Mr. He, the groom from China, went to Viet Nam on a blind date and got married through an intermediary. The Ministry of Foreign Affairs reminds to be cautious about overseas blind date activities.

Introduction: Yesterday, the "Double Eleven" blind date of a group-buying network 0 yuan buying vietnamese brides continued, but Mr. He, an engineer in Beijing, was anxious when he saw it. Last year, he took part in a blind date with a "vietnamese brides" intermediary, and two brides ran away. For this reason, he lost his job and hurt his heart, and spent more than 70 thousand hard-earned money. "People and money are empty, I am real."

In the middle of June 5438+last year 10, Mr. He, 50, ended his relationship with a domestic woman. Feeling depressed, he saw the intermediary advertisement on the Internet in vietnamese brides. Vietnamese brides in the publicity is simply his ideal wife: gentle and virtuous, beautiful and generous, with low material requirements.

Mr. He recalled to the Beijing Youth Daily reporter that what attracted him at first was a series of successful cases thrown by vietnamese brides intermediary, in which the parties would send photos of themselves and their brides online. In the photo, happy grooms are holding vietnamese brides, and under these circumstances, the grooms will update their living conditions from time to time, such as taking their wives shopping, accompanying their wives to their parents' homes, and clothes made by their wives, which makes him look forward to it very much.

Mr. He was not carried away by the beautiful net posts, and spent a lot of time on the preliminary work of choosing an intermediary. In the middle of May 438+10 last year, he visited several vietnamese brides intermediaries. On several occasions, he deliberately asked for leave from the company to visit an intermediary company located in other places, but the result made him dissatisfied.

He said, "Many of these companies are afraid to disclose the specific company address. Once I went from Beijing to Hebei to find a company to understand the situation. The agent asked me to be far away from the company, and it took me by car. "

In this big situation, the company's qualifications and background make him more valued. Finally, Mr. He chose an intermediary company with a background in Taiwan Province Province and ten years of business experience in vietnamese brides. The asking price of this company is 30,000 yuan, indicating that it can pay by installment and sign the contract, which makes Mr. He feel quite formal. In addition, the company told him that he could actually look at it with a tourist mentality. If not, he should be a tourist.

After the company was finalized, Mr. He's miserable period began.

The first bride

The bride who didn't enter the bridal chamber escaped on the grounds of domestic violence.

Under the guidance of the intermediary, Mr. He asked for leave from the company, met with his Vietnamese counterparts, and stayed in a hotel dedicated to blind date service in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam. There are other mainland blind date guests in this hotel, and we often get together to exchange blind date feelings.

In Vietnam, the role of foster mother is more important. "Foster mother" is a Vietnamese woman who introduces Vietnamese women to marry foreign men. The foster mother will select some beautiful girls who want to marry far away from the countryside for intensive training, including etiquette, self-cultivation and even the language of the corresponding counterpart country.

Under the arrangement of several Vietnamese intermediaries, including an adoptive mother, Mr. He and another client, Mr. Liu, who was dating him, took a fancy to two Vietnamese girls respectively. Mr. He's bride is 2 1 year old. But the day before the wedding, the Vietnamese intermediary refused to share the same room on the grounds that both girls were virgins. Mr. He and Mr. Liu crowded into his room and let two Vietnamese girls stay in Mr. Liu's room the night before the wedding.

"We both rolled around in bed with joy." Mr. He said that he and Mr. Liu were too excited to sleep all night. That night, he also wrote a long thank-you letter to the Vietnamese intermediary, which praised the friendship between the Chinese and Vietnamese people. The Vietnamese intermediary did not return a word.

After the mass wedding at noon the next day, Mr. He and the bride returned to the hotel, hugging the bride's neck. At this point, the bride began to look around and was very upset. Because the woman didn't know much Chinese, Mr. He had to sign that they were married, but after Mr. He kissed the bride, the bride jumped up and ran into the bathroom to make some phone calls. Mr. He slapped himself in the face and apologized. But in the end, the bride's family took the bride with the suitcase.

Three days later, at the urging of Mr. He, the Vietnamese intermediary said that the bride would not come back because of his violence against the bride, and asked Mr. He to pay the blind date fee again. Mr. He asked for a refund and was told by the intermediary that it was impossible. He said that at that time, the agent said that the vietnamese brides they sent me was fake except for the passport. He has been in this business for ten years, and it is difficult for him to get his money back. The intermediary kept the relevant evidence.

The second bride

Give money to a missing person on the grounds of going back to her mother's house.

Fearing that the money already spent would fall on Shui Piao, Mr. He finally chose to pay another 20,000 yuan for a blind date. This time, he was transferred to another hotel and met a 30-year-old bride.

What annoys Mr. He is that at this time, the agreed 8-day trip has been delayed for more than a month. Because he left the construction site for a long time, the company has dismissed him, and the bride he brought back has become his only sustenance. In order to snatch the bride away, when Mr. He left Vietnam, he even gave the last few thousand dollars stuffed in his cigarette case to the intermediary.

And this only sustenance was brought back to Beijing and ran away in less than 20 days. The bride said that her grandfather in Vietnam was ill and wanted to go back. After clamoring to go home many times, Mr. He agreed and never saw her again.

Mr. He sighed and told the reporter of Beiqing Daily that he was also very tired at that time. The bride often quarrels with him. Although she knows some people from China, they can't exchange ideas.

The bride could not understand him. He wanted his friends to see his new wife, but the bride angrily refused. And Mr. He can't understand the bride. He remembers that once it rained, his new wife stood at the bus stop and let it rain, which puzzled her.

In Mr. He's view, the second bride has a bad temper and will run away at any time. Once the bride disappeared again. He looked for her with a flashlight at night and accidentally broke his tooth. After tossing and turning, Mr. He said, "In this case, she can leave if she wants."

Now this matter has been known by Mr. He's colleagues. At first, Mr. He was very angry and wanted to denounce the "black intermediary" for getting his money back, but he was afraid to expose it to the media, for fear that the bride would really not come back if things got stiff. A few months later, he wanted to let go. Anyway, the bride would not come back.

Looking for it in many ways, Mr. He said that he thought the escape route of the two brides was like this: Beijing, Baoding, Shijiazhuang, Kunming, Hebei, and returning to Vietnam from Hekou Port.

Now, Mr. He still misses his first bride. He still has photos of two brides. From time to time, he will look at the photos of his first wife, and he will cry sadly. "I just want to use my example to make later generations cautious!"

At least three of the four brides who got married on a blind date ran away.

"Too many people have escaped." Mr. He is not a case. He is just a "contemporary" groom whom he met on a blind date. Now he knows that three brides have run away and one person has lost contact with him.

Mr. He said that Mr. Liu, the groom who had the best relationship with him in the same session, was very careful when dating. He took a digital camera with him and showed his family conditions to women with photos.

After Mr. He's accident, Mr. Liu was afraid that the Vietnamese intermediary would make excuses for himself, so he was very accommodating to the bride and spared no effort to save money for her family, for fear that she would lose her wife on a trivial matter. After various performances, the bride's papers were finally completed, and he took them back to China.

Similar to Mr. He, less than 20 days after Mr. Liu returned to China, the intermediary called the woman to tell her that her father had passed away and let the girl go back to Vietnam to attend the funeral alone.

Because it was the notice of the intermediary, Mr. Liu thought that the accident must be the responsibility of the intermediary, so he prepared enough travel expenses and many gifts to send the bride on the plane. After that, the woman kept calling for money. A month after the funeral, Mr. Liu hoped that the woman would return to China, but at this time, the phone was disconnected. A few days later, the Vietnamese agent told Mr. Liu that he had found the missing bride and asked him to come to Vietnam to pick her up.

Mr. He said that Mr. Liu, who knew this, rushed to Ho Chi Minh City and was told that although the bride had been found, she did not want to return to China. Even if she is prosecuted, the Vietnamese government will not protect this marriage. The intermediary suggested that he go on a blind date again, either at a preferential price or by himself.

Mr. He understands Mr. Liu well. "At this time, he is like a gambler who lost everything, eager to get his money back, and his mentality is the same as mine." Generally speaking, he said, at this time, the groom doesn't want all the previous investment to be in vain, and he wants a new bride to go home and take care of it.

Afterwards, Mr. Liu told Mr. He about the follow-up situation on the phone. The second time, he found a bride who was about his own age and didn't have the first good-looking bride, trying to reduce the risk. But on the night of the wedding, the bride said that she was unwell and wanted to go home, and she never came back.

Mr. He said that other people's brides also ran away in this mode. He once communicated with these grooms, hoping to come forward and expose such a thing, but many people hesitated and said that they still wanted to find a wife, which was even more difficult for everyone to discuss.

Now, Mr. He also believes that as long as the intermediary has compensation measures after the bride escapes, it is not bad to go to Vietnam to find the bride, because the probability of escape is too great. He will still say that Vietnamese girls are very simple and will only denounce black intermediaries. Those girls are just pawns in their hands.

In fact, the figure of 70,000 yuan is only the money spent by Mr. He to marry vietnamese brides. Some odds and ends of money are hard to calculate, not to mention the impact of losing your job and not being able to explain it to your family. "These black intermediaries are surrounding you step by step, all kinds of traps."

Bride escape agencies can be exchanged for free or at a discount.

In Baidu's "vietnamese brides" Post Bar, photos of Vietnamese women can be seen everywhere.

Some photo uploaders said that the woman in the photos they sent was a runaway bride. "Forward what you see, so as not to be married back by other China men." One of the net post authors described his uploading purpose like this.

There are many such photos, and there is a special post called "Vietnamese runaway bride exposure platform", which publishes photos of runaway brides respectively, and posts a photo of runaway brides on the first floor.

A man who has been married to vietnamese brides for half a year said that he found his Vietnamese wife through a friend's recommendation. As a rural person, his requirements are not high, so maybe the bride's escape rate is even smaller. Now, from time to time, he will take some friends to Vietnam for blind date and introduce himself.

He said that vietnamese brides has a high probability of running. Besides some brides are really professional brides, another reason is that some men who go on blind dates are too demanding. In China-Vietnam blind date market, it is common for the bride and groom to be around 65,438+05-30 years old, and many brides don't know Chinese or both languages. In this case, the groom needs to spend more energy to cultivate feelings, but many grooms can't.

He himself has heard some friends in the circle discuss it. Although he is married, some vietnamese brides has been using contraception himself, and some even left when he gave birth.

The reporter of Beiqing Daily saw that among the QQ groups in vietnamese brides's dating circle, China men's demands for women are mainly chastity, youth and beauty, and they said they don't care about money. Some people even admit that if the bride can stay with her for a while, even if she finally runs away, she will run away, "just be kept."

Will his vietnamese brides escape? This is a common question in the hearts of men looking for an intermediary. Many intermediaries also said that they had corresponding guarantees before paying the money. The reporter of Beiqing Daily inquired about a number of intermediary companies. Some companies said that if the bride escapes, she can change to a new bride for free, but if she escapes, she needs to pay money and then make a blind date. Other companies say that after the bride escapes, she will give "old customers" preferential prices to re-blind date.

Married to 40,000 to 60,000 foreign-related intermediaries in vietnamese brides, an industrial chain has been formed.

The reporter of Beiqing Daily consulted a number of vietnamese brides intermediaries, and they all said that they had to pay a deposit of 3,000 to 5,000 yuan to elaborate. At that time, they will show the agreement, and eventually they will have to pay a fee ranging from 40,000 to 60,000 yuan, which will be collected by the Chinese intermediary the day before the wedding.

When asked to show the company's qualification certificate, all intermediaries refused the request of the reporter of Beiqing Daily. An intermediary who claimed to be located in Beijing said that foreign-related marriage introductions are not allowed in China, so he and all other similar intermediary companies are non-governmental organizations. "Don't worry."

Accordingly, it is difficult for Mr. How to sign effective contracts with these companies.

On the other hand, in Vietnam, foreign-related intermediaries have also formed an industrial chain.

A man who claimed to have been concerned for a long time and wanted to find a vietnamese brides said that vietnamese brides had actually been married to other countries for decades. As early as the early 1990s, entrepreneurs from China, Taiwan Province Province and South Korea went to invest in Vietnam. Some of them married Vietnamese girls and then returned to China. These girls told their relatives and friends in Vietnam about their excellent life abroad, and these people also invested in building houses and buying land for the woman's family. Over time, more and more Vietnamese women want to marry abroad. These women attract more foreigners to come on blind dates, and there is a market. The occupation of foster mother also appeared, similar to the matchmaker in China.

He said that in Vietnam, there are big foster mothers and small foster mothers. Big foster mothers have information about small foster mothers all over the country, as well as information about women in big cities such as Ho Chi Minh City.

The man said that he would consider traveling to Vietnam as a tourist, and he knew it like the back of his hand. But he is also worried that the quotation of the intermediary company is not all he ultimately spends. As far as he knows, in many cases, he has to pay the money by himself. If the woman is not old enough and needs to change her age, the woman needs money at home, and the woman escapes to change the bride herself, she must spend all kinds of money to handle related matters. Some intermediaries have also seized their clients' certificates in Vietnam, so we should be vigilant.

warn

The Ministry of Foreign Affairs warns against overseas blind date activities.

Keep the bride and tell her not to run. It's a technical job. After this, many men simply transform into intermediaries.

An agent who told the best story about his happy life with vietnamese brides said that he could provide better service to his customers because he found a Vietnamese daughter-in-law and knew more about Vietnam. My wife can find many good girls in her hometown, and the quality is more reassuring. Of course, the asking price is more expensive, and the agency fee is 60 thousand.

On the 9th, the Ministry of Foreign Affairs of China released a message saying that recently, some domestic group buying websites launched activities to send netizens to Vietnam for blind date to find brides for free. The Consular Protection Center of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs reminds China citizens to be cautious about overseas blind date information, and to know the relevant laws and regulations at home and abroad and the qualifications of intermediary agencies in advance before going abroad to prevent their rights and interests from being damaged.

According to the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, both China and Viet Nam have relevant laws and regulations on foreign-related marriages. In recent years, there have been many cases in which Vietnamese citizens credibly believed false information and rumors on the Internet, took their belongings to China to marry, and were cheated and suffered economic losses. The website of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs reminds that in case of emergency in Vietnam, you can contact the embassy or consulate in Vietnam for help. Text/reporter's clue/Ms. Hu