I was excited to build this group for many days, because this is the first large group in my life. The original intention of building a group is to share some good books of activities with you in the group, and don't want to brush the screen in the circle of friends. But after careful consideration, I decided not to let this meaningful group become too smelly, so I finally changed it into a "reading and parenting sharing group" and became a group of everyone. You can share your parenting experience here, and you can also discuss it with you when you encounter some parenting confusion.
I am a full-time mother, my son 1 1, and my daughter is 3 years old.
When my son was born, I was a baby spoiled by my parents. My son gave me kindergarten since I was a child, so my son's arrival didn't fully awaken my maternal love and sense of responsibility. I play with my son every day like a big boy, and I don't pay much attention to reading with him, and I often criticize and blame him. By the time my son was about to enter the first grade, he had TIC disorder. It's not serious, but it scared us. The symptoms improved after taking the medicine, so we took him to see a psychologist. Only then did I know that there was something wrong with my upbringing. So I also started my own way of learning and growing. I bought all kinds of psychology and parenting courses and books, listened when I was free, read when I was free, and slowly began to pay attention to my words and deeds to my children. I have invested so much and learned a lot about parenting, but the best way is to find the one that suits me. But the most important thing on the way to parenting is love. It won't be bad to get a child who loves enough. I'm still groping my way forward.
The daughter is luckier than her son because she met her growing mother. As soon as she was born, I abandoned the traditional way of raising and gave her enough love and freedom (love is not doting and doting, freedom is not laissez-faire, and love and freedom cannot be separated from rules and respect). Accompany her attentively every day, and have at least half an hour of parent-child reading time every day. I bought her a children's song when I was one year old. 10 yuan. Unexpectedly, such a humble book has become her daily reading list for the next year (it is no exaggeration to say that reading every day). Now the book has turned over and several pages have fallen off.
Children who study are really different. My daughter's thinking and language skills are very developed. She will pop up good words and sentences from time to time, often make up stories with books, and learn many English words, which may be related to girls' genes.
Of course, not every mother can work full-time like me. If parents don't have time to spend with their children, don't worry too much. As long as we can accompany them attentively and intently, even if it is only 5 minutes, 10 minutes is the best gift and the most precious wealth for children. Don't worry about missing the best parenting opportunity, because children's love for our parents is unconditional. As long as parents are willing to change, children will feel that they are the happiest.
Man is a complex system. As long as the input is slightly changed, countless possibilities will appear at the output. Let's study together, grow together and give our children a harmonious and beautiful family of origin. As for his future, let him make his own decision!
Finally, thank you again for reading.