Think about a problem
1. To sum up, what methods do you have to educate your children?
2. When is it inappropriate to criticize and accuse children?
Teacher Boren summed up the method of teaching children with his own proof, that is, parents should set an example and practice, give their children unconditional love, husband and wife harmony, family harmony and give them enough sense of security.
Speaking of parents setting an example, I think of a boy who shared such a true story with me. He went home with his mother to buy biscuits, and her mother found that the seller had given them two yuan more. Her mother urged the boy to return the extra two yuan. The boy is very reluctant. He thought that the other party had the wrong number, not his problem. Isn't it just two dollars? It's not worth running back to deliver. The boy insisted on not going back to send it. Without saying anything, the mother got on the electric car and dragged the boy to the stall selling biscuits. When she arrived, the seller of baked wheat cakes had packed up the booth and went home. Mother put two yuan in their sesame seed cake stall and left a note. These are two extra ones from Yuan You. Please check it. The boy told me that from this incident, he learned to be honest, and he could not have anything that was not his own. Boys and mothers don't talk more, but set a good example for their children with their own practice. Children don't look at what their parents say, but what their parents do. Parents should set an example and children should follow suit.
My husband likes to get up early and runs 10 km every day. Although he never asked his children to run, after the children saw him running, his father was healthier and his blood pressure was better! The effect of slimming is very obvious, the body is very light, the mood is also very happy, and the children are also insisting on getting up early to run. It seems very important to prove with facts and speak with facts.
Speaking of unconditional love, just like Mr. Boren's grandfather, I think what my mother gave me was unconditional love. My mother always cares about my health and happiness. People care whether I fly high or not. My mother cares whether I am tired or not. No matter what I do, my mother can always tolerate me. In her eyes, I am the brightest star in the sky. Strange to say, the more my mother cares about my health, not my grades, the more I want to study hard and not live up to my mother's expectations. Because all I get from my mother is full of love and strength. I'm also reflecting on myself. What does my son get from me? Is it warmth and confidence?
It is very important to have a harmonious family relationship. My parents quarreled when I was a child. I am particularly unhappy. I always thought that my parents quarreled because I didn't work well myself. I always feel guilty. At a very young age, I sacrificed my time with my partner to help my parents do housework like an adult. Behind a child's obedience and diligence is fear and worry. I want to make my parents not quarrel through my own efforts. Knowing how I felt when I was a child, I seldom quarreled with my husband! If my husband loses his temper with me, I will bear it silently and deal with it when he loses his temper and his mood is stable, so as to avoid intensifying contradictions and reducing quarrels.
I remember that in class, a boy sitting in the front row was distracted and answered irrelevant questions, far from the way he usually listened carefully. After class, I quietly asked the boy that you were in a daze in this class. What happened? The boy burst into tears. The boy said that his father was drunk today and he would beat his mother at home. I am so worried about my mother that I don't want to hear it at all. Although the boy is not at home, he can foresee that his parents will quarrel at home. A harmonious family means that father loves mother and mother loves children. There is tolerance, understanding, warm love and laughter in the family. Parents constantly give their children the psychological nutrition they need to grow up, and their children will grow up healthily and happily.
Dear family, in order to better support the children, when things happen, husband and wife should discuss with each other, communicate with each other attentively, and fight as little as possible. Do you often quarrel in your life? What are you going to do in the future?
In terms of educating children, Ji Xiaolan, a famous scholar in Qing Dynasty, had the requirements of "under temptation" and "four clothes" for children:
Under the temptation: As soon as he gave up staying up late, Zeng Guofan thought that staying up late was the evil virtue of the prodigal family, and getting up early was the first secret of health preservation.
Second, abstain from laziness, third, abstain from luxury, and be proud under temptation.
Four clothes: first, study hard; Second, respect teachers; Third, love; Fourth, eat carefully. At the same time, the ancients also told us to pay attention to the "seven non-responsibilities" in educating children:
1. Not responsible to the public.
Don't blame the children in public.
2. Shame and regret
When children feel guilty and regret, parents should stop criticizing and blaming their children, otherwise it will have a negative impact on their psychology and is not conducive to their healthy growth.
Irresponsible at dusk
Don't blame the children before going to bed at night. If the parents blame him at this time, the child will go to bed with depression, either unable to sleep at night or having nightmares, which will affect his sleep, things will not be solved and his health will be poor.
4. Eating is not responsible
Criticizing and educating children at their parents' dinner table will not only affect their appetite, but also ruin the quiet family time, making them feel that eating with their parents is a painful thing, causing psychological depression and deepening the gap.
6. Being happy is irresponsible
When people are happy, the meridians are in an unobstructed state. If the child is suddenly blamed, the meridians will immediately hold back, which is very harmful to the child's health.
6. Sadness is irresponsible
When the child is particularly sad, parents will blame him, and the child will feel "more uncomfortable" and fall into depression.
7. There is no responsibility for illness
Don't blame your children when they are ill.
Children don't complain about their parents.
1. Don't complain about your parents' incompetence.
Don't complain about your parents' verbosity.
Don't complain about your parents' complaints
4. Don't complain that your parents are slow.
Don't complain about your parents' illness.
Let's make a brief summary. Ji Xiaolan was tempted to put forward the idea of educating children. The ancients told us that educating children is not responsible for seven things, and children do not blame their parents for five things.
Homework exercises
1. Whenever you want to lose your temper and quarrel, think about your child's feelings.
2. Keep learning, improve communication skills, and prevent quarrels from becoming the only way to solve problems.
Dear family, children are the future of the motherland and the hope of the family. In order to better support children, let's do a good job of proof and example, give children the psychological nutrition and unconditional love they need to grow up, and achieve harmony between husband and wife and family, so as to achieve the four benefits and seven responsibilities under temptation and five grievances against parents. I wish every child a healthy and happy growth and every family a harmonious and happy life. We have learned so much today. Thank you, Teacher Boren, and thank you all.