One is the newly invited guest in the fifth season, economist Xue Zhaofeng. Reasoning is too cute, speaking honestly and frankly, being unsophisticated and impolite, and there are countless circles.
I remember Ma Dong asked him at the beginning of the regular program, "Would you like to trade ten years of your life for the appearance of a star?" He simply replied, "Yes, because people live to be happy." He also said that when he was a child, he was very sensitive and couldn't read literary novels, so he simply didn't read them and only read objective and rational books. Therefore, he hasn't seen the movie "You at the Same Table", and he doesn't know Zhou Dongyu and Daniel Wu, and he will happily make them joke that he is the emotional intelligence bottom line of the tutor of "Qi Ba Shuo".
This is a kind of living clearly, unmoved, unmoved, simple in principle and happy.
The other is high. Set musicians, producers, directors, hosts and other multiple identities in one, but live very free and easy, quite a celebrity style in Wei, Jin, Southern and Northern Dynasties.
He was born in a prestigious school, but he was able to give up his degree in science and engineering for his favorite music career and film career, and became a famous "Tsinghua dropout". Netizens laugh at his low face value, and he can also smile indifferently. Not only does he often take selfies online, but he also helps to promote the nickname "short and tight" given by netizens. Recording "Xiao Shuo" and participating in "Qipa Shuo" are simply walking encyclopedias. All topics can be discussed by Kan Kan, and even profound things can be said to be so grounded and approachable.
This is another way to live clearly, being tempted and emotional, but then you can smile indifferently.
First, a person who knows clearly, from the appearance, is probably the kind-hearted and calm person. Because I understand, I have a lot less love and hate in my heart, and I don't have much envy and jealousy about life. I can really face the reality, and this calmness is reflected from my heart to my mental outlook. The whole person looks very comfortable and stretched.
Second, from the perspective of life, people who live clearly don't like to haggle over every ounce. For those who live clearly, the gains and losses in the world, more or less, and those who are still taking advantage of losses are all in the past, because only those who live clearly know how to do things and know how to be generous.
Third, in terms of speech, people who understand clearly are somewhat philosophical. They won't come to you to talk about poetry and distance, and they won't come to you to complain endlessly. If you talk to them about these two kinds of topics, maybe they will just laugh it off and tell you some practical and practical life survival truths.
Fourth, most people who understand have a little detached mentality. For example, those old people who compete with young people for seats on the bus, or because they don't let their seats fight with young people, should belong to people who are not sensible, although they are still so stubborn, irritable and even impulsive. Most plain people will not do such a thing in this public place, because they know how to tolerate and let go of themselves and others.
Most people who understand have extraordinary life experiences. They have either experienced any major setbacks or experienced some ups and downs in their lives, but they still love life after they have experienced them. These people are generally optimistic and open-minded
People live to understand, and their temperament naturally becomes quiet and peaceful!
I heard someone talk about someone I know the other day.
When I was young, my personality was aggressive, and I always wanted to get ahead in everything. I liked the scene of the stars holding the moon. Moreover, she once commented on herself, and emotional intelligence is unparalleled around her. Offended some people and surrounded some people. Some people say she is good, others say she is bad. People are like this, living in the world, the external evaluation can not be one-sided, everyone's evaluation comes from their own value orientation, not very representative.
There is basically no intersection with her. Not the same kind of person. And I have no conditions to communicate. People who are used to staying in the corner cannot adapt to exaggerated communication.
For many years, only to meet and nod. Although I know, I stop at knowing.
The person who mentioned her said that her evaluation standard for people now is still whether this person gets along well in the unit. If so, I think this person has lived a valuable life. If not, then this person lives a cowardly, failed and incompetent life.
A very secular standard. A criterion that is more in line with the orientation of many people in modern society. This judgment totally negates the value of others living outside the system. It seems that a person's life is only an indicator of how well he performs at work. And this is just one of the indicators of life value.
Very simple and rude values.
I thought she lived a quiet, indifferent and enlightened life. It can be seen that she is still competitive, boastful and takes fame and fortune very seriously. Still love to judge others with self-worth, and brush out your sense of existence from the comparison with others.
Smile.
People who understand probably look down on fame and fortune.
Don't compare with others. Everyone has different ways of thinking and values. In the long life, everyone is choosing the lifestyle that suits them best. As long as you are happy, it has nothing to do with others.
Don't tell others right or wrong. After living for a long time, I naturally understand that there are no easy people in this world. Even the second generation of rich second generation officials have the same troubles and are trapped by life. It is not easy to talk casually about people's right and wrong and completely ignore each other's difficulties. Must contain jealousy, hatred, contempt, contempt and other emotions. And this will lead to an objective judgment. It hurts.
Don't try to please anyone. Recently, I often think of a sentence: it is not business that catches up. No matter what kind of relationship, when one party is too eager, it will never bring good results. People of the same kind will naturally walk together. The ingratiating personality will eventually lead to the disintegration of various relationships.
Don't mind being judged. I have also heard some comments from others recently, which are not very friendly. There has always been criticism. People who are too individualistic are not allowed by mainstream values. I was confused, angry and depressed when I heard it before. Now take it lightly, as if listening to other people's business. The wind passed by the ear, leaving no trace.
Learn to reconcile with yourself. I read a high passage last year and felt deeply. He said that before the age of 48, there were three major contradictions in life: the contradiction with the environment, the contradiction with others and the contradiction with oneself. Before 48, if the first two contradictions were not solved, the script of my life had basically failed. Therefore, what people really leave behind in the end is the contradiction with themselves. People who understand will take this contradiction as their main goal to overcome. Reconciliation with yourself, reconciliation with the world.
I once read a favorite sentence.
"I like the kind of person who has experienced big waves, but still feels calm and feels that he just wet his pants when it rains. There is a leisurely power in such a person's character. It is also gentle and unhurried. "
There is another kind of person. When he meets all the difficulties that make him unhappy, he can keep his head clear through rational thinking and prevent him from falling into chaos. If the center is not chaotic, you can see the exit of the dilemma.
This state is probably a state of life and understanding. People who live clearly will naturally exude a quiet and serene temperament from the inside out. This temperament is more precious than anything else. Fame and fortune, in the long journey of life, are really just floating clouds.
There is a legend that Hitler once took a walk after dinner and found a butterfly trampled to death by the roadside. He squatted down and stared for a long time, and finally shed sad tears. Strange, some people would say, pervert, psycho. But from the perspective of human nature, this is understandable.
Psychologists have found that people can have different characteristics at the same time: meanness and greatness, malice and kindness, hate and love can be mutually exclusive and exist in the same heart. Therefore, people are the most complicated. People who really understand clearly first see through and understand the complexity of human beings, whether it is good or evil, noble or ugly, open or dark, and so on, and can accept and recognize it frankly.
A society composed of people is more complicated, and light, darkness, autocracy, democracy, hunger, war and so on can be treated calmly and rationally. Even the threats and disasters brought by nature, which is closely related to human beings, cannot be taken lightly.
Therefore, people who reach this level will have different temperament.
For example, calm down. The so-called sudden face is not surprised, and it is unreasonable to add it without anger.
For example, contentment is always happy, and poverty is also happy. In other words, sometimes there must be something in life, and there is no need to force it in life. This will reduce a lot of trouble and make you feel calm and peaceful. \t\t
For example, open-minded, open-minded. Because I see through everything in the world, I can tolerate people and know how to choose.
For another example, be kind to others and be merciful. Have a compassionate heart, be kind to all things and be kind to the same kind. In the long river of history, it is fate to meet people in a short life, which should be done and cherished.
Of course, living clearly doesn't mean being decadent, seeing through the world of mortals and doing nothing. Instead, it is just unloading the baggage and going into battle lightly, facing the complicated world with a quiet, rational and positive attitude towards life and striving for a better life.
There is such a person who comes from a rich family, his wife and children are beautiful, but he likes gambling without ideals.
Because of his gambling, the prodigal son lost his fortune step by step, became penniless, and slowly began to be a down-to-earth farmer.
Later, when his mother was seriously ill, he took it with him and went to the city for a doctor. He was arrested by the Kuomintang as a able-bodied man and released by the People's Liberation Army for two years before returning to China. At this time, the mother has died of illness, and her daughter has become deaf and dumb because of a high fever. The wife of the county magistrate needed blood transfusion to give birth to a child, and the son was bled to death by the doctor. My daughter married a good family and soon died of postpartum hemorrhage. His wife also died immediately, leaving him alone with his son-in-law and grandson. Later, my son-in-law died unexpectedly at work, and my grandson died because he ate too many beans.
He is Fu Gui, the hero in Yu Hua's novels.
After such a turbulent and miserable life, is Fu Gui still alive?
Yes He bought a cow as big as himself, also called Fu Gui, and took it to the farm.
Fu Gui said, "I can only live alone in the future. I always thought that my days were short, but these years have passed. " I'm still the same, my waist still hurts often, my eyes are still blurred, but my ears are sharp. When the villagers are talking, I can tell who is talking without looking.
Sometimes I feel sad, sometimes I feel very practical. I buried all my family members. I buried them myself. One day, when my legs are stretched, I don't have to worry about anyone. I figured it out, too When it's my turn to die, I will die with a clear conscience. I don't have to expect the person who accepts the body. Someone in the village will definitely bury me, otherwise I will stink, and no one can stand the smell.
I won't let others bury me for nothing. I put ten dollars under my pillow and I won't touch it if I starve to death. Everyone in the village knows that this ten yuan is for the corpse collector, and they all know that I will be buried with Jia Zhen and others after my death. "
No struggle, no pain.
Life is a difficult journey, you and I are both passers-by, just like stopping at different hotels.
Living is for living itself, not for anything else.
This is life. Do you see it?
To live clearly is to be yourself.
First of all, know what is important to you and when it is not.
Second, never deliberately please others, never deliberately cater to others.
Third, I don't care what others think of me.
Fourth, don't compete with the world for winning or losing, right or wrong, love or hate.
I understand the reality and cruelty of society, but I am still full of love and hope for this world.
6. Always be grateful to your family, relatives and good friends.
Seven, know less, don't say what you don't know.
Change what you can change and accept what you can't.
Nine, cherish your body.
Ten, respect everything in the world.
To live clearly is to know how to be yourself.
I want to explain first, in my understanding, what kind of realm I "live" in.
I was lucky enough to meet two friends who forgot the past year. One is a professor of China ancient literature who retired from a famous university in Shanghai, and the other is an old leader of local civil servants who retired from a higher position. After the retirement of these two old people, one returned to his hometown where he was born when he was a child, and specially chatted with the old lady of 80 or 90 years old, recorded their authentic local accent with a voice recorder, and did ancient sound research; The other one was admitted to the second level of national psychological counselor after retirement, specializing in voluntary psychological counseling for teenagers and local elderly people.
I once asked them curiously, why do you have to work so hard in your career when you are old? I thought they would answer "public welfare" and "pursuit", but the answer was the same: be happy. The old leader who did psychological counseling said that he helped many people when he was in office. At that time, he obviously hoped to get something in return, even if it was not an immediate return, and he also hoped to accumulate contacts and human feelings for later use. But when there is hope, there will be disappointment. When others don't repay themselves as expected, their mentality will be unbalanced. So I don't mean to accumulate virtue by doing good deeds, but a state of mind: I help others because I can get self-satisfaction from helping others. As for other people's reaction to my behavior, this is beyond my concern. So I help others to make myself happy and satisfied.
These two old people are the bright lights in my life. Because they let me see the realm of a person "living clearly". And their temperament, at first glance, is actually a bit rustic, because they deal with farmers all the year round and dress casually. If anything, they laugh a lot, just like children, full of curiosity about new things on the internet. They often ask me what I mean by "and seven", and I laugh when I explain it.
The greatest temperament of a wise man is that you think she doesn't understand at all! Let me analyze it from three angles:
First: only those who keep their roots are those who live clearly. This is a kind of wisdom. She understands that the most important thing in life is to be yourself and not love or hate everything outside. Not greedy or possessive.
Second: keep quiet and content, and don't covet excessive desires. There is a saying in Caigen Tan: The contented are in a fairyland, and the dissatisfied are everywhere.
Third: people who really understand in reality should be "fools" in the eyes of others. This kind of person has little selfish desires and wants nothing. Although she doesn't argue with others, no one can compete with her.
I think there is a cool and calm temperament in people who understand. First of all, people who understand must look down on life and death! They understand that life and death are fate and cannot be changed by manpower. Everyone will inevitably go to aging and death, and the body will turn into dust and mud! Therefore, they are not afraid of death, they just want to enjoy every day of their lives while they are alive!
Secondly, people who understand clearly look down on wealth and fame! They understand that money is a thing outside, not brought by life, nor taken away by death. Fame and fortune are nothing. When fame and fortune are both gained, people often lose themselves and become frivolous, and don't know who they are. After death, the so-called money and reputation are gone.
Chow Yun Fat is such a person, he has lived thoroughly and understood. He has no children and daughters all his life, but he loves his wife deeply. He gave up everything for love and would rather live a simple and ordinary life. Brother Fage once announced that he would donate all his life assets to charity! For brother Fage, who pursues a higher realm of life, money is meaningless. This is something that ordinary people will never reach. He said: "Plain is true!"
Third, a clear-cut person must be full of love and never care about the evil of others. Because they have already seen through human nature, the world is cold but ignorant. Just because you don't care about a person doesn't mean that he doesn't know your malice. He knows everything, but he says nothing. They understand, so it's no use telling people who understand, and telling people who don't understand.
Fourth, people who live clearly must cultivate their self-cultivation. Because they have a thorough understanding of themselves and know what kind of shortcomings they have, they will study tirelessly and never leave their feet, explore their hearts in reading and find their spiritual destination!
Fifth, people who understand must not be happy about things, but feel sad about themselves. They know that everyone has their own way of life. He never envies others or belittles himself, but lives in his own world.
The above is my humble opinion. If there is anything wrong, please criticize and correct me!
I used to think that people who live clearly are superior and immortal, and there is no self in their hearts, only others.
People who know it can be described in one word: not artificial. It looks real or unique. Life is very independent and open-minded. I will not be influenced by most people's comments, but have my own life, my own life experience and my own truth.
This professor can be counted as one.
Do things clearly, calmly, moderately, don't care about people, don't blindly rely on emotions.
Some people have experienced life and death, but they may not be able to live clearly. True understanding can only be understood from a lot of life training, communication with people and thinking precipitation, so it is more intelligent.
People who really understand are not completely indifferent, but firm in character and only know what to do and what not to do.