First, method one: play with children and improve yourself. Auxiliary tools: mobile phone, TV, playground, early education.
Detailed instructions on the use of tools:
1, mobile phone
It is used to use audio and video apps for word memory, course study, reading and other activities when playing with children.
Recommended APP:
Himalayan: used to play your favorite audio or reading programs. Recommended program: sound library: reading and interpreting books will help you have a general understanding of classics and bestsellers. Shanglong Reading Club: Interpreting some popular and crude books. Reading at 10: 00: Read classic fragments. The Little Prince with the Sound of Clouds in Yuntian River: The role-playing form, the best of all versions of the Little Prince. Three hundred naive ideas: reading and interpreting the Book of Songs.
Ink and ink words: a word software that automatically sets new content and reviews content according to the "know, don't know and blur" you choose. Proper review makes it easy for you to stick to it. There are three modes: Chinese-English translation, English-Chinese translation and dictation.
Exam English: All kinds of English exam-oriented courses from CET-4 and CET-6 to IELTS, as well as courses with English characteristics such as oral English, original works and speeches, and well-known IP open classes are invited from time to time.
Kindle: It is recommended among all kinds of reading software, because you can use Kindle directly, you can also use the mobile phone client, you can buy books from the mall, and you can also load files such as txt\pdf.
Youku Video/Tencent Video: Members who buy these two videos can get almost all the movies and TV programs you need.
Bi Li Bi Li Animation: Special Edition of Foreign Film and Television Plays.
Light notes/notes As the saying goes /weibomote/zine: Write software. When the child was two and a half to three years old, the author used his mobile phone to complete the official account of WeChat for several months.
2. TV or ipad
Such a heavy tool is not for your own use, but for children. Parents often regard electronic products as a scourge in parenting, but they can't completely avoid the influence of family on their children. For white-collar mothers who take care of their children independently, they can use electronic products to free themselves from heavy child-rearing activities for a period of time, take a rest or complete a small amount of housework under the premise of not exceeding a certain time limit every day.
3. Playground
Three-year-old children can play on the playground independently, and their parents just play with them, so you don't have to follow suit. You can buy yourself a few hours to improve yourself.
4. Early education
Three years of early education courses, no longer need parents to accompany you in the classroom. You can use this hour to study through tools such as Kindle or mobile app.
Second, method two: take parenting as a source of material to improve yourself.
In the process of raising children, we are often forced to do many jobs that we have never been exposed to before. It is better to change passivity into initiative, actively learn relevant knowledge, and adopt parenting practice.
Available materials:
1. Cooking, nutrition and immunity: Not only can you make delicious meals quickly, but you can also mix dishes reasonably from the perspective of nutrition and immunity (which can benefit the whole family, especially the elderly, the sick and the disabled), and it will also become a parent-child activity.
Recommended books: Learning to Bake with Jun, Sweet Talk in Xiaowu Kitchen, Immune Enhancement TOP 100, Simple Immunological Principles, Immune Enhancement 100 Tips.
2. English: Improve your children's and your own English at the same time.
Recommended books: Children's Edition of Time Magazine, Car Story (books and comics), Thomas and His Friends (books and comics), Super Flash (books and comics), Little Peanut Network (official WeChat account, you can buy all kinds of original English children's books and foreign teaching materials).
3. Chinese studies: you can recite ancient poems, three-character classics, disciples' rules and so on. For children before going to bed, during the game, on the road, at the same time, remember and understand by yourself.
4. Eloquence: In the process of educating children, there are many opportunities to improve eloquence, which mothers often miss unconsciously. Consciously using these links can help you improve your eloquence and speaking ability.
Recommended method: tell stories to children in person and record audio software: consciously exercise your ability to tell stories without books, and ask yourself not to repeat or use spoken English, do not use online audio software, and try to record audio by yourself. Reference sample: Good night mother's bedtime story (Himalayan). Imitate all kinds of toy sales videos on Youku and record videos with children: exercise your eloquence, scriptwriting ability and on-site control ability.
5. Parenting psychology: Every mother who cares about parenting will find that psychology plays an important role in the process of parenting. Whether you want to find out the reasons behind your child's crying, or you have a new thinking about life because of the questions raised by your child, or you have to deal with all kinds of people (elders, other parents, teachers, etc. In the process of parenting, psychology is a great help. Recommended books: all Mr. Wu's books, all Mr. Xiaowu's books, all Mr. Wang's books, five kinds of wounds, five kinds of masks, let talents be free.
Third, method three: get up early and expand your time.
Get up early instead of going to bed late. While having more time, the whole person becomes more energetic. Get up two to three hours early every day, so that you can spend an extra "morning" every day to concentrate on improving yourself. It was from the beginning that the author formed the habit of getting up early, and his whole life became bright.
There is a lot of information on how to form the habit of getting up early on the Internet. I won't go into details here, but I will make some suggestions: at first (the first week), I didn't have any skills, and I relied on my dead support; Don't worry that getting up early will make you sleep less. Stick to it for more than half a month, and you will find that your sleep needs are less and you will be refreshed. Ensure 6 to 7 hours of sleep every day. Refer to the schedule: sleep from 23: 00 to 5: 00 and take a nap for half an hour. Every week (except the first week), leave yourself a day or two not to get up early, at least until you get up with your children.
Four. Other suggestions
1, Task-oriented: In order to avoid just prolonging your hard working hours instead of improving your efficiency, you must make a clear assignment for yourself every day, such as how many words to recite today, how many pages to read, how many stories to tell your children, and how long to record audio or video. The number of tasks must be specific. With a task, you will naturally try to use all your time to complete it.
2. Hire a domestic aunt instead of asking the elderly to help: If the economy allows, try to hire a domestic aunt and live separately from the elderly. You may think that the elderly can save you time by helping you with the children and housework. In fact, the time spent communicating with the elderly on the conflict between parenting concepts and living habits far exceeds the time they can save for you. Domestic aunts can do the same job faster and more professionally. It is important that she will not raise too many objections to your parenting style and lifestyle, which will lead to unnecessary communication costs.
3. Keep exercising: Find a gym or yoga studio near home and go there at least once or twice a week. Health is the greatest capital.
4. What you want to stay away from: A mobile phone is a good thing, which can help you make full use of your time. But be sure to brush Weibo and friends circle as little as possible, and spend at most 20 minutes every day to understand current affairs.
Example of verb (abbreviation of verb) timetable
Take the author's own schedule as an example. The following schedule is used when she lives separately from the elderly. The domestic aunt works three hours every working day and is responsible for taking the children home from kindergarten, cooking, washing and cleaning. Take care of children on weekends.
Timetable (working day edition):
Review postgraduate courses from 4: 30 to 7: 00, and sometimes write.
7:00-7:30, urge children to get up, wash and dress.
From 7: 30 to 8: 00, send the children to kindergarten. Chat with children on the way and assign some small cognitive tasks. For example, the author used to be very insensitive to cars. In order to teach children to know the car logo, he learned the origin and meaning of various car logos online, so that children can remember the car logo on their way to school.
From 8: 00 to 8: 30, I go to work and listen to books or lectures by using mobile phone audio software.
8:30-9:00, have breakfast in the canteen and communicate with colleagues.
9: 00 ~ 12: 00, working, memorizing words. Memorizing words doesn't take a whole block of time, just see the needle in the seam. You should make good use of all the gaps, including waiting for the elevator, waiting for the computer to refresh, squatting in the toilet, queuing at the door of the leadership office, and carrying two or three tasks.
12: 00 ~ 12: 30 for lunch.
12: 30 ~ 13: 00, read books and articles on official WeChat account.
13: 00 ~ 14: 00, lunch break.
Work from 14: 00 to 18: 00, memorizing words.
18: 00 ~ 18: 30, go to work, and use the mobile app to attend classes or lectures.
18: 30: 19: 30, eating, chatting and walking the dog (sometimes it is done by my aunt).
20:00-2 1:00, play with children at home or in the community garden, and read books and recite words on the mobile phone. If you record video or audio with your child, you can also put it in this time period.
Studying while accompanying your children doesn't mean that you should leave your children behind and bury yourself in your studies. You can communicate with your children and do reading and other activities at the same time, which may be difficult at first. In practice, you will gradually find ways to make you and your children comfortable.
2 1: 30 ~ 22: 00, wash, supervise and help children wash.
From 22: 00 to 22: 30, the children played with toys, and I prepared what I would bring the next day. Also review professional courses when you are free.
22:30-23:00, bedtime stories or house games.
Every Wednesday night, the time is slightly different. I'm going to have a yoga class for an hour. )
The rest days are more casual, and there is no strict timetable here. Mothers who have taken care of their children know that it is difficult to strictly control the time of rest days because children have many uncontrollable factors. Usually, I can make full use of the rest days as follows:
Every Saturday, I have Lego class, and I will read books outside the classroom. I go to the playground once every half month, so I have a few hours to read or write with mobile phone software; Children will watch cartoons for a while before taking a nap, and I can finish some simple housework; I will play audio software on my mobile phone when my children play and I finish housework, sometimes it is my homework, sometimes it is English nursery rhymes; Take children to the seaside for cycling from time to time, so that parents and children can enjoy the scenery while exercising.
In short, efficient use of time means that you should be diligent enough and willing to use all your spare and fragmented time to improve yourself, which means that it is almost impossible for you to be lazy, but people who value self-improvement will regard it as fun rather than a burden. Of course, it is not necessary for everyone to live so diligently, but there are only two kinds of life, either be strict with yourself or relax and enjoy the present, and you can only choose one.