As the saying goes, "a good horse with a good saddle" should pay attention to the sense of ceremony in everything. Such a positive New Year's resolution naturally requires an exquisite notebook record. I will be more proud when I review my achievements at the end of the year.

To this end, I also spent a lot of time and energy, looking for a 32K leather soft watch from the Internet. The dark blue color gives people a particularly stable and fashionable feeling.

This is what a good young man should look like in the new century.

Now, a year has passed.

Looking back on the achievements of the past year, I found that my previous ambitions have now turned into huge hands, slapping me in the face and hitting me in the face:

As for the exquisite handwritten account book, you can contact me if you need it. It is as new as before. ...

In fact, I have been a member of Zhihu Reading Club for one year, a member of watching the world for one year, a member of electronic magazine for one year, a member of scallop writing for one year, and a member of PS material for one year. I spent a lot of money just to become a better person.

A year later, I found that due to my lack of self-discipline, these reminders about the renewal of membership that are about to expire are like cold eyes and sarcasm, sarcastically asking me, "Do you want to continue to pay IQ tax for one year?"

A year later, I found that Tencent Video and Taobao are the most useful members, and they can return to their books, as if to remind me that people never have to worry about "self-discipline" in consumption and entertainment.

A year ago, I was full of ambition and enthusiasm. A year later, life told me pragmatically: now I know that I am actually a loser.

But I think failure in life is the norm. I didn't do well enough this year. When summing up, don't whitewash it out of shame and unwillingness. If you want to change your destiny, you must face your own unbearable.

There is a saying called "Don't ask the hero, ask the bear", which means that if you want to succeed, you should not only ask the winner, but also understand how the loser failed, as a lesson. Then, I will share some lessons with you from the perspective of a loser:

A "Top Students' Work Schedule" is widely circulated on the Internet. Top students have arranged a whole day's study and work, accurate to 15 minutes, which is simply inhuman. But for me, even the simple "early-middle-late" planning model is hard to stick to.

Analyzing the reasons, I think there are three aspects:

If you insist on doing something, it will certainly be of great benefit in the long run, but it is not difficult to carry it out every day, especially at the beginning, and you can't see the return, but you have been working hard and have a good life guarantee, even if you do nothing for a day, you can have food and clothing. Will you still choose to insist?

At this time, there is no oppression of life, only the persistence of inner ideals and beliefs, and people can easily relax. In other words, although we learn to improve our motivation in order to become better, how hard can you change yourself if your present life doesn't push you everywhere?

Take the new media writing that I have been tossing for a long time. Every day, I think about choosing a topic, inputting knowledge, drafting an outline, collecting materials, creating, designing and typesetting, publishing on multiple platforms, promoting and maintaining fans ... once or twice, I will feel enriched and learn a lot of skills. But when it becomes the normal state that I need to persist rather than like, I feel more and more tired, tired and tired, especially when there is no big improvement and benefit.

When all these struggling "self-discipline" encounter enough interference or blows, giving up becomes a natural thing.

Personally, I feel that June+10 in 5438 encountered some major changes and was under great mental pressure. I couldn't settle down to write essays and manuscripts at all, so I asked the editor for leave, but all my efforts came to a standstill. Until today, I have to force myself to cheer up.

Therefore, if individuals can't do strict self-discipline management, they need to use some external forces to persist and force themselves to face discomfort and difficulties.

In fact, nothing is more exciting than complete adversity. When I realize that I have no way out anyway, and I have to give up my fairly high-paying job in the army this year and choose to enter the society with my bare hands, my desire for survival will force me to learn English again and start writing.

Why are games addictive? Because the rewards (pleasure) that all games bring to players are very timely, a new game, as long as you simply play a few games, most people can master the basic operation skills, and they can master the game skillfully in a few days and feel the ultimate fun. Most games also have achievement systems, which can receive timely feedback when completing tasks according to instructions every day to satisfy players' sense of accomplishment.

Similarly, the "headline system" software headed by Tik Tok knows this well, and all the software products are addictive and always remain high. These are all "spiritual opium" developed by using our ordinary people's desire for success.

I have always felt that the story of "encouraging seedling growth" is far away from me, but summing up what I have done in the past year, I found people who play games, Tik Tok and so on. Too many will become more and more impatient and "can't wait". People want to see the return immediately after investing.

The marketing number uses this to harvest the IQ tax of batches of leeks. What "7 days to master slimming skills", "5 tricks to help you realize wealth freedom" and "30 days to write advanced words to realize cash" ... how much like the 2.0 version of MLM slogan!

Once I found out that I didn't succeed as quickly as I advertised, I lost the reason to continue my self-discipline life. The disillusionment of dreams, like the side effects of drugs, will bring greater emptiness and blow after extreme excitement, which is extremely harmful to a person's continuous benign and orderly work and the realization of a beautiful dream.

As we all know, when you concentrate on one thing, what you are most afraid of is being suddenly interrupted, and your inspiration, state and thoughts are suddenly confused and your experience is extremely poor. Similarly, on the road of self-discipline, there are many distractions that prevent us from becoming excellent.

Because of the particularity of the work (in the army), it may not be possible to arrange 24 hours, and all kinds of training, assessment, inspection and tolerance are full, and the time is not fixed. As a result, the time of study and exercise is interrupted and occupied, and it is difficult to cultivate a lasting habit. Sometimes it is difficult to stick to the original rhythm because of going out to study and work. Therefore, if you want to cultivate good self-discipline habits, a stable working environment is very necessary, and it is very harmful to be in an uncertain working state at all times.

There is an "anchoring effect" in psychology, which means that when people need to make a quantitative evaluation of an event, the starting value they choose often limits the estimated value like an anchor. For example, in terms of the subjective feeling of hard work, if your colleagues and friends around you work hard and study 10 hours a day, you will feel that it is not hard to study for 8 hours a day.

This is what we often call the external "normal standard". The normal standard is the average judgment of the people around you on the same thing. For example, my working environment (army), colleagues and soldiers all think that studying is useless and does not affect my salary level. In my subconscious, I will pay less attention to reading and studying.

Living in an environment full of negative "normal standards" for a long time will exhaust personal fighting spirit, which is extremely unfavorable to personal growth. Therefore, we need to keep a clear head and judge things in many different ways. If you can't change the learning and working environment in a short time, you can use other channels such as the Internet to find more objective evaluation criteria and pull your anchor higher.

If I hadn't experienced a great blow at the end of the year, I might not have considered the health problem. After all, I'm only 25 years old, and I'm healthy, which is a good age to struggle. But now I realize that mental and physical pain can cause a devastating blow to a person. I began to understand that good mental and physical health is extremely valuable for better realizing my dream. With the growth of my age, I can't stay up and revel without scruple, I can't indulge in eating and drinking without scruple, and I can't squander my limited energy without restraint. I finally began to realize that my previous overdraft account was being recovered by life little by little.

A classic advertisement of keep, a sports software, is "self-discipline makes people free". If you want to really break through the barriers and break the shackles of life, you must start from self-discipline. I hope that in the new year, you and I can learn from our mistakes and try to be a self-disciplined person first.

We also need to make it clear that self-discipline is only the first step and a necessary condition, but it is not a necessary and sufficient condition. Self-discipline is like a tool to help us become better. How to use the required method. In order to achieve a real breakthrough, we need to further study how to realize advanced thinking and mode.

There are many books and methods about success, and it is obviously meaningless to list them one by one. I want to talk about some experiences and lessons only around my thinking about "slash youth" this year:

Some people, who are very smart and have extremely rich spiritual life, especially like learning, have many hobbies and know everything. Talking with them will make you feel very interesting and learn a lot of things you don't know. You think this is what an excellent slash youth should look like.

At the beginning of 20 18, I made up my mind to be such a slash youth, with many skills such as writing, photography, broadcasting, tourism, psychology, PPT and so on. Why do you want to be a slash youth? Not only because it looks cool and excellent, but also because I expect myself to keep open source and earn more wealth.

However, it turns out that the image of "slash youth" advocated by those successful scholars is not only too perfect, but also deliberately ignores many details, only strengthening the result theory, giving people the illusion that "you can become a slash youth after one year of hard work".

I think many people, like me, have read several such stories. Some people realize the freedom of wealth through personal skills and leisure time, and feel that they can do it, so they pay attention, pay attention and learn, and then find that they are not the protagonist in the story, but the denominator in the ratio of success to failure.

In fact, the word slash youth itself is not wrong. Excellent people can have many skills, but our understanding of this word is biased.

Slash youth must be proficient in many skills, but people who like many skills are not necessarily slash youth. The former can be rewarded by skill, while the latter is just skimming the surface.

So, if, like me, you just seem to know a lot, but in fact you are superficial, then you may fall into a trap called "Da Vinci curse".

What is the "Da Vinci curse"? This expression comes from an author named Leonardo Rospe, which means that a person seems to be as interested in everything as Leonardo da Vinci, and he is also like a generalist, but the result is nothing.