One day in May the year before last, I lost weight at first. In order to urge myself, I shared my recent weight loss among my girlfriends.

Are there any "friends" around you who try their best to pull you to do other things when you are ready to lose weight or study?

This seemingly caring person always pulls you for fun, but as soon as you try hard, you immediately jump out to interfere with your "friends", which is a kind of garbage person that is difficult to identify.

In communication, there are two similar garbage people, which will seriously interfere with our mentality and life. And it is easy to appear in places close to us.

In order to avoid their bad effects, we should learn to identify them.

As mentioned above, Sister Ping, my best friend who tried to stop me from losing weight, is such a person.

This kind of person is more likely to appear in intimate relationships. She knows your temper better, has a fixed impression on you, is more likely to know your recent situation, and is afraid that your change will affect your communication.

Therefore, when they find that you have become better, they will destroy your plans under various flags and hinder you from implementing those plans.

Sometimes, it is even euphemistically called for your own good, or afraid of losing you.

However, how cool Excellence will be, only when you do it yourself will you know.

So, when such friends appear, tell them what is happening now is very important to you and ask them to respect you. If they can't help you carry out your plan well, at least don't make trouble.

Maybe everyone is surrounded by people spreading negative energy.

When friends get together or chat, they spit out their bosses and colleagues and complain about the unfairness of their work, feeling that the whole world is sorry for them.

As long as I seize the opportunity, I will talk to you nonstop. Your comfort or forgiveness means nothing to them, it will only make you have a headache and sigh.

It's really tiring to communicate with such people. The speaker is their emotional trash can. He talks endlessly and dumps emotional rubbish mercilessly.

This kind of spit is heard too much, and the listener has no power to parry at all. Most of them will be affected, causing negative emotions and even causing depression and anxiety.

In order to prevent ourselves from being hurt like this, we should stop such spitting in time.

If it's no use changing the topic, please tell the other person directly that you don't want to hear these topics; If not, temporarily cutting off contact with such people is to protect yourself.

This kind of person has two branches:

One is self-centered, the other is to belittle others and raise themselves;

First, always be the leader of the circle of friends. You are weaker than him. Once you surpass him a little, he won't scoff, and he may suppress you in the circle of friends.

In an instant, everyone's relationship suddenly opened, and sadness and confusion were inevitable.

However, returning to his recognized communication mode is the ultimate goal of this wave of operation.

On the other hand, I usually have no confidence. When I see others doing things, I start to pay attention and always say a few more words.

Either it's too late to start now, or it's meaningless rational persuasion.

Until one day you give up, he will appear again and say, "Look, I told you I couldn't." Still looking forward.

These two people are willing to blow your confidence, but your disappointment and lack of confidence are the nourishment he needs.

Although friends have a heart-to-heart relationship and don't ask everyone for help, such people are definitely not real friends.

Even if it is lost, there is no need to be sad; This may be the beginning to make yourself better.

Each of us is an independent individual in the world. Accept that friendship has a time limit.

Friends and family will accompany you through a long or short journey, but the direction of your destination still depends on you.

It is human instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, so is interpersonal communication.

There are several ways to deal with "garbage people":

1, please remember that the road to Excellence is always hard and lonely. Before you succeed, you don't have to tell others, just work hard in silence.

2, birds of a feather flock together, people are divided into groups, make more positive friends, and have the same goal in order to urge each other to move forward;

3. Keep active, keep learning and form your own values, so as not to be influenced by others' words;

4. If you meet a friend who can't respect your ideas and declare your boundaries, you can remain independent;

5. When you meet someone who keeps beating you and preventing you from getting better, after several persuasion, you can end this relationship as appropriate. Only in this way can we meet like-minded friends.

I hope dear you, stay away from garbage people and keep your energy and confidence to yourself, getting better and better.