Whose child is this? In the eyes of many parents, children are the continuation of their own lives, so they are qualified to arrange and control their children's lives.
But love is not only protection, but also a shackle. Children are independent lives, and too much intervention will make them lose their lives.
Xiao Lu, the protagonist, has lived under the arrangement and control of her mother since childhood, from what clothes to marriage and career.
After graduating from the college entrance examination, her mother chose oil and gas for her, which is close to home. She quietly changed her favorite design major far from home. My mother must be very angry as a result.
So she can only know her mother and video with her mother at the specified time every day; Mom will also check her mobile phone from time to time, and check her phone call records in the mobile hall every month.
Lu Xiao fell in love with a tall, handsome and positive boy he liked, thinking that he could get married after graduation.
As expected, she was opposed by her mother, who might not hesitate to go to the boy's father's unit to make trouble, which led the man to force his son to break up with Lu Xiao.
My mother has found her a good marriage partner. That's my mother's subordinate's son, who does everything my mother says. His son worked without graduating from junior high school in order to enter the unit.
Mother said: when you marry into such a family, you will be like me in the future, and everything will be up to you.
Mother finally moved Lu Xiao's words: When you get married, I won't bother you. Therefore, Lu Xiao got married.
At first, it was ok. Two years later, she had a child and Lu Xiao's mother retired. She failed to help Lu Xiao's husband get the position of section chief, so Lu Xiao suffered from domestic violence.
Husband said: I will hit you if you don't do what your family promised me.
I went home to complain to my mother, and she said, you must be disobedient before others will hit you.
Later, Lu Xiao divorced, resigned, immediately became his own studio, and met a like-minded person. Two people are getting married. As a result, my mother said, when you come back, I have found you a job and a person, and you will get married.
Lu Xiao doesn't want to go. As a result, her mother guessed her salary card password and took all the money directly.
Lu Xiao looked for her mother and wanted to come back.
As a result, my mother said, you are really heartless. I work hard for you, but you know nothing about your hometown.
Xiao Lu knelt down and wept, but her mother was indifferent.
Later, Lu Xiao began to smash things, smashing everything she saw.
When she was taken to the hospital, she kept shouting at the top of her lungs: Why did you do this to me?
Later, Lu Xiao was transferred to a mental hospital.
Doesn't mom love Xiao Lu?
No, she is. It's just that her love is suffocating.
She paved the way for her daughter with everything she thought was good. She took great pains and tried her best, always thinking that as long as everything was ready, the child would not suffer and she could live as happily as herself for a lifetime.
But she doesn't know that the road is on her own, and no one can replace another person.
It is inevitable to encounter setbacks and difficulties on the road, so that children can grow up and become stronger in the process of overcoming setbacks.
On the contrary, if parents blindly interfere with their children's choices and use their own ideas to help others make judgments, they will not only ruin themselves, but also their children's lives.