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Marriage counseling tells: hide what you can do and pass on what you can't do.
In the recently hit TV series "Big Rivers", Yang Xun, played by Dong Zijian, is concerned and loved by the audience because of his hard work and high emotional intelligence. So do you want to continue your marriage without the same language? Let's take a look at the article on marriage counseling in Bian Xiao.

Dad died young and his family background was not very good. Yang Xun had to drop out of school, but he didn't give up.

Humble, diligent, flexible and eloquent to his mother, Superman II is a rare sunshine teenager, which has become the basic temperament of his successful career and happy life.

Hearing that there are many opportunities in the Northeast, he went alone, hoping to create a job, and then he simply took his girlfriend Xiaoyun from the Northeast back to his hometown to start a business.

Yang Mu, who can be a female cadre, is not happy about this marriage. After explaining her mentality at home, she went to the area where her son opened a shop professionally.

Seeing that her eldest son lives with Xiaoyun, she is a little relieved, but she is heartbroken that her eldest son is not doing well. What if he is cheated? One is that Xiaoyun is two years older than his eldest son, and the other is that Xiaoyun is beautiful and unstable.

Yang Xun, who has a glib tongue, tried to comfort her mother at first, praising Xiaoyun for being obedient, living, saving money, cooking and hurting people, and undoubtedly living well with herself. He also said that a lot of money was in his own hands, which reassured his mother.

Yang's mother insisted that she didn't want to eat and left. She took the initiative to be wronged by Xiaoyun and played a small temper. She is going back to the Northeast to pack her bags, and Yang Xun begins to comfort Xiaoyun.

To say that mom is plain and sincere to her and then make money, you must give it to her first? Until Xiaoyun smiled through tears.

According to the marriage counseling, although he is just 20 years old, Yang Xun has long been a child prodigy of social development, and he deeply understands the truth that "both sides cannot escape".

The palms of his hands are covered with meat. He loves his girlfriend and mother. Only when they live in harmony can he get greater happiness.

There was once a pot friend K. It was because he didn't understand this truth that his marriage finally broke down.

K is considerate, straightforward and always outspoken. After marriage, he and his wife live in the module next to their parents.

I don't know if it's polite to leave my daily life several times, but K's mother loves her eldest son very much and lets them go home for dinner at night.

After several visits, my wife shouted that she couldn't go under the guise of losing weight.

As soon as my mother saw K's independence, she couldn't help gossiping about her daughter-in-law, saying that she looked down on her mother-in-law, didn't do housework, loved to spend money indiscriminately, and shouldn't spoil her like that?

K drank a little wine, and the more he listened, the more reasonable he became. He also feels that his wife has no face. When he came back, he left all the words intact to his wife.

His wife got angry and called him opinionated. She immediately replied:

I don't like eating, because I like one every time I cook. Why do women do housework and men can do it? Besides, money is earned by oneself, and no one cares how to spend it.

Then his wife went back to her mother's house in a rage and asked him to choose between "everyone" and "small family"

K saw his daughter-in-law run away and woke up half drunk. He also felt a little reasonable, so he ran to blame his mother, saying that her mother didn't show mercy, why didn't she cook something that her daughter-in-law liked to eat, and why should she care?

When mom heard this, she flew into a rage, called him heartless, and asked K to choose, either divorce or not have this mom.

Seeing his painful differences, everyone advised him not to take a message. K a face of regret:

What I said was all their original words, and there was gossip. What's wrong with that! ?

K didn't know it, but she destroyed the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with her sincerity and frankness, and demolished a home.

Wen Youwen told her story.

Wen is a beautiful woman with outstanding talent and appearance, elegant gas field, and her husband is not as good as her in all aspects.

The father-in-law is very picky about her choosing him, and often gossips about her husband in front of Wen.

Wen hardly took this matter to heart. He just told his parents how good he was at home. No matter what he takes, he always says that his husband asked him to take it.

When I came home, I never told my husband anything bad. No matter what I bring home from home, it is said that my parents asked her to give it to them professionally.

Once, she took her husband home for the holiday and wanted to buy something for her parents. Of course, her husband knows that her father-in-law looks down on himself, and some people don't like to see her spend so much money on so many items.

If she's smart, there's _ there's a scene.

Until the bride's house, she walked into the door with a big luggage, smiled and praised her husband loudly:

Dad, mom, look, I told him not to buy it, but he insisted on buying it for you. Where can I find such a good son-in-law? !

When I said this, my parents-in-law laughed heartily. She glanced at her husband, and his face turned a little red. She smirked at the two men.

On that day, Weng Xu must be happy.

From then on, if you go to your mother's house, no matter what she uses, her husband never looks at her face, and her father-in-law has just begun to look at him with special respect and admiration.

No one's happiness is to sit back and relax and enjoy it, but to enrich it step by step and focus on the overall situation.

As the old saying goes, you will do it, and you will hide it on both sides; It's hard to do, pass it on both sides.

Whether you are a wife or a husband, this truth goes without saying.

A good relationship between husband and wife must accommodate each other, make up for each other, and be a good bridge between each other and their families.

My father-in-law will think that his daughter is a little princess, and all the boys in the world are worthy of his daughter, so it is inevitable to find fault with his children.

Mother-in-law will also think that the eldest son is one in a million. At that time, whoever married the eldest son was a great blessing, and it was inevitable to find fault with his daughter-in-law.

But you need to have your own opinion, and you must keep your mouth shut. You don't have to send your parents' angry words or dissatisfied words to the other half.

The other half is wronged, and sometimes they can't help but say some cruel words, but it is only limited between husband and wife. Don't pass on frivolous words to your parents.

Think twice before you speak, and don't let unintentional words turn into a mountain city that hurts people.

If it reaches mom and dad's ears, it must be your secondary production and processing; Similarly, if it reaches your lover's ears, it must be carefully selected by you, and you can't say anything.

Wife and mother-in-law don't get along well, mostly because husband doesn't do very well; Husband can't get in touch with his wife's father-in-law, because his wife didn't do enough.

With love as the principle, everything can be negotiated peacefully (naturally, some strangers will not be removed).

It is said that parent-child relationship is useless. In fact, the key is whether to control your mouth.

It goes without saying that unity in the family is beneficial and not conducive to unity in the family; Good lies can be told more if they are conducive to family unity; If it is not conducive to unity, you don't have to say it.

Everyone has a steelyard in his heart.

On both sides of the scale, there are lovers and parents, as well as small families and everyone. Only balance is not unbalanced, and the decision is in your hands.

Do marriages without the same language continue? Do it, hide on both sides; It's hard to do, and it's just passed on both sides. This is the hot flush of running a marriage.