My husband works in a factory and estimates junior high school culture.
Now my cousin is 25 years old. She just graduated from college and worked for a year. She has known her husband for seven or eight years. She will give birth next month, and her figure has become bloated because of pregnancy.
I don't know why I used to be so excited to attend other people's weddings, but now I feel that I am not moved by their love and I am not happy at all. Instead, I feel sorry for my cousin and uncle.
Why do you say that?
My uncle has high hopes for my cousin, saving money for undergraduate study, never letting my cousin suffer a little, and my cousin never makes money to repay my uncle.
This is the second, the female university does not stay, she wants to marry, and her parents can't stop it.
The point is that I thought my cousin should find a better family anyway. At least she also went to college and increased her knowledge. In terms of appearance and education, she dumped her husband for a few blocks, but the in-laws she married were not as good as herself.
The married life of my husband's family is that, it is very common to guess the future life at a glance in the village in my hometown. It is because I am too familiar with this kind of married life that I feel unhappy.
As true relatives, everyone sincerely hopes that my cousin will be happy and that she can marry better.
Husband doesn't have a stable job, so he works hard when he has goods in the factory, and plays when he doesn't have goods. No social security, no annual leave, no welfare. The whole family is still struggling for food and clothing.
Some people may say that I am so snobbish and pessimistic, others are true love, so what if the conditions are poor.
Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what?
When I reach my age, get married and have children, and look back at the marriage of young people, I will find that love is sometimes worthless in the face of cruel reality and really can't stand the blow.
It can be said that the man you married and his in-laws are in poor condition, and the tears you shed after marriage are the debts you paid for your love.
Many problems in marriage are all about money in the final analysis. Without money, we must calculate money everywhere. Pay more and you won't have much money on you. If you don't pay, you will be scolded by your in-laws.
What kind of man does she choose and what kind of marriage life does a woman lead? After marriage, I think marriage is a woman's second life.
We can't choose our origins, our parents, but we have full autonomy in choosing our husbands. What kind of man you live with, what kind of life you have.
When you choose a man with poor background, you can see at a glance that he is not very creative, which shows that your future life is basically like this. The second half of a woman's life is basically formed at the moment of marriage.
Unless this man has an infinite future and extraordinary skills, he can start his own business and reach the peak of his life, otherwise he will basically be like this all his life, working in a factory with unstable income.
I suddenly feel so sad at the thought of this.
I have attended many weddings and met many brides and grooms. Some people are unhappy in marriage, and whether their husbands have great prospects can basically be judged at the moment of marriage.
Someone once asked on the Zhihu: "What weddings do you think you can guess at a glance that the marriage will not last?"
Although we are neither fortune-tellers nor fortune-tellers, as a researcher of people's emotions, I am bound to observe and think more than others, not only depending on whether a man has money now, but also on his own quality. This is called acquired creativity.
It's not that I haven't seen cases where my parents-in-law didn't like it at first and refused to marry. Later, a man made a fortune and was very kind to his wife.
But this means that women should have a good eye to find the bright spots in men. To put it bluntly, men are not bad at ambition. This kind of man, when a woman marries him, is equivalent to investing in potential stocks and betting the rest of her life.
If you win the bet, you won't have to live too hard for the rest of your life. If you lose the bet, you can only accept your fate. No one forced you to get married, and your parents couldn't stop you. You're not complaining.
After all, my cousin got married, and her husband's family gave a bride price of 30,000 yuan, and the family prepared a dowry of 1 10,000 yuan and 20,000 yuan in cash. Her family helps her daughter start a business and can only help her. The future can only be left to her cousin.
Looking at her eight-month pregnancy, plus-size wedding dress and dragon and phoenix dress, I silently wished her: "I wish you happiness for the rest of your life, and I hope you can win the bet."
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