I'm glad to answer your question. What should I do if I can't bear to leave my child? I summarized it, hoping to help you.
First of all, children are the pride of parents, and everyone will be very sad without children!
This kind of mood, every parent can understand and experience. However, as fathers, we should understand that our relationship with our children has been drifting away from each other since the day they were born. Children will grow up slowly, and when they grow up, they will leave us to go to school and work, so be prepared psychologically in advance, so that when they really leave, you will not feel so bad. I will gradually accept this reality.
Secondly, we should adjust our mentality and enrich ourselves.
For whatever reason, I left the child. We all need to adjust our mentality, just as children will grow up and live independently. Take it easy. In fact, the technology is so developed now, the traffic is so convenient, and the network is also very convenient for video communication. If we want to have children, we can video and make phone calls every day. You can also take the bus, the high-speed train or the plane if you have something to do, so the distance is not too big a problem.
If so, you are still very sad. You can find ways to enrich yourself, so you won't have so much time to miss, and you will get used to it after a while.
Third, you can make full use of this time to do what you like.
Generally, parents are always around their children when they are around, so you don't have much time. You can make good use of this time to do what you like. You can play your hobby!
The above is my personal opinion. I hope my answer can help you!
It's unbearable to leave the children. I think I'd be happy to answer this question.
In 20 12, a pair of twin sons were born, from 20 12 to 20 16, and they continued to suffer in these years.
20 13 years, forced to go out to work. I was betrayed and abandoned when my child was less than one year old. As the saying goes, that's because I'm a daughter-in-law from other places. I left my children and couldn't sleep every night. I often fall asleep in tears. It is best to have a job during the day. Finally, I was at 2065438.
In 20 14, he went out to work, and then his mother kicked me out. I rented a house and lived outside to work. On holidays, I will go back to see the children as soon as I have time. That kind of heartache, that kind of endurance, no one can get it, suffering, women can have no men, no everyone. The only thing I can't do is leave myself, the piece of meat that fell from me.
Every day, I paralyze myself with my work, laughing and doing nothing, especially in the dead of night, I often hide and cry secretly, feeling helpless.
In 20 16, I finally chose to divorce, even though I had to tolerate him before. Whatever. How is he? In the past, he didn't give me money, didn't give me living expenses, worked two jobs during the day to earn money to support himself, and he didn't give me baby milk powder or diapers, even though he betrayed me, cheated me, hurt me, abandoned me and left me with holes. I accepted it all.
20 14! I got pregnant unexpectedly. I went to the hospital to beat my child after pregnancy and didn't stay for a month. I didn't rest. I depend on myself for everything. I still look after the children by myself. Why did I divorce on 20 16? I'd better be pregnant. Their family wants a daughter. Their family has been sons for generations, and there are no girls. At this moment, he hit me.
His mother was there, and so was his brother and sister-in-law. No one came to persuade me, just watching him hit me on the sofa. In a rage, I left the house and started renting a house again. I moved out of their house to rent a house and tossed it back and forth six times. If he bought something nice outside, if he said something nice, I would go back with him for the sake of the children.
20 16 after the divorce, I still rent my own house. In that city, I didn't leave that city, and my children couldn't bear to be separated from their own. At that time, I cried myself to sleep every night by drinking, thinking that I could not give my children a complete home and a happy childhood, so I was helpless and tired.
That year, I took care of my children on Saturday and Sunday and sent them back to my grandmother's house on Friday. Because I had to work, I persisted for more than a year. I didn't earn any money in that city, but all the money was spent on children. 20 17, go out to work. Although everyone has gone to other places, I often go back to that city because I didn't return the house. When I was 20 17, he wanted to remarry me, but I refused. I'd rather live alone and go back to see the children when I have time than go back to that home. In that family, I have no position to say. I was rejected by them like a piece of shit. After leaving them, I will earn my own money. When I get rich, I'll take my children out to play. Instead, you will be polite to me.
But I often feel sorry for my children, day and night.
20 18 years, I am no longer in that city. In the second half of 20 18, I left the city completely. I rented the house there and I didn't return it. I went back, and I went to see the children when I got back. I knew my youngest son was playing with her grandmother at 20 18. I am sad. I am sad. I will never starve him to death in my life. I'll raise him, and he doesn't agree. He said that this life will make my heart restless, and I will lose two sons in this life. I said you were sorry for me, and I forgave you, but in the end, you still hurt me.
Because he knew that my mother had been married four times,
I wander alone,
Refused to go back to that home,
So he thinks I'm easy to bully,
I feel sad for countless nights when I think of my child crying for countless nights. Sometimes I can really feel the pain inside, especially in the past two years. Since 16 divorced, her hair has turned a lot whiter.
It is difficult for you to leave your children, which shows that you love your children. A person who loves children will eventually return to their children and believe in themselves.
However, you have to improve yourself from three aspects to get close to children.
First, you should have higher pursuit in economy. Before you want to do something, you must first have a stable high income as your financial support.
Besides your normal job, you can find some part-time jobs that suit you in your life. In this way, we can not only have some financial flexibility, but also get out of sadness and become calm.
Second, improve your ability to do things. It is sad to leave your child, so you may worry about many things when dealing with things, which shows that your ability to deal with some things is not enough.
Find some famous books to read, or find some books that inspire you, naturally apply what is said in the books to your life, and slowly you can handle things with ease. Then, your communication skills with your children will be much stronger, and many things can be recovered slowly.
The third is to start a new life. A person who doesn't love himself won't love you; On the contrary, learn to love yourself, and you will find that more and more people will pay attention to you, appreciate you and share your gains with you, so you will have more opportunities. At this time, you will not only focus on the discomfort of leaving your child.
Remember, you have discretionary financial ability, calmness in getting along with others and your own pursuit, so it is easy to solve some problems. I hope you will be with your children as soon as possible and everyone will live a happy life.
I'm glad to answer your question. It is inevitable that you will feel uncomfortable when you leave your child. Cry if you want. It will make you feel better. Try to keep yourself busy so that you don't miss him so much. The following is my answer, hoping to help you.
Hello, Zhu Xiaomei, my diet gourmet.
I'm glad to answer this question.
I am also a baby mother of two children, and sometimes I feel very sad to leave my children occasionally. But parents should adapt. After all, children will grow up day by day and will always be farther and farther away from their parents. At first, I couldn't stand him leaving for half an hour, but then I got used to it. At first, when he went to kindergarten, I couldn't eat or sleep all day. I'll be fine after one semester. Finally, I hope you can get used to it soon!
Hello, I'm Tingting with big eyes, and I'm glad to answer this question. What should I do if I can't stand leaving my child?
I believe this problem is faced and experienced by most families at present. In order to live a better material life and give children better educational conditions in the future, they have to leave their children temporarily and go to work in cities far away from home, so that they can stay. Only those who have experienced it can feel the sadness.
When I took our family Dabao, I couldn't take care of the children because of the disharmony between my mother-in-law and my daughter-in-law and poor economic conditions. I also went to work in other places when I was almost eight months old. I was very sad at that time. I couldn't sleep for the first few days. Later, I had a belief in my heart that I would make more money in a few years and take my children with me. It doesn't matter if the family doesn't separate. That's why I work hard. Usually, I often call to ask about my child's situation, watch her in video and solve the suffering of lovesickness. I will stay at home for more than half a month every New Year to spend time with my children. I planned to take Dabao to study with me the year before last, but the bus service in the morning and evening was staggered from my working hours, which was quite good. As a result, Bauer's arrival upset the plan and had to be ruined. Now I also take care of two children in my hometown. Wait until Bao Xiao is weaned, and then plan to see what to do!
If the parents of Bao Ma cat have to leave their children, I suggest that it is best to take the baby to one year old, because the baby has stronger body resistance and is less likely to get sick. When children can go to kindergarten at the age of three, they can send their children to school and go to work by themselves. If her husband's salary is good, Ma Bao will quit her job to take care of the children for a few years, and then come out to work when she is older, or let her grandmother go to work with you to help take care of the children, so that you can go to work to take care of the children every day. The best of both worlds depends on her grandmother's willingness.
In short, if you work hard to earn money and have a certain economic foundation, you can take your children with you and don't let them be left behind again. It will be better for children to grow up around their parents, which will have an impact on their mind, personality, vision and speech. After all, the concept of education before and now is different. Grandparents are too fond of their children and arrogant.
The above is my answer, I hope I can help you, thank you!
Advanced technology, video call, take time to see the children if possible.
Tip: Sometimes separation means the beginning of children's independence.
As parents, people must go through some things when they reach middle age. Children have to go to school and work, so they have to leave their parents. As parents, there is no way to stay with their children all the time. Once a child studies and works in a different place, he can't go back many times a year. The remaining parents are usually called empty nesters. What shall we do? I think there are several ways to solve the problem and reduce children's mistakes.
Increase your hobbies. With more hobbies and rich life, there is no time to think! For example, you can dance and exercise in the square dance now. In the process of learning square dance, you can experience a lot of happiness, and you can make more friends when you go to the square. Or singing, in groups of three or five, with several sisters and brothers, singing outside can also make you feel happy. Have a holiday on weekends, go out more and see a different world.
If time permits, in addition to calling your child daily, you can also visit your child's study or work place and pay more attention to your child. If your children live well, your heart will be relieved.
If your child is still young and you can't bear to leave him, take him with you or go back to him! Parents are children's first teachers, and children need their parents' care, education and companionship. In particular, left-behind children in rural areas are more eager for their parents to return to their side. If the child is older, you should learn to let go and give him a free sky!