In the process of pregnancy, we are also choosing. For work, there is always a good body after childbirth. Some things are just temporarily put aside. The most important thing at present is to take good care of your health.

As a pregnant woman, mood is particularly important. Be heartless for a while. You are not a saint, don't blame yourself. You can't bear all the burdens of life.

I feel dizzy. I have all the difficulties. We should deal with them one by one, or everyone will be annoyed if they are crowded together.

First of all, it should be pointed out that this should not be a problem for you alone. And your husband and family. Someone has to share it with you. What you can do at present is to ignore the unemployment problem and talk about it later. Melancholy, we must find out the reason, and whether it has developed to the degree of disease. If so, you should go to the hospital for examination and treatment. Also, because of the reaction of pregnancy, we should also know some solutions and consult a doctor.

I think, if you sort out your thoughts and solve them one by one, or part of them, your stress will be relieved, and then you can prepare for labor with peace of mind.

Is that so? Wish you all the best.

Summarize several key words that may lead to depression, such as unemployment, old age, labor and morning sickness.

I can probably figure out the reason why you are depressed. It may be because of the old age and poor health, which leads to severe dizziness. I need to rest at home and can't go to work normally. Unemployment means no income, no right to speak and no value in life. ...

I think it is very normal and understandable that you have this kind of anxiety and depression.

If you don't talk empty, you will serve dry goods.

First of all, according to your situation, I suggest you improve it mainly from three aspects.

First of all, for people who are unemployed and recuperating at home, if your previous work technology is not particularly high, then I recommend you to go to the websites of some Japanese companies and do some simple work within your power, such as brushing the bill.

If your previous work is very technical, I suggest you sum up your experience and lessons, organize your work experience and write a course, and then extend your course to Viku or other reliable platforms to see if there are any platforms that are willing to let you start at home.

As long as you can earn money, you can relieve anxiety symptoms.

Maybe you will ask why I don't recommend you to write from the media, or do WeChat business, or make videos? After all, this is what freelancers are most likely to do at present.

First of all, shoot a video, because you are in poor physical condition now. Shooting a video is a physical activity, and you need to shoot many paragraphs constantly. In addition, we need to plan and copy to ensure that the video content is rich, and we also need to edit, understand the market and understand the audience's preferences.

This thing is not as simple as you think, but it is actually very difficult to do. So I don't think you should try at this time when your physical condition is very bad.

And if you shoot a video, you may pay great attention to the amount of video. If the amount of video is not ideal, it may not only not relieve your depression, but also aggravate it.

Most importantly, no one knows whether his video will be popular, so you have to keep shooting this for a long time, and there is great psychological pressure to make money from it.

Based on your current depression, I suggest you not try.

Besides, writing, I don't recommend you to do it. Although the threshold seems to be low, the principle is similar to that of video, which is very laborious and may not be profitable in the early stage.

It is more suitable to start a part-time job. If you do this full-time, your family must be rich.

But since you are anxious about unemployment, it proves that your family background is not very rich. Then in this case, you don't need to challenge such a difficult job.

Then talk about WeChat business. As for the WeChat business, I have tried a little myself, but the WeChat business is actually not good.

One is that you need to choose products, and choosing products is very eye-catching. The other is that you need to broaden the publicity at this early stage, that is, you need to let everyone know about your store and trust you, so that you can have traffic and sell things.

This kind of early flow is not easy to accumulate, so it is not recommended.

Then I said the second aspect, morning sickness, poor health.

It's important to listen to the doctor.

Go to a big hospital in your city to find a good doctor, and the doctor will try to prescribe some medicine to relieve your condition, so you must cooperate with the doctor for active treatment and don't make fun of your health.

Third, listen to soothing pure music.

Don't stay at home alone and daydream, find some music to listen to, or find some TV series to distract yourself.

These are the practical ways I can think of to help you relieve your depression.

I wish you a speedy recovery! Everything goes well!

Pregnant mothers have a lot of worries about the future. When their children are born, they will have to spend more money, but they are still unemployed. Old age also has many effects on pregnancy, which increases many dangers, not to mention pregnancy vomiting.

You didn't mention your husband He should be your important support system. You can tell him your worries and fears, or what happened between you?

Sometimes our lives don't always move forward. Sometimes we turn around and stop. We just have time to take care of the children when we are not working, so we can press the pause button to enrich ourselves and prepare for the future.

No matter what happens at any time, you should keep an optimistic attitude.

There is always sunshine after the storm.

There is no motivation without pressure, and there is not enough motivation if there is too much pressure. For example, the protagonist in the article is a typical "stressful mountain", unemployed and an elderly woman. She faces the torture of reducing morning sickness every day. This kind of pressure is really difficult for ordinary people to accept and face. Is that it? Obviously not, it should be said that there are many difficulties, but think about what this difficulty is. There are not many people around you who are more difficult than this. Didn't they all survive? Now one is better than the other. We must firmly believe that our tomorrow will be better.

There is no hurdle to get through. Your reality is really difficult, but it is not a big hurdle. At present, the most urgent thing to be solved is morning sickness, strengthening examination, ensuring good health and giving birth to healthy children smoothly. It is irresponsible for the next generation to keep a good mood and a good law, and not to let your emotions affect the normal development of the fetus. If the fetus can't develop normally and has physical defects, it's not worse. We must give birth to the baby healthily.

There is no mountain you can't climb. Delivery is not a problem, including morning sickness, which is a normal reaction. Your biggest problem is that you are old, especially an elderly woman, and there is indeed a certain risk of childbirth. But you must believe in science and medicine. The past was a problem, and the present is not necessarily a problem. The 67-year-old "grandmother-level" mother can give birth normally. Are you 67 years old? Of course not. Then what are you afraid of and depressed about? According to the requirements of "pregnant in October", pay more attention, be more careful and be more careful. Having children is not a problem at all. If you are afraid of problems, you should strengthen the inspection. Just follow the doctor's advice and let me do what I can. There is no need to make a fuss about it.

There is no river you can't cross. Your situation is nothing more than unemployment, no stable income, plus pregnancy, and you have to raise children in the future. Where do you need money, you are broke. These are temporary, temporary difficulties, not even difficulties. Why do you say that? Because you haven't changed now, just complaining about the difficulties and not trying to overcome them. For example, unemployment does not mean no income. You can take advantage of the opportunity of being pregnant at home to engage in some internet work and engage in some e-commerce and WeChat business. There are many jobs suitable for you online now. As long as you adjust your mood and divert your energy, you won't worry about making milk powder money.

Sunshine always comes after the storm, so don't be afraid of anything. You know, the solution is always more difficult than it is. When ideas change, the world becomes wider, and ideas are all gold.

Dear pregnant mother, I want to give you a big hug when I see your title! I'm sure you must be having a hard time at the moment and need comfort and answers. I am now the mother of a 1 1 month-old baby. Most of the problems you are facing now are in the early stage, so I feel the same way, so I will answer your question.

The difficulties you are facing now are all kinds of unemployment, depression, elderly women and morning sickness. It sounds like it's really falling apart, but I think we can prioritize and solve it step by step.

In view of the problems you are currently facing, I will give you a priority of difficulty first. I thought the same thing.

1, morning sickness torture

2. Melancholy

3. Older women

4. Unemployment

Why is this sort? How to solve them one by one?

First, morning sickness torture: I don't know what your specific gestational age is now. But as far as my experience is concerned, most morning sickness is more serious during the period from 40 days to three months of pregnancy. Of course, many people have vomiting during pregnancy. Pregnancy vomiting reaction began around 42 days of pregnancy. I didn't vomit very badly at first, but I was so sick that I couldn't smell anything (oil smoke, paint, smoke, perfume, etc.). ).

My experience is to eat, you must eat! If you throw up, eat it! Although the baby is still very young at this time, serious morning sickness will definitely affect physical and mental health, especially now the baby is still unstable, and all aspects of nutritional emotions will affect fetal protection. Be sure to eat well. Of course, I know that morning sickness must be unbearable. What should I do?

1, eat some fruits that can relieve morning sickness: tomatoes, cherries and apples were my favorite foods at that time.

2, eat soda cookies: morning sickness will lead to dehydration, eating soda cookies will have a good relief. I ate a lot at first, too I recommend eating soda cookies scattered in snack bars.

3, eat candied fruit: because during pregnancy, for the safety of the baby, try not to eat pickled products, so I only eat plum when I am pregnant, there are many flavors, and the most effective one I eat is green plum.

4, drink homemade lemonade: honey lemon soaked in water, every time I get sick, I will drink a little instead of boiled water, and the effect is not bad. Special reminder, don't eat hawthorn. Although hawthorn is very useful for treating nausea and morning sickness, it can cause severe uterine contraction and miscarriage.

5. Smell my favorite smell: Since I will feel pregnant and vomit after smelling it, I will drop the perfume I am still used to on a small square towel and carry it with me. It will be much more comfortable to smell it in case of abnormal situation. Be sure to try to isolate all kinds of smells.

Second, melancholy.

Melancholy is a big or small thing. Affected by the hormone level during pregnancy, I am worried about my physical condition, my baby's health, my job, the economic pressure, my confusion about the future, and even my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after giving birth. It will be very melancholy to think about it. I was the same.

But you should know that being immersed in depression will only make your state worse. Moreover, depression during pregnancy does not affect the pregnant mother herself, but also affects the baby's development problems, including the baby's future personality. Serious can also lead to postpartum depression. A treasure mother around me was sick during pregnancy, and her husband and mother-in-law didn't take good care of her diet. She kept losing her temper, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became more tense after delivery, and finally she had to rely on medication.

Of course, these are extreme situations. Let's solve the melancholy problem as soon as possible. My suggestion is:

Listen to more soothing music. On the one hand, prenatal education can be carried out, on the other hand, it is to stabilize the mood. I like listening to pure piano music and guzheng music. You can try.

2. Raise some small plants. If you have experience in planting succulents, it is recommended to raise succulents. If you are a plant killer, raise some simple small green plants, such as ivy, green radish and white palm, which can also purify the air. During pregnancy, I raised about 30 pots of meat on the balcony of the office, and I spent an hour taking care of it every afternoon, which felt particularly good.

I have a meat horn.

3. Watch some relaxing idol dramas. I especially like to watch some costume dramas during pregnancy, especially there are many handsome guys and beautiful women in China, and the plot is very simple. These dramas don't seem to take much brains, the plots are not cruel, there is no pressure, and they are very relaxed. Of course, we can also consider variety shows like the legendary swordsman and the legendary swordsman, and the results are good.

4. Shopping. If shopping in a bad mood can solve the past problems, this choice is also good, at least I am. Shopping during pregnancy can increase the amount of exercise, but it is not recommended to walk more in the first three months of pregnancy because the fetus is still unstable.

5. communicate more. If you are depressed, don't be depressed. Communicating with familiar people can release stress. If you are embarrassed to talk to your friends around you, you can also talk to your friends online. During pregnancy, I found a mother with similar topics and backgrounds in the mother group to communicate with each other and support each other through many stages of pregnancy. Now we are also good sisters.

Third, elderly women.

I don't know your exact age. Now that I am old, I should be in my thirties. I was 34 years old when I was pregnant, not too young, and it was my first child. Naturally, my family and doctors will be particularly nervous. However, the current medical level is still very advanced, coupled with people's maintenance and health awareness, the overall physical quality is still ok. I believe that your so-called advanced age is not a problem, as long as you have regular pregnancy tests, strictly follow the doctor's advice during the process, and choose the production method safely during production. Don't worry too much.

Fourth, unemployment.

Although the economic base determines the superstructure, women must have their own careers. But what I want to say is that for a woman, pregnancy and childbirth are definitely very, very important things in her life. In order to give birth to a healthy baby smoothly, temporary unemployment is not unemployment, but selective abandonment.

1, since you call yourself an older woman, you should be in your thirties and have more than ten years of work experience. I believe you have your own ability and accumulation after you return to the workplace. You will find a suitable job, and you are in no hurry.

2, pregnancy is a physical activity, if you encounter workplace discrimination at work, the boss does not understand, but it is even more difficult. I might as well quit my job and have a baby at home. I have been working in HR, and many colleagues will choose to leave without pay or resign after pregnancy. It is much more important to raise a baby and recuperate than to work hard for a year's company income.

The current unemployment may not give you another career choice. If you have been in the original workplace, it is difficult to have the courage to jump out and change jobs or careers. But after having a baby, many people will face the problem of career choice. For example, I used to be a middle-level supervisor in a company, and my work pace was very fast. After maternity leave, I can't take care of my family and children when I return to the workplace. So I chose to quit my job and start a business. Now you just have a chance to think about what you are suitable for after having children in the future.

Can postpartum depression be good? Eleven years after giving birth to a child, I still occasionally have symptoms of depression! Inexplicably pessimistic, unable to lift the spirit. I took conditioning drugs, but it didn't work.

Postpartum depression refers to the anxiety of pregnant women after giving birth, such as worrying that they can't take care of their children, the contradiction between husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, worrying that their children won't study hard when they grow up, and worrying that they can't find a job after going out. Parents give birth because the hormones in the body change, leading to physical discomfort, fatigue, getting up at night for their children and so on.

Depression, the principle of other mental diseases is the same, it is formed when the state is not good, but sometimes the environment has changed and it is not good. This is because depression is an automatic thinking process, which is stubborn and will not disappear by itself, so it always feels bad and uncomfortable.

This automatic thinking needs to be changed through study and practice. On the basis of seeing your own advantages, you know you can do it well. Be considerate between husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and improve the skills of educating children and going out to work. This negative automatic thinking can be transformed into positive automatic thinking.

By the way, it can be restored.

Older pregnant women are high-risk groups. Vomiting is a common adverse reaction of many pregnant women. As long as it is not a pathological factor, it is normal. Pay more attention to eating habits and emotional stress regulation, exercise properly during pregnancy, and mix nutrition reasonably. Unemployment may bring stress to life. Learn to accept. If pregnant women have reasonable maternity leave, they can coordinate maternity leave with employers and have appropriate subsidies.