There will always be a time in life when you are burdened with heavy pressure, depressed, lost your career, confused about the future and live in fear all day long.
Later, the busyness of work calmed anxiety, the enrichment of spirit eased inner anxiety, and the passage of time cured everything, and all this was the result of your own efforts.
When people reach middle age, there are ten Jiu Nan, all disasters need to be resisted by themselves, and all wounds need to be healed by themselves.
After the age of 40, the best life depends on yourself, and the best health care is to heal your heart.
There is a question on Zhihu: What is the fastest way to destroy a person?
I saw a great answer: I am idle every day, every month, every year, when I am happy, when I am in pain, and I lose myself over time.
It's true. What I fear most in this world is doing nothing.
A few days ago, Ma Yili mentioned his state last year in a program.
She admits that in the days just after her divorce, she was in a daze every day, and even suffered from procrastination and lost the motivation to do things.
But she knows very well that she is a positive person in her bones and can't be immersed in negative emotions forever.
So she began to push herself: go to the gym to start fitness, work hard, see a psychologist and do acupuncture treatment.
She knows that no matter which way she uses, she must get busy first, enrich her life, and stop doing nothing, and her distractions will naturally fade away.
Sometimes, our imagination destroys us, and the source of thousands of complex thoughts is laziness.
Fang Chengxian, a master in the cartoon industry, lived in this world for one hundred years and continued to create until his death.
1986 after retirement, the elderly still get up early every day, draw pictures in the morning and write in the afternoon, and persist. ? He once wrote a poem in the self-portrait, which wrote:
Life has always been normal. Riding a bike, drawing and writing articles, and keeping in good health depend on one word-busy.
Laziness leads to laziness, and busyness can keep you healthy, do things when you are awake, and persist when you are in pain.
Time is not medicine, medicine is time, busyness is the beginning of happiness, and it is a good medicine to cure pain.
There is a profound line in The Godfather:
People who can see the essence of things in one second and those who can't see the essence of things all their lives are naturally different fates.
In other words, a person's cognition largely determines his life direction.
Reading is the best way to improve cognition, expand thinking and eliminate confusion.
Mr. Jiang Yang once received a letter from a young reader, in which he complained in many places that the society was impetuous and people were unpredictable.
After reading it, she wrote back and said:
▏ "Your problem mainly lies in reading too much and thinking too much." ?
Everyone's thinking is limited. When cognition is not enough to support their thinking, they often think too much, and the result is often to find reasons from other places and not see themselves clearly.
I remember watching the movie The Shawshank Redemption, and the most impressive part is:
After gaining the trust of the warden, Andy took the opportunity to ask for a job in the library. During this period, he finally received old books by applying for expanding the library collection for six consecutive years.
Later, he helped more than 20 prisoners study, guided them to read books, improved themselves, and obtained high school education.
This period of study is enough for these people to change their past idleness and find a decent job after they are released from prison.
And he didn't give up studying because he was in prison. He strengthened his heart through reading and walked step by step to the day when the plan was successfully implemented.
Reading can subtly change people's thoughts and enrich people's souls.
If you don't know the way ahead, you might as well settle down and read a good book and article.
There is a passage in the Capital of Life:
At any time, a person should not be a slave to his emotions, nor should all actions be subject to his emotions, but should control them in turn.
No matter how bad the situation is, you should try to control your environment and save yourself from the darkness.
How terrible is a life dominated by emotions?
When I was at school, I had an argument with my classmates. I disagreed and hurt myself, but my anger continued.
After work, I act too emotionally, and when I get angry, I act impulsively, which delays the work process, but my mood has not been alleviated;
Being too willful to get along with others requires everyone to drift away from friends according to their own mood, so they will not be happy.
Some people say that the measure of a person's maturity is whether he can control his emotions and adjust his mentality.
For an adult, emotions need to be vented, not suppressed in the heart and become stubborn.
Exercise is the best way to get rid of the haze and regenerate.
Psychological research also shows that people who exercise regularly are much less likely to suffer from depression.
Exercise is equivalent to cleaning up the weeds that grow in your heart once. Only by leaving extra space can you fill your heart with sunshine.
Instead of hiding all the grievances in your heart, it is better to go running and rock climbing, so that the relaxation of your body can lead to the relaxation of your mind.
As Hippocrates, the father of medicine, once said:
Sunshine, air, water and exercise are the sources of life and health.
As I grow older, I understand that sentence more and more:
The world belongs to oneself and has nothing to do with others.
After middle age, it is much more comfortable for a person to think in his own unique space than for many people to sit together and make noise.
Spending time alone to see yourself clearly is the top self-discipline of an adult. ?
Qi Baishi, a master painter, has countless works in his life. The world compares his paintings to "the weather vane that leads China's paintings". ? And he can have such a high achievement, can not be separated from his habit of constant reflection.
When Qi Baishi was 88 years old, the poet Ai Qing visited him with the paintings he painted when he was young, trying to get him to identify the authenticity.
In the process of observing the paintings, he can't help recalling the scenes in his early years, and he realizes that the level of painting is not as good as before.
After this incident, Qi Baishi often introspected:
? ▏ "Now people think highly of me, and even I am a little complacent. I saw a painting painted by Ai Qing ten years ago, and I was deeply touched. Today, compared with before, the retrogression is really too great. " ?
From then on, he practiced the basics of painting when he was alone every day, and persisted day after day. The paintings he painted in his later years are still deeply loved by everyone.
"Caigen Tan" said: Listen to the clock in the quiet night and wake up in the dream. Look at the moon shadow in Chengtan and get a glimpse of it.
When you are quiet, the best way to live is to talk to your past self, find problems from an objective perspective, correct yourself and return to life.
Don't waste every inch of a person's time, get rid of complaints and accusations, look at the troubles of the world rationally, and introspection is the only way to save yourself.
There is a saying in the writer's road that is quite right:
? In everyone's life, there are several cold meals that can't be swallowed overnight, and they must be swallowed instead of staring blankly.
People in this life, all the roads, ultimately have to rely on their own step by step to the end, all redemption, is their own choice.
Busy, give yourself time to transition; Read and give yourself time to grow up; Exercise and give yourself time to adjust; Introspection, give yourself time to recover.
One day you will find that the habits you have developed over the years are all good medicine for time.
And the most difficult time passed unconsciously.