In real love, you chase me to catch up with mobile games. Some people try their best to please, but they can always be followers of the other half. The reason is either that she loves deeply or that she is not good at love. Who are not good at dating? There is only the stupidest or most intuitive way to treat the other half with sincerity.
It's true that people are stupid. Unfortunately, feelings are never fair. Sometimes the more we give, the more he takes it for granted. You think you are obedient and sincere, but you can't make him love you more. Love can be unilateral, but the matter of "dealing with the object" is, in the final analysis, the interaction between couples. After all, if you have a way and know how, you will become a lover from a "follower".
In a love, no one wants to be the one who can only pay, but it is difficult to get a return, and only let the other half give orders. Especially for women, the meaning of love is nothing more than finding a man who wants to pamper himself, but obviously, if you are a humble person in front of love and take every need of the other half as an instruction, all this can only be a delusion after all.
Grasping the initiative in love is not just as simple as giving orders and bossing around. You have to understand that everything has a moral bottom line. If you don't want to be led by the other half, you have to try to keep the bottom line of being a man. There are "three noes" when dealing with men. Only by learning them can you take the initiative.
1 At the beginning of the relationship, don't be too active. What is too easy to get is often not cherished. When you meet the person you love, people can't help wanting to make friends with others. They want others to see through their inner thoughts, but you have never thought about it. If you are too active from the beginning and let a man hold you in his arms, will he continue to cherish you and love you more than before?
In The Story of Yan Xi Palace, Xian Fei didn't understand at the last moment. Why did the emperor have to spoil Wei? Wei Yingluo replied to her: "You are infatuated, but why did you tell him? The person who spoke first has lost. " Worried like a virtuous princess, she cares about the emperor as much as she does, but it happened that the emperor was only partial to Wei, never took the initiative, and was a little alienated from himself.
Men's so-called love is always accompanied by "conquest". The less you let him see through your love, the more curious he is about you. The more wrong you are, the more he likes to try to please you.
At the beginning of a relationship, a woman's "no initiative" is actually appreciating for herself. The more men give you, the more they will learn to cherish you. Naturally, this is also his challenge to men. If he turns away because of your contempt, then this kind of love is unnecessary. Grasping the initiative is nothing more than making men feel sorry for you and worry about losing you, so don't let him chase you casually, he will understand that you are valuable.
After falling in love, you can't give him up blindly. If you don't love yourself well, he won't understand you easily. If two people love each other, if they form a good habit of letting only one party give up, then this habit will eventually stop with your feelings. Take one of my college roommates as an example. When she went out with her boyfriend, his family was poor. In order to help her boyfriend, she boiled water for lunch and didn't want her boyfriend to worry.
When the boyfriend's representative comforts her, she always says something like this: "I don't like to eat chicken, duck and fish outside, but I like to drink porridge and eat less to lose weight." In front of her boyfriend, she described her giving and giving up as a hobby. As a result, people may play dumb and understand, even without thanking them, so that in the end, every time a boy buys something more expensive, he needs to pay.
In the face of love, women blindly follow the trend, regardless of gains and losses, and can only regard men as selfish ghosts who constantly reach out to you. You think this is a noble abandonment for love, but you don't know that this selfless heart will push you everywhere. If you don't want to be disappointed, you need a man to see your goodness and sometimes ask him for benefits, so that you won't be a prisoner of love.
After marrying him, you can't "stop starting". People who only ask for money will inevitably stop. When men and women are in love, especially after marriage, you always have the right to speak in the family. It usually depends on whether you have the ability to make money. It is only a matter of time before you humble yourself. In a family, many women mistakenly believe that their key role should be their wife. Most people who have this idea can't grasp the initiative in the relationship between husband and wife. Just like Luo Zijun in the first half of my life, because she has no job and no income, all her satisfaction and sense of belonging in marriage come from Chen's contribution.
When Chen loves her, she can be in the spirit of heaven, but when Chen is ready to leave her early, she not only has nothing, but even can't support herself. For married women, the initiative of marital relationship lies in that you can have your own thoughts in marriage, and you don't have to rely on men, let alone live on their charity. The premise of all this is that you have the financial resources, so you can't "not start".
Conclusion In a relationship, one side usually has the upper hand. He can give orders to the other half and decide the direction of this relationship. Anyone who has been in love knows that the person who really has the upper hand is not the kind of humble person who can only pay. Mastering the initiative of love means that you don't have to be unprincipled to anyone. If you are too used to a person and regard him as the master of your world, then you will only be in a passive and humble life in love.
As a woman, in the process of being with a man, you must understand one thing: you can love her, but you must not sacrifice yourself for him, or ignore your own thoughts for him, and you must not endure for him and push yourself into a corner. Two people can please each other, but it would be foolish to take the initiative in love. If you learn this dating skill well, you will be the one who has the right to "order" her.