Fat people are inspirational to lose weight, and this world never owes everyone who works hard.
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Text/Na Wei
I didn't expect the handsome boy and pretty girl in our department when I was in college to be transformed at the class reunion many years later. On the contrary, the fattest girl in our class has successfully lost weight and looks unique and charming.
When Shanshan went to college, she wanted 180 kg!
Yes, it's so exaggerated.
I remember a physical examination organized by the school. Every time a girl lightly jumps into weighing scale, the PE teacher will happily quote a number, which basically does not exceed 100 kg!
When it was Shanshan's turn, we all held our breath, because her weight was always a secret, and we all wanted to know how much she weighed.
Shanshan walked slowly and clumsily to weighing scale and closed her eyes with inferiority. The PE teacher smiled and said, "ninety, ninety, ninety kilograms!" " "
We couldn't help laughing.
Shanshan ran out and kept running outside the playground. Only then did we realize that we were wrong and chased her. Unexpectedly, Shanshan suddenly fell at the gate of the playground, and we couldn't help laughing again.
At that time, we were too self-righteous young to care about a fat girl's self-esteem.
After graduation, everyone successfully signed a job, but Shanshan never had the courage to interview. It seems that she has been avoiding work, so she naturally took the postgraduate entrance examination.
At that time, she set herself the goal of a famous school in Beijing, but her grades were not good, so the class teacher joked: "This is not the rhythm of making cannon fodder!" "
We laughed and bowed our heads and said nothing.
In fact, Shanshan didn't pass the exam in the first year, but we vaguely felt that she seemed to have lost some weight. At that time, we had been working for a year, and many girls began to learn to dress themselves. Only Shanshan tried her best to take the postgraduate entrance examination for a year and didn't go to work, so at the university reunion, Shanshan only met with everyone and went back to study. At that time, we liked to play the game of "Truth or Adventure" most, and we were most concerned about where we could find distinctive clothes and where vegetables and fruits were cheaper. However, it is really far away from us to continue studying and study hard, so far that we don't want to mention it at all.
Shanshan's postgraduate entrance examination is too domineering She passed the exam for three years, but fortunately she was finally admitted to that famous school in Beijing. When she was a graduate student, we were surprised to find that she lost a lot of weight. Most importantly, Shanshan became confident. When we asked her about her weight, she said to herself, "It's less than 160 kg now. The revolution has not yet succeeded, and comrades still have to work hard. "
We all laughed happily and felt that Shanshan had become a lot more optimistic.
When I saw Shanshan again, it was already seven years since I graduated. She lost the girl's weight and became a beauty less than 100 Jin. We surrounded Shanshan and saw her wearing a decent suit and exquisite high heels, but we couldn't connect her with the girl who fell to the ground on the court.
So, we immediately sat in a ball and listened to this inspirational story.
Shanshan said that when she was fat, the deepest feeling was fear. She is afraid to go out to buy clothes, go out on blind dates, eat high-calorie food and travel. She is inexplicably afraid because she is too fat. No way, she had to shut herself in her room to read books, recite English words and review for the postgraduate entrance examination. When I first started preparing, I mostly felt a little evasive and didn't really want to get into the exam. Later, she found herself gradually entering a state of studying hard. If she doesn't read books and learn English for a day, she will be afraid and feel that she will be eliminated.
In order to lose weight smoothly, she has done many extreme weight loss projects, such as acupuncture, dieting, yoga and so on. Helpless, Shanshan's obesity gene is too strong, and almost all her family members are fat, so whenever I see her abusing herself there, there is still no improvement, and the same obese mother will come to comfort me: "Shanshan, in my mother's heart, you are as thin as a reed." Not less, I am distressed. "
"Have you ever seen such a fat reed? I want to lose weight, this is not to lose weight, this is to challenge myself. "
"My family is fat. I don't think there is anything wrong with being fat. "
"I don't want to get fat."
"Fat people can't die!"
"Mom!"
In order to lose weight better, she began to combine study with exercise. She listened to English while running. This persistence lasted for seven years.
Seven years later, she knows how many steps and how long the park road needs to run. She ran on the road, from panting to striding, from jumping like a big raccoon to like a monkey. The uncle who watches the gate in the park applauds her every time he sees her. She will also smile to show her thanks.
After graduating from graduate school, she not only lost weight successfully, but also spoke English very well. After that, she successfully applied for an international journalist.
Shanshan's weight loss experience is so counter-attack, we can't help but feel the belly and fat of our general and swear to join her running and lose weight on the spot.
Shanshan called the waiter on the spot and asked him to take away all our drinks: "From now on, you can't drink sugary drinks, just drink plain water like me!" "
We have just vowed that we suddenly lost confidence before we started running, and simply confiscated coffee and juice, which has already made us panic. As a result, everyone regressed and said that it was nothing to gain weight. Another guy shook his chin and said that he was not fat at all and enjoyed the present state.
Shanshan stood up smartly and gulped down the boiling water: "Go on, I'm going on a date!" " "
At that moment, I suddenly remembered her when she just graduated from college. She is so shy that she is always afraid of standing in public, talking loudly and falling in love. Now she is completely different, and that kind of self-confidence, calmness and calmness is fascinating.
We are all feeling that maybe people's beauty also has stages. But only if you have the courage to change yourself and are willing to work hard to be a better one. And you don't know how long this effort will take, just like walking in the dark, just like running in the morning fog. You don't know when a light will light up ahead, but you must run.
The so-called courage to change and challenge yourself is actually to get rid of the familiar "psychological comfort zone".
Psychologists vividly take seawater as an example to divide human understanding of the outside world into three areas: shore, shallow water area and deep water area. And this area on the shore is people's "psychological comfort zone".
If you are a person who can't swim, you must feel that it is safest to stay in the comfort zone on the shore, and every step forward will increase your panic and anxiety. So many people prefer to stay in the comfort zone on the shore. People who are addicted to the "psychological comfort zone" may be employees who are dissatisfied with the status quo and want to quit but dare not; Perhaps it is a single Wang who longs for love but dies at home; Maybe it's just that we are dissatisfied with our figure, and we want to lose weight but we can't work as hard as Shanshan.
Whenever someone asks me, is it really that important to keep trying?
I always think of Shanshan's experience. If persistence is not so important, maybe after graduation, she will work like us, ignore her weight and become the humble fat man in the office. If persistence is not so important, she may not stay at home alone to prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination. One exam is three years.
During the three years of her postgraduate entrance examination, many students have become old employees of the company, and they have already relaxed their vigilance and become numb in the familiar working environment. This is how the gap is formed. You're still marking time. You've let your guard down. Others are still trying and running. Because the comfortable coast is not static, when the sea is high, the comfortable area is likely to be submerged. Just like if we don't improve ourselves, the comfort zone will get smaller and smaller. Eventually, the comfort zone will disappear, and you will be troubled by panic and anxiety when you stand in the same place.
Each of us is advancing wave after wave on the road of changing ourselves. It's not that you can be a better self after seven years, but that you insist on being a better self and work hard for it, and you will become what you want to be.
Before you leave, please reflect on yourself three times a day and ask yourself, have you really lost weight? Handsome? Is it beautiful? Rich? If you are silent, please work hard silently and throw away that poor self-deception! (Excerpted from Na Wei's "The world never owes anyone who works hard")
About the author: Na Wei, pen name Wei Xiaoyi, a typical Pisces woman, graduated from Southwest Jiaotong University. A good girl who has no thorns and is easily entangled. In the new book "The People Who Never Work Hard in the World", Na Wei proves that "I choose to drift from place to place for my dream, and I will not give up even if I work hard". Believe in yourself, look forward to tomorrow and run hard. Because of this world, we never owe everyone who works hard.