What will a housewife lose when she is 10 years old?

Listen to the three second-born mothers.

"Roll, hurry up, the child is mine, the house is mine, the car is mine, even what you wear is mine. Get out. " The husband pointed his middle finger at Li Wei (a pseudonym) and roared loudly.

The ground was littered with debris thrown by her husband because he was angry. In the corner is 1 1 year-old eldest son and younger daughter under 3 years old who are scared to cry, and there is sporadic light snow outside.

And this day is 1 day of 202 1 year, which should have been a happy day for family reunion.

Li Wei, 36, is a housewife 1 1 year.

"Being a housewife for 1 1 years, I lost everyone's respect for me. 1 1 years have passed, and I am just a free nanny in this family. No, the nanny has salary and dignity, and I don't. " Li Wei cried.

Li Wei said that the reason for this conflict with her husband was that he thought she was not filial to her mother-in-law and didn't respect her sister.

On the evening of June 5438+February 3, 2020, my husband and friends went out for a drink, and Li Wei took care of two children at home. After dinner, she washed the dishes, washed the children's underwear by hand, washed toys, wiped the floor, helped the children with their homework, read picture books and played games ... Li Wei was lying in bed, all of which were 16544.

Li Weigang fell asleep and her drunken husband came back. He kicked two shoes, one to the door of the toilet, and then left them on the coffee table. Bang, bang, let Li Wei's heart pounding, because there are too many such days, and she knows that she can't escape being scolded.

Sure enough, her husband called Li's ex-boyfriend "disorderly", then disliked Li Weisheng's being in the countryside, and his relatives were much poorer, then ridiculed her figure for being out of shape and smelly, and then called her not filial to the elderly ... for a whole hour, it was different.

Li Wei didn't talk, because she didn't want to confront, quarrel, scold and fight with a drunk at two o'clock in the morning, scaring the two children, not to mention disturbing the neighbors.

In this way, the husband who scolded happily slept like a dead pig, while Li Wei wept until dawn because of anger and despair.

At about eight o'clock the next day, my mother-in-law who lives in the neighborhood next door called and said that my sister would come over for dinner today and asked Li Wei's family to come over early to help package jiaozi.

Li Wei's husband was awakened and flew into a rage. He blames Li Wei for not putting him to bed, and suspects that she didn't put away the vomit. He even grumpily urged Li Wei to hurry up and help her mother-in-law.

After that, the husband went back to bed and continued to sleep with his two children. Li Wei got up and began to prepare breakfast.

At 9 o'clock, her mother-in-law called again and urged Li Wei to help quickly.

My husband was woken up again and became angry: "Can you hurry up? As soon as you go to my mother's, you will linger. Who will you pull a donkey's face for? " I always run faster than a rabbit when I go to your mother's house. "Said the husband, turned over and went back to sleep.

Li Wei woke up the two children, washed them, arranged for the boss to eat by himself, while nursing the second child, while Li Wei packed the baby's bottle, cup and diaper, and prepared the clothes for the children to wear when they went out.

At 9: 30, my mother-in-law called again, urging the elder sister's family to come over and tell them to hurry up.

The husband who was awakened again was completely angry. He got up and shouted at Li Wei, "Are you deaf or blind? I don't work every day, I don't earn money, I clean up my two children, and I can't go out for two hours? "

The husband said, and threw the pillow on the sofa and Li Wei's packed clothes to the ground.

Li Wei said, "Come as soon as your sister comes. They will eat jiaozi first. Let's go later. What happened? If you are short of money, get up and help! "

Then, Li Wei's husband told Li Wei to get out of the house. This is also the most heartfelt sentence that Li Wei has heard since she got married 1 1 year.

Li Wei was forced to wander about. On New Year's Day, either young couples go to the streets. Or a family of three, smiling; Still a family of three generations, happy. Li Wei is the only one.

At noon, Li Wei opened her sister's circle of friends, and there was a table of chicken, duck, fish and steaming jiaozi, and the whole family except her took a group photo.

At 9: 30 in the evening, her mother-in-law called Li Wei and said that her eldest son had neglected her homework, and her youngest daughter had just started to gasp and cough in her throat.

Li Wei went home. Compared with dignity and rights, children's learning and health are the first.

"You are a mouse at home, always stealing things that don't belong to you. You can't control them at will How many times have you been told? Why do you always refuse to change your religion? " The husband accused Li Yang (a pseudonym) like this.

Li Yang didn't say anything because she did steal it.

She bought a feather for each of her parents with her husband's credit card before New Year's Day, with a total price of 735 yuan.

Li Yang, aged 37, is a second-child nanny and a housewife 13 years.

"Being a housewife for 13 years, my most helpless thing is that when I have no money to spend, it is like a rope around my neck, and the end of the rope is in my husband's hand, which can suffocate me at any time." When Li Yang finished, he was angry and wronged.

Li Yang said that her husband works in a large enterprise and pays more attention to food and clothing. Many of my husband's clothes are eliminated quickly, and many things at home expire when they are useless.

On the one hand, everything that Li Yang is distressed about is wasted. Another thing is that Li Yang's parents are old and don't pay much attention to it, so Li Yang often brings things that are not used at home or will be eliminated to his parents.

But in her husband's eyes, this is stealing and stealing.

Li Yang said that one year, she packed the clothes that her husband didn't wear and intended to give them to her father, but her husband immediately stopped her and said that she still wanted to wear them.

But the next day, Li Yang saw these two packs of clothes in the clothing donation box in the community.

One year, Li Yang collected old things and found a dusty tea gift box. He wanted to take it home for his father to drink, but when her husband found out, he stopped sharply: "This is my thing. Who told you to give it away? "

As a result, a few days later, Li Yang saw the tea gift box at the doorman of the community, and the uncle said that Li Yang's husband gave it to him.

On another occasion, Li Yang and her husband went back to their parents' home to pay New Year greetings. When shopping, Li Yang insisted on buying a massage chair for his mother with poor waist, but her husband refused to pay after seeing the price.

Li Yang remembers that her in-laws' massage chairs were updated twice.

She reasoned with her husband, who only said, "You should be filial to your parents and earn it yourself!" "

"Married 13 years, parents helped us take care of our children, hurt our children to buy clothes and things, and sometimes even looked at me as outdated and bought clothes for me. But because I can't make money, I want to honor them with some old clothes and expired tea. " Li Yang said and bowed his head.

On New Year's Day this year, Li Yang made up his mind to honor his parents even if he divorced, so he boldly swiped her husband's credit card and bought two down jackets for the elderly. Li Yang was called a mouse and a thief.

"You eat me, drink me, wear me, use me, why divorce me? We have two children, both of whom are children. I won't divorce you, so don't be ignorant, but don't mind what I am doing outside! " It's a threatening and comforting word from Xiaoyu (pseudonym) after her husband was found cheating.

Xiaoyu, Erwa, aged 33, has been a housewife 10 years.

When she found out that her husband was cheating, her second treasure was not yet full moon.

Xiaoyu married her husband on 20 10 and soon had a child.

Xiaoyu wants to continue working. Her husband says Xiaoyu earns less and he earns more. It is best for children to be mothers.

So Xiaoyu became a housewife. After that, the child went to school, her in-laws got sick, and she gave birth to a second child. In a blink of an eye, 10 years passed.

"This 10 year is a 10 year without any equality. Because he has a little income, his contribution is infinitely exaggerated; And because I have no income, all my efforts have been ignored. " Xiao Yu said, and bowed his head.

Because my husband has a job, he can eat with his mouth open and his clothes stretched out, regardless of anything.

Xiaoyu cried and said, "He doesn't know the child's zodiac, birthday and age; He doesn't know when the eldest daughter will go to school, when she will leave school, who is the child's class teacher and who is not in the child's class WeChat group. "

The month Xiaoyu gave birth to her second child, her husband went to a parent-teacher meeting for the first time. The teacher reminded her husband that her children's grades were declining, and her husband loudly accused Xiaoyu in the next month: "You don't even have a job. How can you take care of a child? Do you know anything about education? "

Xiaoyu said that her husband often said to socialize and dress decently. It is normal to buy hundreds or even thousands of shoes and clothes, but Xiaoyu wants to buy a set of 99 pajamas, and her husband says it is too expensive and not worth it!

My husband bought a tie made in 800 yuan, and Xiaoyu wants to buy a 199 yuan bag. The husband said, "Why are you so vain if you don't go out?"

My husband bought a watch of 2000 yuan, and Xiaoyu wanted to buy a ring of 899 yuan. The husband said, "You smell like shit or urine. If you take your child to scratch urine, wearing a ring is just a waste of things. "

Finally, my husband said shamelessly behind my back: "I am now earning a high salary and young." I don't want to find another woman, and other women are pouncing on me. " If you can, you can also find another man and see if anyone wants you. "

The tragedy of the above three second-born mothers and housewives is not a case.

With the arrival of the second child era, the energy cost of raising children has increased, the difficulty of tutoring has increased, and the pressure to pick up and drop off children has increased sharply ... It is of great significance to a family, especially for men who are devoted to their careers.

But it is a very dangerous step for a woman to be unemployed and have no income and worry about daily necessities.

More and more women who have a second child are forced to become housewives, spinning like a top every day to maintain the operation of a family and support their husbands' work.

However, because they have no economic income, these housewives are often rejected because they are short-sighted, out of shape, out of date, unable to get on the table, and do nothing but take care of their children. ...

According to the estimation of a senior domestic service staff, if the workload of a second-born nanny and housewife is measured by the domestic market, the monthly salary is conservatively estimated to be around 20,000 yuan. How many husbands can compare with such a high monthly income?

Therefore, housewives who read this article should be more confident and love themselves more. I also hope that more men will cherish full-time housewives who pay for their families.

I am willing to write to encourage my readers.

Today's discussion topic:

Do you agree that women are housewives? Welcome to share your views.