Man's body and mind are one. In the early childhood when the personality has not been fully molded, children's physical feelings have replaced their inner feelings, and at the same time, they have gradually strengthened their self-awareness of "body image" while building an independent space. Starting from distinguishing my body from my mother's body, distinguish that my mother's breasts are not mine, and the fingers I lick are mine. They are aware of their every body movement and confirm their appearance at the same time. By the age of two and a half, children's minds will form their own body image cognition. Therefore, when looking in the mirror, the child will know that the person in the mirror is himself. If you put a note on your child's face and let them sit in front of the mirror, they will naturally take it off. Because when they stand in front of the mirror, they always try to find their own image.

In Snow White, the queen asks the mirror every day, "Mirror, mirror, who is the most beautiful person in the world?"

"Of course it's you."

The queen may be an anxious woman. From humble status to queen, she was deeply jealous of the beauty of her own daughter. Only when she stands in front of the mirror every day and hears the words "you are the most beautiful" can she spend the day with peace of mind. Soon after, she heard the magic mirror say, "Now, Snow White is the most beautiful." Her confidence in her body image suddenly collapsed. In her opinion, if the magic mirror does not say that she is the most beautiful woman in the world, she will never live.

From this point of view, the queen's motive for trying to kill Snow White is not the most fundamental evil, but the hatred caused by the decline in her body image evaluation. Therefore, the only way to restore her spiritual world is to regain the "most beautiful" evaluation. So, killing Snow White became her only goal.

For men, male surgery can also be understood from a similar perspective. It is worth mentioning that compared with foreign psychiatrists who pay more attention to the treatment or consultation of sexual ability in sexual counseling, most sexual counseling in Korea is performed by male doctors. Because most people want to achieve their goals in the shortest time, instead of long-term counseling and accompanying action therapy training.

Want to be beautiful, want to be thin, want to be strong, can't be said to be wrong, but it is necessary for us to consider its methods. Plastic surgery, short-term slimming training or diagnosis and treatment, and male reproductive organ enlargement surgery all satisfy people's fantasy behavior of instant transformation, that is, the gorgeous fantasy of transforming into another person at one time. This illusion of transformation is deeply rooted and beyond imagination.

Andersen's fairy tales, Grimm's fairy tales and Korean traditional fairy tales all contain the fantasy of transformation, such as the story of Cinderella becoming a beautiful princess, and the story of an ugly duckling being despised by ducks but unconsciously becoming a beautiful swan.

We dream of change in our hearts, because we have the illusion of this change. But it can't be ignored that the combination of Cinderella and the prince turned Snow White, who met Prince Charming in the forest after eating poisoned apples, into an ugly duckling of a swan. None of them changed the status quo through the hero's real efforts: swans are different from ducks, while Cinderella was born with a beautiful appearance, and Snow White itself has a royal status. This kind of fairy tale can easily make people have unrealistic fantasies and lose their determination to work hard. Buried here, as long as you are thinner and cut your chin a little, you can meet the fantasy of Prince Charming.

The upsurge of plastic surgery and weight loss has become the savior of the transformation fantasy, but it also hides the idea of not wasting time and making efforts. In order to succeed and survive, the desire for a better appearance becomes more and more urgent, which leads to a downward trend in satisfaction with the current appearance. The dissatisfaction with real life is attributed to appearance, and the two are almost equal.

Few people will find reasons from themselves and make up for their shortcomings through hard work. Although I always care about the eyes of others, in fact, no one will always pay attention to you; I hope there will be a major turn for the better in my life, but the gloomy reality is always shrouded in shadows.

The solution to this situation is to realize that it is unrealistic and find another way out. If you do this, you will be lucky. Unfortunately, this is not the case. Most people are willing to undergo surgery again to improve their appearance on the pretext of unsuccessful or flawed surgery. Plastic surgery hospitals compete with obesity counseling and sex counseling in the same field, but they are still popular because addicted consumers who want to undergo surgery again play an important role.