-"Little Fire"
Mrs. Richardson: She lives a disciplined life, weighing herself once a week and taking aerobics classes three times a week. Her parents taught her to behave since she was a child, believing that social order is rooted in personal self-discipline. From girlhood to high school, college, boyfriend, marriage, job hunting, mortgage, having children ..... She always adheres to the principle of gradual progress. In short, she only did the right thing and built a beautiful life based on it, which is also the life she wants. Of course, everyone wants this kind of life. She believes that "those who obey the rules are successful, and those who violate the rules may burn the whole world."
Mr. Richardson: The town in his hometown is totally unsuitable for idealists to live in. People are full of doubts about optimistic ideas. It can be said that he grew up in a cynical and decadent atmosphere, but he kept his initial heart of "believing that the world can be better".
Leckie: The eldest daughter of Richardson, her ideal best future is to fall asleep in Brian's arms and wake up next to him. The scene in her mind almost makes her feel high. In the future, they will have a small house where she can sunbathe in the backyard and there will be a basket above the garage door for Brian to shoot. She will put a bottle of lilacs on the dresser and put striped sheets on the bed. Money, rent and work are not problems, because she doesn't have to consider these problems in real life, let alone worry in fantasy life.
Mia: It's totally different. Do what you want. She loves art, photography and everything necessary for art, including wandering around. It is the maverick who took a "road that few people took".
Ikey: In her experience, if someone wants to do something for her, it must be out of pity or distrust, but Mia's little advice made her feel kind and unconditional friendship.
Because of the hardships at birth, Mrs. Richardson always observes her daughter very carefully, fearing that she will have all kinds of strange diseases. Therefore, he formed the habit of observing Ikey through a microscope, trying to find his weakness and signs of illness. Over time, this kind of worry is completely divorced from the factual basis, and it has completely become an emotion that comes out of thin air but is used to it.
Ikey's birth showed her how far a stable life could be derailed, and also taught her to worry for no reason. This is why Mrs. Richard is particularly harsh on her daughter Ikey, always blaming her, impatient at every turn, and even unable to tolerate Ikey's shortcomings and mistakes. It seems that she is required by a set of stricter standards than other children, even ignoring her success and amplifying her mistakes.
"No, no, you can't do that." Ikey, why don't you listen to me? ...... "Jesus, Ikey" "What's wrong with you?" , "constantly draw boundaries for her behavior. The more disobedient Ikey is, the more her mother can hide her anxiety with anger, just like a snail hiding in its shell.
Before meeting Mia, Ikey was a natural radical, but she had only 14 years of life experience and grew up in a conservative suburb in the Midwest. This means: with her limited imagination, the so-called "resistance" is nothing more than childish behaviors such as throwing eggs at the window and stuffing shit into other people's bags; After meeting Mia, Mia completely changed her life and turned her into a completely different person.
Ikey thinks that Mia is a person with her own hidden desire for destruction, and Mia's attraction to her is enough to make her not care about the inquiring eyes of others.
Ikey said to Mia, "Let me tell you a secret. Many times, parents are not good at seeing the advantages of their children, and you have many wonderful advantages. " So Ikey worships Mia to the extreme and takes everything she says as the standard.
Yiqi also thought of many illusory causes and consequences for her time with Mia: many years ago, after she and Pearl were born, they were misreported. As a result, she became a Richardson child, but in fact she was Mia's daughter, so the Richardson family didn't understand her and thought she was different. Now she is reunited with her real mother Mia.
Wu Qishi's description of characters' emotions is very delicate and accurate. When Pearl saw the picture of the mother holding her child in the exhibition in the museum and faced Mia, Pearl's mood was: "She vaguely felt that things were not that simple. She felt as if she had stepped on a rickety staircase, and her heart was full of premonition that the board under her feet was about to fall. "
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When Mia heard what happened to Beibei, she expressed her heart-rending sympathy. Because thinking that a mother may not find her own child is like someone cutting her body with a blade, stirring the flesh and blood inside, leaving only a cold body.
As a parent, your child is not only an individual, but also a place, just like representing the eternal Narnia world, where your present life, memory of the past and desire for the future all exist. Whenever you look at him, you will see the world, think of his childhood, look forward to his future, and even see his past, present and future at the same time like a 3D image. The world dazzles you. Join in and you'll know how to get there. It will always be your refuge. Every time you leave there-every time your children leave your sight-you worry that you will never return to that place.
So later Mia left with Pearl, whether her photography dream can be realized or not.
But it doesn't matter, because Mia is trying to live the life she wants every moment she breathes. She can take her daughter wandering around, but she doesn't care about her dreams, her photography dreams, her artistic life, and what outsiders think is worth it.
I always feel that the floating world with other people's views is very greasy. Although people are also collective animals, we need to care about other people's evaluation and social recognition.
However, a person who cares about external evaluation is so funny. Other people's opinions and ideas may not really matter that much. You have to live your own life. It is not easy to live a good life, and there is no time to take care of other people's requirements and constraints.
At the end of the reading, Mia and Pearl left town, Ikey searched for them like crazy, and she couldn't help crying.
How she longs for someone who understands her and is similar to her!
Yiqi, like every one of us in real life, struggles in a bound environment but is very eager for freedom, eager to live in the way he likes and pursue the life he wants.
But how many people can't get rid of the shackles around them in this process. From parents, from school, from friends and relatives around you, it is this foot that dares not step into the life you want, and the other foot has to be pulled out in the original whirlpool.
I especially like Mia's sentence:
Sometimes, you need to burn everything before something new grows, and so do people. They can start over and always find a way.
In fact, transparency may not be as difficult as imagined.
Some time ago, the concepts of the influence of various patterns and family environment on personal growth emerged one after another. Some people have also investigated the development track of children from rural families who study hard and live hard and children from well-off families in the next decade. Therefore, some people say that the children of poor families do things step by step, and the children of rich families do whatever they want. Although each has its own wonderful things, I don't think all those who do whatever they want are rich, and those who don't follow the rules are poor.
I don't think there will be any only right life, whether it is excellent or ordinary at the moment, as long as we are willing to love, whether it is sad or happy.
Near graduation, many people have chosen their own path at this moment. Some people take the postgraduate entrance examination, some work, some start a business, some choose to travel, some try and take risks every other year, some earn millions a year in their twenties, and some are mediocre in their forties.
But do winners laugh at losers? What are the criteria for such success? No matter what kind of life, you don't need to envy or look up. We will eventually live the life we want, and time will always prove it. As long as you are breathing, what you really feel is life.
Everyone must have bitterness behind the aura at this moment. Any seemingly glamorous appearance has its fragility behind it, but these fragility are hidden behind their aura.
Therefore, Mrs. Richardson may see from the sparks that her so-called right and wrong are actually vulnerable. Maybe she can chew the past more quietly on the day of rebuilding her home, and maybe a new world will emerge.
Maybe everyone needs such a fire, burning from their own hearts, putting all your eggs in one basket, not thinking about the past, and not afraid of the front.