a man.

Nowadays, many people are in the wrong direction, thinking that gregarious is the foundation, drifting with the tide is the foundation, and ups and downs are life. In fact, this is all their wrong ideas.

If you are too gregarious and don't live according to your own heart, then your heart will be uneasy, your thoughts will be confused, and you will be held hostage and bound by others. Can we still live in peace? Not exactly.

In fact, being unsociable is the normal state of life. Because people's fate is penetrated by unsociable people.

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Psychologists have said that if you want to keep a balanced heart, you might as well have a good dialogue with yourself; If you want to have a good attitude, you might as well accept your true self.

We just don't want to accept who we really are. We always like to watch others do things, so that we can live like puppets.

Do you think puppet's life is really happy? Is the life of a puppet really long?

We need to know a truth, that is, the puppet, no matter how well it behaves at ordinary times, its life is in the hands of others, and there is no chance to say a word.

In this way, we must understand that the way to live a long life is to get rid of the gregarious life and get rid of the forced gregarious, so as to be ourselves.

I have a very good saying, I am simple and simple, and I have few selfish desires.

When people are old, they should return their hearts and behaviors to the most primitive state. Don't think too much, don't let their desires be too strong, but keep their hearts clean and live to cultivate their own morality.

To put it bluntly, it is four words, returning to nature.

People who come to this world alone will eventually go back alone. Therefore, when people get old, they should still be free and chic, and don't be too gregarious and wronged themselves. This is the reason for longevity.

Otherwise, people will either worry about the circle today or suffer for the group tomorrow. Isn't this asking for it? It is worth thinking about.

Text/There are deer in Shushan