If you let yourself brush unconsciously until eleven or twelve o'clock and do nothing after work, you will fall into a sense of guilt. Let out a sigh of "why did time pass so quickly and I didn't do anything".
Let lazy cancer patients develop the habit of self-discipline, and it is difficult to think about it. Even if he suddenly makes up his mind to do something, such as coming back from work for half an hour every day, this impulse can only keep him going for three days. Three days later, as long as he wants to exercise for 30 minutes after work every day, he will feel the pain in advance, and then he will automatically fall into the mode of easily brushing his mobile phone when he returns home on the fourth day. Everyone has the instinct to escape from pain.
Sometimes lazy cancer patients will sigh: Why is it so difficult to keep exercising? People who insist on doing it every day are simply immortals! In fact, the biggest reason why it is too difficult to stick to one thing is that the ambition is too big and the goal is too high, and it always needs a lot of motivation to do it. The author of Micro Habits tells us that if we want to keep exercising, we just need to start with doing a push-up every day.
Lazy cancer patients will ask: it is too insignificant to do only one push-up every day. What kind of eggs can I use for this exercise? But self-deception! But by doing a push-up every day, the author changed himself from an out-of-shape athlete who hates sports to an athlete who has to go to the gym every day. In fact, by doing so, he cultivated his micro-habits imperceptibly.
What is micro-habit? Micro-habit is a habit that can be easily completed without too much willpower. It can be that the author insists on doing a push-up every day, or that he gets up early every day and says: Today is another energetic day, or it can be the experience of punching in 100 words every day, which is the kind of thing that he does conveniently because it is simple enough when he lacks motivation. In this effortless repetition process, your brain and body gradually adapt to this action, and then you will continue to do it unconsciously.
For example. When I was in primary school, my parents didn't brush my teeth at night, and I didn't brush my teeth at night, but one night after dinner, I suddenly felt that I would have a good breath if I didn't brush my teeth at night, so I went to brush my teeth, because it was not difficult for me. As long as I brushed my teeth for 2 minutes, I would hum a song and watch the scenery outside the window, so brushing my teeth became a beneficial and enjoyable thing. Since then, I have brushed my teeth almost every night, which has become a habit of mine.
It can be seen that it is not difficult to develop a micro-habit, and its core is simple enough to realize and create a pleasant experience. Then the cultivation of micro-habits must not rely on motivation, but on willpower.
Motivation comes from a person's determination, but a person's ideas are so fickle that they change almost instantaneously. If you only rely on temporary motivation to do one thing, you will definitely "fish for three days and dry the net for two days" in the end.
For example. Every winter, I see my chubby belly, bulging like a watermelon, and wearing tight clothes reveals my true colors. Suddenly, the idea of feeling like a pig made me shudder. The knowledge that she turned into a paunchy middle-aged woman at a young age made me learn from a painful experience and start to lose weight anyway.
But this kind of blood often comes and goes quickly, especially in such a cold season as winter. On the first day back home, I will suffer from sportswear, pick up the yoga mat without saying anything, and start doing warm-up exercises. While doing exercises, I sighed: the 30-minute drama passed in a short while, and I couldn't feel it after visiting Taobao for 30 minutes. Why is 30 minutes of exercise so long?
It seems that after a century, the 30-minute bell finally struck. At that moment, I was sweating and relieved, and I collapsed on the yoga mat to enjoy the joy of victory, but this joy was limited to the first day. Because the next day, when I thought of the long and hard work of 30 minutes of exercise, I silently backed out.
Am I not motivated enough? No way! As a girl, I have the figure of a middle-aged woman, which is unbearable for a lady. I want to wear tight and beautiful clothes, as strong as a volcanic eruption, but I am so eager for thin belly. Why did I lose after one day? The reason is that it is extremely unreliable to insist on one thing and cultivate a habit by motivation.
So don't believe the nonsense that "writing depends on inspiration and losing weight depends on motivation". Willpower is the magic weapon to save you from lazy cancer. Successful masters in this field can refer to Haruki Murakami and Kobe Bryant, who are examples of using willpower to achieve their careers.
Haruki Murakami gets up at 4 o'clock every day, writes 4,000 words every day, plus an hour of running, and has persisted for more than 40 years. And Kobe's "Los Angeles at Four o'clock in the morning" witnessed his success history. What's it like at four in the morning? For most people, this is like a dream. The early bird gets the worm. Kobe Bryant and Haruki Murakami rely on superhuman willpower to explore the beauty of getting up at four in the morning and the secret of becoming great practitioners.