According to the physical function, the period of people's emotional change is generally around 28 days. This means that after 28 days, whether it is great sadness or great joy, the body function will push you away from such emotions.

Emotions are also aggressive. Once a person is in an extremely productive or depressed mood for a long time, the brain will involuntarily perceive danger signals, make you sleepy, binge drink, and help you achieve healing.

To put it bluntly, it's not that you can't get out of love, but that you don't want to get out at all.

Why do many people get out of their emotions in a few weeks, but it takes you months or even years?

It's cruel-not because you are infatuated, but because you don't let yourself go out at all, asking for it, and it's hopeless.

When your mood has just improved, but you can't die, you let yourself be moved by the scene, or open a circle of friends with your ex.

It suddenly pulls you back to your previous depression, and then it is a new round of 28 days, which makes you enter a vicious circle again and again.

Say something unpleasant: your predecessor didn't provoke you at all, and you had a deep hatred. The appearance seems particularly affectionate, but in fact it is just a self-directed and self-acting play.

The reason why you can't go out is that you are too idle.

You don't need to work hard, you have time to watch the dynamics of raping your ex;

Do not need fitness and shaping, have the strength to hide in the room and cry;

You don't need to worry about it, so you have the energy to find a good way to get out of lovelorn online …

Look, it's strange to get out of such a state of life! Say something worse, what reason does your ex have to change her mind?

Losing love can make a person addicted.

For those who can't get out for a long time, it seems very painful, but in fact it is very comfortable.

You can use the reason of lovelorn as an excuse for depression, and you can use unforgettable rhetoric as a way to escape from life.

Such a mediocre life, immersed in your own fantasy, such as life, ideals, self, these things as important as love, have been abandoned by you.

Yes, but in fact, when you give up the attitude of being responsible for yourself, you will live as comfortably as a walking corpse. Think about it. Is it time to give up loving someone?

No, what really lets you go is whether you have the strength to find a better substitute to take that person's place in your heart.

Lying on Peng Ganyan's chest muscles, you naturally won't miss that cheating ex-boyfriend.

Holding Dilraba's hand, you won't miss the ex-girlfriend who plays cold violence.

Why can't you let go, but your ex can let you go easily?

Speaking of it, people after breaking up are exercising, studying and doing business every day, putting themselves in a state of rapid development and appreciation. Your predecessor can easily find someone to replace you, but you can't.

People gradually become the upper limit of your mate selection, which makes you unforgettable, but you become the bottom line of your mate selection, which is not worth mentioning at all. Psychologically speaking, your ex can give you a sense of need, and you can do it yourself:

Insecurity?

Then you should work hard to make money and improve your quality of life. These material affluences can replace the anxiety of 80% lovelorn.

Lack of company?

Then you can find friends, family, and even get a loyal dog, which can meet your need of losing company.

Lack of attention?

Then you will realize your personal value and gain the recognition of the people around you. When you have achieved something you never dreamed of, standing on the stage of attention, it is only a matter of minutes to forget your predecessor.

If you are afraid, you are afraid. After being lovelorn, you can't study, have fun, work hard or pursue your own ideals.

Let yourself live in a state of depression all day. You look miserable, but in fact, you enjoy this feeling of giving up on yourself. Not that you can't get out. But, after be lovelorn, you are too idle and comfortable. You are immersed in this nihilistic indulgence and don't want to let yourself out.

Is it your ex you really can't let go of?

No, in fact, you give up on yourself because of someone who doesn't love you.

You always imply that "what is lost is the best". Naturally, it is difficult for you to look forward to the future, and you will not make up your mind to improve your personal value and make yourself worthy of better people.

Whoever has a better life after breaking up will be more chic. Whoever has a worse life will regret it even more after breaking up. "This sentence seems to be very utilitarian, but it comes from a true portrayal of human nature.

When you have no choice, you will stare at what you have lost. When your strength is not worthy of your own vision, you will wonder why the world is so unfair.

Are you clear?

Love will not disappear, it will only transfer from one thing to another.

When you lose someone who won't love you, who should you love? Love yourself! When you are in a state of constant appreciation, when your strength is worthy of a better person, believe me, it is only a matter of minutes to let go of that predecessor.

After being lovelorn, you can give yourself time to be depressed and depressed, but please don't exceed 28 days. Through a tight and busy life, fill the emptiness of life, distract attention, and avoid repeated procrastination of negative emotions. When you begin to learn to love yourself, the turning point in life will naturally appear. When you focus on self-construction, you will deserve better love.