In Being a Terrible Self-disciplined Man, Dr. Marshall Goodsmith found that the main reason why our plans and other problems failed was not ourselves, nor the behavior or the plan itself, but the environment that made us make unwanted choices, or more specifically, we used the wrong method. This is a good excuse for procrastination and lack of self-discipline.
Marshall Goodsmith, as an executive coach, is not a scientist in the laboratory. For the past 35 years, he has been committed to helping leaders to be self-disciplined. Even adopted a very interesting payment method, that is, when conducting leadership training, if the other party does not achieve the expected results, it will not receive a penny. This shows his confidence in this field, and with this model, he has led more than 150 CEOs to success, including many executives from well-known companies such as McKinsey and Ford.
In his research and practice, he summed up a set of methods that can help people improve their self-discipline ability quickly-self-questioning method. And in order to benefit more people, he and new york Bronxville company writer agent Mark? Wright wrote this book "Being a Terrible Self-disciplined Person" together, hoping that through six questions a day, we can enhance our enthusiasm for action, achieve our goals better, and then become a terrible self-disciplined person. Therefore, after reading this book, you will gain at least two things:
(1) Learn a simple way to become self-disciplined;
(2) Improve your mobility and make yourself regret less and less.
Just like leaving the warm bed in the morning and immediately entering the cold environment, becoming self-disciplined is a matter of challenging humanity and getting people out of the comfort zone. Therefore, only if you really want to change can you reap good results.
In the author's research, he found that many people have changed suddenly after experiencing some major changes, but some people have not changed even after experiencing major changes, which is why most of us are ordinary.
The author summarizes 15 ways of thinking that prevent us from "changing". According to this 15 question, we can find out the reasons that prevent us from walking out of our comfort zone. Among them, such misconceptions as "I won't give in to temptation", "I won't be tired" and "I won't be distracted" are mainly because we overestimate ourselves and hinder our progress.
Therefore, in order to become self-disciplined, we must first examine our own hearts and find the sustained motivation that can support our actions from our hearts, so as to help us better develop the habit of self-discipline.
Different from other books that help people change their habits, Being a Self-disciplined Person has no content about how to set goals and make plans, but chooses to ask questions to help us achieve self-discipline.
In the book, from Emily's personal experience, we can understand the specific usage of "self-discipline punch card with problems":
? Step 1: Choose six target habits that we want to develop, such as getting up early, reading and losing weight. , and fill in the "punch table" in turn;
? Step 2: Set a fixed time and ask yourself in turn every day, "Did I do my best …?" ;
? Step 3: according to your performance, then fill in the corresponding grid with data, which can be expressed by "ABCD" or "1~ 10", and the standard can be determined according to personal wishes;
? Step 4: Stick to it until you really become self-disciplined, and then gradually reduce the old goals and add new ones.
Emily successfully lost 25 kilograms on the 63rd day by self-discipline, passed the sommelier exam, and insisted on exercising five times a week ... Through hard work, she achieved all her goals one by one.
Questioning method, magical self, is more like a seed of psychological commitment or belief than a method. Bury it in our bodies, let good habits take root and sprout through "questioning", and let us become a more self-disciplined person.
I like this sentence very much: "The best time to plant a tree is ten years ago, followed by now." For us, if we want to form good habits, we don't have to continue to envy others; If you want to be what you want to be, you don't have to hesitate; If you want to live the life you want, you don't have to wait blindly or rely on others. You just need to take action from now on, form a good habit of self-discipline, and change yourself and your life by questioning.
Don't feel difficult or afraid, remember: as long as you start to change, everything will change.