There is also a group of people who "have vision but don't want to look you in the eye, have language but can't communicate with you, have hearing but always turn a deaf ear, and have behavior but always run counter to your wishes ..." People can't explain it, so they have to call it "children of stars"-just like the stars in the sky, one person and one world, flashing alone.
The two kinds of people who didn't intersect originally are finally closely linked because of their love for life and destiny. The first kind of people, because of their disadvantages compared with normal people, have become an advantage in front of "star children" They are commonly known as "pocket people".
Li Haimin and Fei Yongling are "pocket people" who accompany autistic children known as "children of stars" to study and grow together with love and responsibility. In the company of getting to know each other all the way, they lived together, holding hands with their children and growing old together, becoming enviable "little couples".
Love is bound by a thread, and everyone is a guardian.
Pocket people, due to congenital enzyme metabolism defects such as mucopolysaccharide deposition and glycogen accumulation, will be 30% shorter than normal children in the future growth process, and the height of adults is about 120 cm, also known as short stature. They are getting old, but their "childlike innocence" remains.
According to statistics, China has a pocket population of about 5 million, and it is still growing every year, and there may be more in the future. They are short, but optimistic.
Li Haimin, a 42-year-old, pocket-sized man with a height of1.48m, is from Gutian County, Fujian Province. He is a famous local painter. Before he met Fei Yongling, he worked in the Painting and Calligraphy Association.
Fei Yongling, 38 years old, with a height of1.25m, is from Zhangqiu County, Shandong Province. Because she loves preschool education, she has been engaged in preschool education for many years. Later, she founded a kindergarten at home and came into contact with some special children such as autism in her teaching.
Because of her work, Fei Yongling gradually wants to help more children who are exposed to autistic children, but she suffers from the lack of more scientific methods to educate them and the lack of local autism rehabilitation institutions. By chance, when she was studying autism rehabilitation knowledge online, she learned that the pocket-sized education model of "helping the disabled with the disabled" launched by Zhengzhou Kangda Ability Training Center was recruiting pocket-sized teachers, so she rushed to Zhengzhou from her hometown in Shandong to apply for a job, and finally stayed in Kangda to really contact and learn autism rehabilitation training methods, and formed an indissoluble bond with the children here.
It was here that Fei Yongling met Li Haimin, who later came to work here.
After knowing Fei Yongling, Li Haimin gradually came into contact with "children of stars" and found that these children lived in their own world and refused to communicate with the outside world. They live a simple and lonely life. Many of them are born with autism and have never felt the colorful world, so it is very difficult to communicate with them.
However, the communication between the two became natural and familiar because of their hobbies and the nature of their work. With the deepening of understanding, Li Haimin fell in love with this kind and pure girl. In the four years that Kangda accompanied autistic children, they joined the ranks of special education teachers, and together with the founder Professor Zhang Gui 'e, they set up "Home Organization" and "Nature House" to study the concept of "love and nature" and lead autistic children of different ages to live and study happily.
It is also here that I met many pocket friends from different places, relying on each other, encouraging each other and guarding the "children of the stars" together.
As pocket people, they wrote a hymn of great love because they became attached to the children of the stars.
Li Haimin said with deep feelings: "Fate has brought us together. I am guarding her, and she is also guarding me. We are all guarding the children of the stars".
There is a kind of love in this world, regardless of high or low, regardless of race and color, just because you met the right person at the right time, and then came together hand in hand because of fate.
Needless to say, because of mutual trust, they met and fell in love in Zhengzhou for the same ideal and pursuit, holding each other's hands and moving forward.
Love is the only commitment to the truth hand in hand.
In the company where we have known each other for more than four years, Li Haimin always thinks of Fei Yongling when talking about her present job. She is the "Lingling" in her mouth, and she helped him. "We are all teachers engaged in special education now. My students are all autistic children. They also have a name, called children of stars. Lingling is like an angel girl. Although this angel forgot to bring growth powder when she landed on the earth, she is still beautiful. "
Because pocket people can't have children for life, Li Haimin and Fei Yongling regard the autistic children here as their closest relatives.
Lingling is a teacher who loves to laugh and is deeply loved by children. She said, "Pocket people and autistic children are spiritually connected. Because of their height defects, they were afraid to contact outsiders from an early age. Most of them grew up under the care of their parents and are very eager for social acceptance. Therefore, we can psychologically integrate with autistic children. "
It is this empathy, this spirit of self-improvement of pocket teachers that makes their bodies and minds full of sunshine, and they will be infected together. Their optimism, cheerfulness, friendliness and positive interaction are also passed on to autistic children.
They are the "elves" who guard the growth of "Xiaoyu people" in Kangda Ability Training Center, because their bodies are similar to those of children. For these rainy people in Mao Mao, they are just playmates. Playing games with them feels equal.
In class, they use their height to blend in with the children. "In the hearts of these children, our height is the same as that of children, and their defense against us will gradually decline, which is conducive to their rehabilitation training." Li Haimin and Fei Yongling are very satisfied with their work here, because for them, this is the need of life, but it is also a sacred responsibility. "The special education industry is the hardest occupation. Due to the particularity of students, it brings difficulties to teachers' work and teaching. On the one hand, this hardship reflects the extraordinary sense of responsibility and love of teachers in special schools; On the other hand, it reveals their unequal social status and corresponding sense of belonging. "
Therefore, they cherish this hard-won job that suits them more. They turn their love for each other into maternal love and fatherly love for their children. This kind of love spreads in a wider and deeper field, only to pay, without asking for anything in return, thus paying more hardships and efforts.
The maternal love and fatherly love of pocket teachers affect the mental health, personality development and potential ability of children with mental disorders and intellectual disabilities. They are children's mentors and their closest playmates.
On March 20 14, Li Haimin, Fei Yongling, etc. 10 qualified "pocket teachers" obtained the professional certificate of "autism therapist" through training. Their playmate advantage is not only accepted naturally by children in practice, but even parents and teachers can't help but admire it from the heart!
On September 10, on the occasion of the arrival of the 33rd Teachers' Day, they also took a group of beautiful wedding photos with the support of the caring photography agency.
Blue sky and white clouds, green grass like flowers, all the beautiful scenery set off their most beautiful figure and happiest smile, and also recorded the best moments in their lives with images.
At the shooting scene, Li Haimin wore a red suit and looked at the most beautiful bride affectionately. His excitement and joy are indescribable. He laughs like a swaying flower. He said emotionally, "I took a wedding photo with Lingling today, wearing a wedding dress, and looked at Lingling's shyness." I even think the wind in the whole sky has become cool and soft. I have fantasized countless times about how we walked into the marriage hall hand in hand, and today it has finally come true. "
Li Haimin looked at his lover with a happy face. Holding your hand and growing old with your son, this moment will always be the most unforgettable picture in their lives.
Lifelong companionship, love, integration and mutual acceptance
There is a lyric in the star-studded public service song "Daddy of the Stars" on World Autism Day: Everyone says that I am with you, but in fact, you are with me, which makes me know more about love and dedication. I still love you even if you are different all your life. Because of you, you are the only irreplaceable person in this world.
This is a song sung by star parents to autistic children, and it is also the heart of pocket people telling each other.
Li Haimin also made it clear at the moment of proposing marriage. "I use my 10 years old to let you accompany me for a lifetime. In my life of more than forty years, I have complained about my hesitation, but since I met you, every rainy day has been a rainbow. I want to hold your hand and spend the rest of my life together, long or short, but I know that happiness is just around the corner because of you. "
And we also know that this kind of companionship is more about holding hands.
They are the elves of Kangda who guard the growth of Xiaoyu people and the most sincere playmates of children. Playing games with them feels equal. Under the guidance of Director Zhang Gui 'e, these pocket teachers provide a loving nurturing environment for children in the natural environment of life with the teaching concept of love and nature, so that children can understand in application, apply in understanding, understand in repetition, expand in understanding, innovate in expansion, and be independent in innovation, so that children can unconsciously interact with others in the happy game of life and experience the true meaning of life in a quiet and moist way.
In the long-term teaching practice, Li Haimin and Fei Yongling's pocket-sized integrated education team, with their unique teaching mode, conscientious working attitude and silent dedication spirit, contributed their own light and heat to the rehabilitation of children with special autism!
From 20 14, Zhengzhou Kangda Ability Training Center recruited the first batch of 10 pocket teachers to act as children's playmates to open a new model of pocket integration education and set up a pocket integration department.
For more than two years, Pocket teachers and autistic children have been "holding a group to keep warm", which not only helps autistic children integrate into the collective with the help of Pocket people's "small and exquisite", but also allows Pocket people to find their own dignity and realize their own value in this starry sky. Pocket teacher is not only versatile, rich in body language, but also exaggerated and pleasing. Many children who love to be angry and never talk gradually smile, and their efforts have also been recognized by parents of autistic children.
Pocket men and autistic children "embrace each other to keep warm" and help the disabled, which not only solves the employment problem of pocket men, but also helps autistic children recover by using the height characteristics of pocket men. At the same time, in the field of autism rehabilitation, Pocket people are not only brothers and sisters, but also special education teachers, enjoying the same respect and dignity as other teachers.
In the past two years, the integration of this love has made them live happily together. The pocket employment assistance project of Zhengzhou Kangda Ability Training Center has helped more than 50 pocket people find jobs. As playmates of autistic children, Pocket People like Li Haimin and Fei Yongling have also become qualified special education teachers, helping more autistic children to achieve integration, and their life value has been reflected in the process of realizing Pocket People's employment.
Lingling is not only a patient special education teacher, but also a virtuous and gentle woman in her life. She likes making all kinds of handicrafts. When Li Haimin was painting, she was quietly doing manual work, enjoying the peace and happiness at that moment. She said, "We usually like to cook at home. In the eyes of others, we are all children, but normal people can do it, and we are also eager for love. " Fei Yongling flushed, and she laughed.
On September 16, Kangda, where they work, will also celebrate the 5 th anniversary of the founding of the school/KLOC-0. "Pocket lovers" will also enter the marriage hall with the witness and blessing of their loved ones, and make a lifelong commitment to each other. They will also hold the best wedding in their lives in Kangda, where they will leave the best memories in their lives.
Because, in the past four years, they have too many wonderful memories.
Talk about life after work, cook with other teaching assistants and stay in school. "Because we are all brothers and sisters linked by the same fate, there is no discrimination and ridicule from outside. I am very happy and happy with these children. " Li Haimin said. I mentioned joining this special education teacher because of love. After four years away, I am about to get married. I am very touched and grateful.
For the future, Li Haimin and Fei Yongling hope to help children with special needs in the work of teachers, and as always, pay attention to autistic children and care for these "star children".
On the wedding day, those pocket colleagues who work and live with them also become the best man and bridesmaid beside them, witnessing the most beautiful moment of their love with their relatives and caring people from all walks of life, and sincerely wishing them a happy wedding! A hundred years of harmony!
(Text | Xu Hengfu)