Zhang Shaohua frequented hospitals, and his physical condition can be imagined. But most of the time, she is alone in the hospital. On the one hand, the media accused Zhang Shaohua's son of being unfilial, while Zhang Shaohua tried to praise his son's kindness. Such embarrassing feelings, Zhang Shaohua is willing.
Giving is also a kind of happiness The news about Zhang Shaohua is all over the sky. More people associate her with the mother who was rejected by her son in My Ugly Mother, and her bad karma image is thus established. Especially in recent years, she has been lying in the hospital with no one to take care of her, which shows the fickle feelings of Zhang Shaohua's son.
As we all know, Zhang Shaohua has a godson, Yang Zhigang, who is famous for his filial piety to his godmother. I was also photographed visiting my godmother in the hospital, taking care of the old lady after work, and finally helping her pack up and leave the hospital and driving her away. No comparison, no harm. Although Zhang Shaohua has repeatedly shirked his son's busy work, compared with the behavior of the big star Yang Zhigang, this reason is obviously untenable.
In fact, in the entertainment circle, Zhang Shaohua has many sons. After decades of debut, I was a professional mother, and my feelings with my son continued from the play to the outside. For example, Zhao Yi, the co-star in "Go Home and See", often brings gifts to the old lady after a business trip in other places. Zhang Shaohua felt the children's filial piety, which made her more gentle.
Zhang Shaohua is 83 years old, so she should have retired long ago. Besides, she is in poor health and should rest at home. But Zhang Shaohua's love of acting is part of the reason. She also wants to earn more money to pay off her son's mortgage. Beijing, with an inch of land and gold, is a place that my son can afford alone.
In the interview, we saw that Zhang Shaohua and her boss lived in an old house, which was allocated to her by China Theatre 1982, with only 40 square meters. But she bought a house with a loan of 100 meter in Beijing for her son, and she is still helping to repay the mortgage. Yang Zhigang, the adopted son, also knew that it was not easy for the old lady, so when he sent his blessing, he said, "I hope my adopted mother can move to a new home next year.".
Although she is skinny and in poor health, we watched her adopted son Yang Zhigang's new play Braveheart 2 until last year. In the play, she is completely different from reality, and she seems to be a different person. In such difficult days, Zhang Shaohua always smiles.
After all, in the old lady's view, it is a blessing to help her son make money at such a big age. She is happy to perform and return the favor to her son. It is even happier to think that she can buy a house for her son. After all, Zhang Shaohua always felt that "I owe my son, and I am not a qualified mother".
Make up for companionship with money
Although Zhang Shaohua always praises her son's kindness, she also admits that her relationship with him is very polite, unlike her own mother and son. Her son will alienate her and treat her as a stranger. Zhang Shaohua understands her son very well. Maybe before her son 14 years old, the couple really did something wrong.
In fact, before giving birth to a son, Zhang Shaohua and his wife were not prepared, and the child came unexpectedly. But that's Zhang Shaohua's husband working in China Theatre, where she is also an actress. They are both too busy to take care of the children. Finally, for their career, they left their son in the care of Zhang Shaohua's mother.
Both of them are Ju Ping actors, so they really can't make much money in Beijing. So I live with my mother for a long time, make money regularly every month, and only meet her on holidays. This life lasted for 14 years, and they didn't take their children back to take care of themselves until their mother was in poor health. However, the missing feelings in 14 cannot be cultivated overnight.
Although the children came back to live together, Zhang Shaohua and her husband kept working and didn't spend much time with their children. In this way, they missed their son's childhood and adolescence, and the relationship between mother and child was difficult to ease. Zhang Shaohua's busy work didn't stop until his son came of age.
Zhang Shaohua tried to bridge the gap between her and her son, but when she had time, his son had graduated from Tsinghua University, went out to fight for his own career, and then had his own home, and time waited for no one. So Zhang Shaohua was thinking, since I feel guilty about my children, I should make it up with something else. At this point, money becomes the only choice.
So Zhang Shaohua and her husband discussed finding a home for his son and family in Beijing. The old couple, who are over 500 years old, are naturally under pressure to borrow money to buy a house and repay the loan. In order to make money, the old lady attacked the entertainment circle. Starting from a walk-on step by step, with a lot of big names, it gradually became famous and earned more.
He didn't earn as much as Zhang Shaohua, so he naturally chose to go back to his family and help his son take care of his granddaughter. So the lifestyle of the family became a son and daughter-in-law fighting for their careers. Zhang Shaohua came out to film, and the old man took care of his granddaughter, but the division of labor was clear. But can money really make up for family ties?
The son is the most filial. When reporters come to interview, Zhang Shaohua always praises his son's kindness. Because of her lung disease for so many years, her son bought her a moxibustion instrument of 5,000 yuan and an oxygen supply machine of 4,000 yuan. 40 square meters of small home, these two machines are very big and conspicuous, and Zhang Shaohua looks happy.
Some people always say that she is ill and her son has no one to take care of. Zhang Shaohua clarified that his son was busy with work and had no time to come. But in fact, after work, he will come to the hospital to take care of her, and others will not know about it. For this son who respects her very much and is very polite to her, Zhang Shaohua bluntly said that his son is a dutiful son and is very filial to her.
Daughter-in-law once visited Zhang Shaohua for an interview and publicly thanked "Mom makes money for us and Dad helps us with our children. We thank you. " Zhang Shaohua naturally knew that her son and daughter-in-law were busy, but she didn't want her son to go his own way and mistreat her granddaughter. So the family made the only family rule "be sure to have dinner with the children every night and take a walk together as much as possible".
Work is no excuse, and money can't make up for family ties. This is the deepest lesson of 83-year-old Zhang Shaohua. When someone asks her what she wants to say to her son, Zhang Shaohua always feels endless guilt. She said that 10' s apology could not make up for her son. So she can only be kind to her son and do something for him, so that she can be a mother for nothing.
The conclusion that "companionship is the longest confession" also applies to family ties. When you are away when you should be with your children most, your family will naturally be weaker. Being mentally prepared and having enough time and energy to take care of the children is responsible for yourself and for the children's life. Money can't make up for affection, but companionship can. So it is more practical to spend time with children than to earn money.