It is easy to simply love children, even "hens can do it" (Gorky language), but it is not so easy to educate children with scientific maternal love. Nowadays, all walks of life need certificates and employment certificates. Only parents who are related to their children's lifelong education do not need a certificate and will never be laid off. It is the luck of being a parent, but it is actually the sorrow of family education. As the mother of the only child, no one has taught us how to be a qualified mother, and there is no chance to personally sum up the successful experience for reference, which makes modern mothers deeply feel the lack of experience and knowledge in educating their children with scientific maternal love. Faced with all kinds of puzzles, as a modern mother full of instinctive maternal love for her children, it is especially necessary to strengthen her study, study for self-improvement, study for educating children, study for being a role model for children, study for not being abandoned by the times, and be a learning mother who can grasp the pulse of the times in time and make progress with children.

First of all, set an example to educate children.

Actions speak louder than words. This motto of Tsinghua University is also applicable to mothers who live with their children day and night. In family education, parents are actually children's mirrors, and parents' words and deeds and manners are always examples for children who are close at hand to observe, imitate and learn.

Lebanese poet Ji Bolun said, "If parents are bows, then children are arrows on the bow". When parents are depressed, their children will have no ambition; Parents are active, and children should work hard. A good bow has no smelly arrows. Only when children start from excellent parents can they shoot at the height of personality and wisdom.

If the mother tells her children to cherish their time and study hard, but she kills time in front of the TV or mahjong table, it is difficult for them to sit at the desk and take orally. If parents insist on studying after school and constantly "recharge" themselves, children will have a strong desire and motivation to learn without supervision. This is the subtle influence of situational education on children.

I am a writer, and I am used to reading and writing articles at night. With a solitary lamp, or the figure of reading at night, or sitting at a desk, I planted the seeds that my daughter is willing to learn in her young mind. Influenced by the subconscious, my daughter stayed away from TV and was obsessed with books. After she can write, she keeps a diary or makes up stories every night. Seeing that I often receive payment bills, she even has the desire to contribute. Let me give her some advice on how to write a good article and how to contribute. Up to now, my fifth-grade daughter has published several articles in various newspapers, which greatly aroused her interest in writing.

I once heard a child say, "I don't know if this is a complaint or a blessing." She showed my homework textbook to her mother. She couldn't understand it. It is really easy to lie to her. " Parents who "only ask their children to study hard and don't ask themselves to make progress every day" don't need to touch their children's inner world, which not only makes them look down on it, but also makes it difficult to stimulate their learning motivation and interest, making it easier for them to lack inner introspection and self-discipline.

It is more instructive to lead by example. Although there is no podium and blackboard at home, it is a school that never has a holiday; Although the mother has no notes on preparing lessons, she is a teacher who always accompanies her children. With a learning family, we can create a learning atmosphere of mutual care, participation, sharing and active dialogue for our children. Only a learning mother can set an example of self-confidence, self-improvement, self-reliance and self-discipline for her children.

Second, equality with children and classmates.

Without equal parent-child relationship, it is difficult to create a relaxed and harmonious learning family; Without a mother who bends down to communicate with her children on an equal footing, it is difficult to truly gain their respect and trust. If a mother can become a classmate who studies with her children and a friend who makes progress together, that is her greatest success.

I often hear parents hate iron and say, "It is good to provide children with learning and living conditions now, but why are they not interested in learning?" In fact, if you think about it carefully, the reading environment of children is not ideal now. When I was a child, my life was monotonous, so it was a pleasure to bury myself in reading. Today's children are faced with many temptations such as TV, computer games, online world, color screen, short message and so on. It takes many times more self-control than we did at that time to settle down and study. In the past, children also had peers at home. Now, children have no competitive partners and no motivation to compete. At this time, it is even more necessary for mothers to bend down to be their children's companions and classmates, and play, learn, grow and progress with their children.

Students with children don't just mean learning knowledge from books. Dewey, an American educator, thinks that "education is life". Conversely, I think "life is education". In all aspects of children's learning, such as food, clothing, housing and play, there are contents and opportunities for learning and education anytime and anywhere. Giving children the right to choose in daily life will cultivate their democratic and equal attitude and self-choice and self-responsibility consciousness; Taking the children to Wan Li Road during the holiday has honed their will and won the thousands of books with extensive knowledge and strong memory; Studying at the same table and discussing problems with children will gradually guide children away from all kinds of bad temptations and shift their interest to books; Take children to participate in various social welfare activities, and the children will gradually grow into a perfect person under the personal inspiration of their mothers. ...

I am a person with a wide range of interests. I am eager to try all good new things and take an active part in all beneficial activities. After having children, I became more interested in studying and living, and the success and happiness I gained from it deeply infected my young daughter. She also loves everything that life has given her and is committed to experiencing the happiness of success. Since the age of three, my daughter has never stopped practicing dance; At the age of four, my daughter began to learn the piano and enjoyed it every day; At the age of five, her daughter won the title of "Story King" at the municipal level; At the age of seven, my daughter's first exercise was published; At the age of eight, my daughter went to Beijing to participate in the national children's dance rehearsal; At the age of ten, my daughter won the first prize in the "small host competition" in the city; At ordinary times, the school organizes three excellent students' selection, poetry reading, singing competition and sports meeting, and gives countless honors and certificates to her daughter.

At the end of each semester, my daughter will sit at the same table with me and summarize their achievements and shortcomings. At that moment, my children and I were close friends and classmates. It was my happiest and most satisfying moment.

Third, cultural feedback from children's learning

While educating their children, parents can actually learn a lot from their children that books can't.

As mankind moves from industrial civilization to information civilization, new things emerge endlessly every day. Children are active in thinking, broad in vision, sensitive in advance consciousness and strong in adaptability. They are far ahead of their parents in acquiring knowledge related to the latest social trends, and parents are no longer the authority of knowledge. However, due to the influence of traditional ideas, many parents are used to "showing off their strength" to their children and putting on a dignified face to establish authority and gain their children's respect. As everyone knows, parents' timely "weakness" will better stimulate their children's self-confidence and interest in learning. Therefore, parents should not only share the learning experience and fun with their children, but also learn their children's strengths with an open mind and grow up with them.

My daughter plays the piano and practices every tune faster than me. My daughter reads English more accurately than I do. My daughter's writing is richer than I thought; My daughter dances better than me; My daughter speaks more standard Mandarin than I do. When my daughter learns geometry, her three-dimensional sense is stronger than mine; It's easy for my daughter to overcome things that don't go well. My daughter is more tolerant of others than I am ... There are many things in her that deserve my humble opinion. Every time I humbly ask for advice, it is a great encouragement to my daughter and also a reinforcement of her advantages. After discovering the beauty of this trick, I often pretend that I can't, and read it from my daughter at any time to urge her to do better in order to "teach my mother."

Children are growing up, and parents can't stand still. Learning from children should be the first step to be a learning mother. Only by bending down to learn from their children can parents cross the "generation gap", enter their children's spiritual world, become their friends, and make progress and grow together with their children.

The birth of my daughter gave me an opportunity to learn, grow and enrich my life as a mother, and gave me a new perspective, understanding and sense of responsibility to look at the world and life. First of all, my words and deeds affect my daughter first, and then my daughter's words and deeds affect me, so we interact, learn from each other and make progress together. (Author: Anhui University of Science and Technology Party Committee Propaganda Department Cui Qin)