Kevin Yan came home from work and saw that the child's ear had been bitten by mosquitoes. He said nothing and began to blame Du Ruoxi. Not only that, when looking for a nanny, he has been seriously evaluating his aunt, while Kevin Yan is absent-minded It seems that none of this is his business. Are similar scenes familiar? The wife is busy at home, and the husband is a shopkeeper who cuts vegetables. It can be said that Du Ruoxi is a typical widowed marriage. Yan Kaiwen is like a child. He can't afford to stay at home. Everything is subject to Du Ruoxi. Even when they held their wedding, Du Ruoxi was always in charge. In other words, Du Ruoxi gave Kevin Yan a wedding. I really admire Du Ruoxi. Facing her husband's laziness, she never gets angry, but works hard silently.
It really hurts to see her so independent and strong.
Many people say that Du Ruoxi is very strong, capable of supporting his family and fighting for his own career. In fact, no one is born strong, and those who look strong just have no one to rely on. Kevin Yan No matter what happens at home, someone has to take care of it, and that person must be Du Ruoxi. Predictably, in their home, Du Ruoxi has long been used to supporting everything alone, but she sometimes collapses. Talking about the difficult course of her comeback, she participated in the rehearsal of "I am an Actor" until three o'clock in the morning and only slept for four hours for three consecutive days. Because I was pregnant for too long, I couldn't find the state and couldn't remember my lines at all. Mom is not that strong, and she is often forced to help.
In a widowed marriage, women often lead a life of depression and pain. This is a family responsibility of two people, but a woman has to bear it alone. The other party has no idea what you did. He just lives in his own world and enjoys himself. Women's tolerance and patience are only for men. Over time, disappointment accumulated enough, and they left. In modern society, widowed marriage is killing women constantly.
? Shen Lijun has cervical cancer, but her husband didn't say hello, but said she did it herself. In that long article, there is despair She said, I didn't cry. I can't shed a tear. I'm sadder than dead.
It is said that marriage is a woman's destination, but sometimes it is really not. Marriage is more of a shackle for women, tying you to your children and husband, where there is poetry and distance. In My Young Couple, Tamia Liu's husband asked a question: Why are modern women so anxious that they are in a hurry to come back after giving birth? In fact, the reason is very simple, a sense of crisis and security. Because taking care of children at home, your efforts are often not recognized. Even if you take good care of your children, arrange your housework clearly and cook well, your husband may not appreciate this value. ?
Du Ruoxi said that he would feel safe only when he returned to work. Qi Lanfeng also said that it is a burden to use her husband's money, and it is natural to use her own money. In modern society, marriage really gives women too little sense of security. If you stay at home full-time, your husband will dislike you for not making money. If you work hard for your career, you will be rejected regardless of your family. Taking care of career and family is considered as the standard of women's success. However, it is not easy to do this.
Some people say: "In fact, girls are not afraid of getting married, taking care of children and doing housework. They are not afraid of suffering and fatigue, and they are afraid that their suffering and fatigue will be taken for granted by their husbands. Not being understood and respected, but also enduring all kinds of ironic remarks, this is the most chilling. "
Du Ruoxi, the epitome of widowed marriage, also shows the embarrassing situation of women.
How do you balance your career and family? Such problems always appear in front of women. Men never seem to have to worry about the impact of getting married and having children on their careers. It is normal for men to delay their wives and children because they focus on their careers. Even in the eyes of many people, it is a woman's task to undertake housework and take care of children.
As long as the cancer of feudal thought is not carved at the root, widowed marriage will not disappear.
Actor Xia Keli said in the book, "Many people hold a grudge against their partners. They do housework or are busy with work and take care of children. In fact, these complaints go without saying, because these are all things you two should do. It is natural to accompany children, and it is also natural to work to make money. What's to complain about? Only when two people share housework can they realize the hardships of dealing with trivial matters and exchange feelings with each other. " It is true that marriage is not a one-man show. Only when two people play this play well can they play a wonderful life.
? Men need self-realization, and women still need it. For men, while respecting and supporting their wives' career, they should also bear some responsibilities at home so that women have no worries. For a woman, you don't have to stay at home wholeheartedly. You can have your own career and socialize. To be a good wife and mother, you must first be yourself. Marriage needs two people to support each other, communicate sincerely and work together. Husband and wife cannot be separated.