How to deal with the relationship between roommates? The most difficult thing to get along with in college is the dormitory relationship in college. Students from all over the world gather together, and their customs and hobbies may be very different. Let's share how to handle the relationship between roommates. Come and have a look.
How to deal with roommate relationship 1 work and rest with roommates in a unified way
There are three or four, five or six or even more people living together in a dormitory, so it is advisable to have a unified schedule to adjust. Only when we coordinate and abide by * * * can we reduce disputes, eliminate friction and maintain normal life order. If you are a "night owl", you go to bed very late at night and wait until all the dormitory members are asleep before washing and sleeping, which will easily wake others up and affect their rest. Over time, you will arouse the resentment of your roommates. Therefore, all members of the dormitory should try to unify their living time and reduce the gap between work and rest. If something really happens, members who get up early or go to bed late should also try to reduce the influence of sound and light on their roommates.
Do not engage in "small groups"
In the dormitory, we should treat everyone equally, don't favor one over the other, make friends with some people and alienate others. Some people like to be close to the dormitory. Usually, they always whisper to the same person. No matter what they do, they go in and out with one person. It's easy to make other members of the dormitory unhappy and think that you disdain to associate with them. As a result, you two may have a good relationship, but you have alienated others. This is not conducive to the establishment of a harmonious dormitory relationship, and it is not worth the loss. We are not opposed to the establishment of profound friendship, but we must never sacrifice the width and breadth of friendship.
Don't invade others' privacy.
Everyone has his own secrets and enough curiosity. We shouldn't try our best to explore the privacy of roommates. When the other party turns a field into privacy, it has a special sensitivity to this field, and any topic that tries to break into this field is not welcome. It is especially important to note that you must not rummage through your roommate's clothes without his consent. Pay special attention to this problem, and don't change with it, thinking that you are an acquaintance and ignoring the details.
Take an active part in group activities
Dormitory activities are not only an activity, but also an important form of connecting feelings between roommates, so they should actively participate in cooperation. Don't naively treat group activities as purely boring actions and show disdain. In fact, they are all emotional inputs, and they are indispensable. Roommates decide what to do together, and we should respect their choices. If you really can't attend, you can put forward your own ideas and opinions. Don't reluctantly participate, but let your roommates feel that you are dealing with things. Don't flatly refuse to hurt their interest.
Don't speak too fast.
Sleeping in the party is an important activity in the dormitory. Roommates exchange information and opinions with each other, which was originally a pleasant thing, but they often have disputes over trivial matters, and the "sleeping party" has become a "war of words." Some people like to make fun of others and take advantage of others. Even if they are joking, they will not end up with their own losses. Some people like to argue, trying to persuade roommates to show their abilities and let them "respect" themselves; Some people are afraid of being looked down upon, so they deliberately play the devil's advocate in the "sleeping party" and even expose their own shortcomings and make personal attacks on others.
Finish the chores that should be done
The chores that every member of the dormitory should do not only refer to doing his own thing well, but also include doing the collective thing well. Some people are lazy at home and everything is taken care of by their families. Living in the dormitory inevitably exposes their bad habits: they never boil water and drink others' every day; Clothes don't pay attention to finishing, and they breathe a sigh of relief; The public health of the dormitory is even more indifferent, sweeping the floor, cleaning the doors and windows, etc. What roommates expect-I don't think any group will welcome a selfish, lazy and untidy person. Therefore, you must try your best to do your own housework, don't expect others to "help" you, and develop the good habit of doing everything yourself.
Active communication.
When communicating, first make it clear that you are friendly rather than antagonistic, and then express the objective facts and your feelings and needs, so that the other party can accept them more easily. Remember: communication is not a competition, but a win-win situation.
How to deal with roommate relationship II. How to correctly handle interpersonal relationship in dormitory?
1. Create a harmonious dormitory atmosphere and find a sense of belonging.
Everyone has lived under the same roof for so long, but they don't look up every day. If a dormitory has a harmonious atmosphere, roommates will feel that they are relatives from other places, and everyone will feel at home in the dormitory, which is of great help to study and life.
2. Have a tolerant heart.
Everyone lives together and comes from all corners of the country. Living habits and ways of thinking are somewhat different. There will always be friction, but you must first have a tolerant heart. When there is a contradiction, you should take the first step. I'm sure he won't argue with you and will take the initiative to make concessions.
3, sometimes pretend to be "amnesia"
If the contradiction has occurred and intensified, you can go back to the dormitory at night, pretend to forget, and take the initiative to talk to the other side of the contradiction. Such a small matter, it is estimated that the other party should be angry at this time.
4. There must be principles.
The most important thing in life is to have principles. If the roommate's behavior is morally corrupt and even touches the boundaries of the law, we must firmly uphold our principles and give her correct help.
How to deal with the relationship between roommates 3 Pay attention to your own discretion and don't speak ill of you behind your back.
Some students are careless. They mean no harm, but the way they talk when they get along for a long time will be unbearable. The so-called frankness, true temperament, honesty and frankness will all become low emotional intelligence and poisonous tongue. If you don't shut up, don't pay attention to your words, joke with your roommate at will, and say cruel words, then you will only lose a friend. Most people are sensitive inside and can't stand jokes. No matter how good the relationship is, they should be measured. Some words are very hurtful, such as excessive jokes, sarcasm, sarcasm, etc. And don't stab in the back and speak ill of others. If there is any contradiction, say it face to face and solve it in time. It is disrespectful to speak ill of others behind their backs, which lowers their personal quality.
Respect the privacy of others and do not interfere.
University dormitory is a collective life, and personal privacy is easily magnified. In order to leave some space for themselves, ordinary college students will install a shading cloth at the bedside, which can not only prevent mosquitoes from blocking the light, but also have a small world of their own. Under this shade, everyone can do what they like and don't want to be disturbed by the outside world. Therefore, when roommates get along in the dormitory, if they see that they put shade cloth down, are doing their own thing, want to talk to her, or go to her bed, they must say hello first, and can't intrude into other people's private space.
Also, don't peek at other people's cell phone messages. Sometimes roommates go to take a shower, and their cell phones vibrate and text messages pop up. Some people, out of curiosity, can't help but peek at who sent the message first, and then peek at other people's content. This kind of behavior is very bad, it is extremely disrespectful to roommates, and it is easy to arouse others' disgust. Don't interfere too much with roommates' life.
It's best not to involve money. Talking about money hurts feelings.
"Talking about money hurts feelings" has been tried and tested in real life, and the relationship between university dormitories is no exception. It's best not to involve money when getting along with roommates. A good roommate borrows money from you. Do you want to borrow it? This is a difficult problem. If TA doesn't take the initiative to pay back the money, and you don't ask TA to pay back the money, then the lent money will be wasted. If you don't borrow it, the other party may say that you don't regard TA as a friend, play the card of bitterness and carry out moral kidnapping.
Generally speaking, parents give their children living expenses every month, which can meet everyone's basic needs. It stands to reason that they will not fall to the point where money is not enough. Most people who borrow money like their neighbors have more or less problems with their consumption concepts. Therefore, everyone should also establish a rational consumption concept during college, and don't talk about money with roommates, which is easy to cause disputes.
Learning to be tolerant is a compulsory course in life.
There are few perfect people in the world, and roommates inevitably have some shortcomings. As long as we don't touch the issue of principle, we can avoid unnecessary contradictions and reduce conflicts by being more tolerant and understanding when we get along. Learning to be tolerant is a compulsory course in life, which can make people grow up, be less haggle over every ounce, be more considerate of each other and fight less in the dormitory.