Women are emotional animals. If she marries a man, she will devote herself wholeheartedly. If she wasn't too disappointed in her marriage, she wouldn't choose divorce easily. After divorce, women's feelings are more fragile, and the hard-working marriage suddenly disappears, which makes them feel distressed. Women can have a short-term depression after divorce and need time to heal their inner pain, but they can't live in the painful memories of marital changes for a long time, which is not only bad for their life after divorce, but also has a negative impact on their children's healthy growth. Therefore, divorced women need to maintain a positive and healthy attitude, dare to face a life without men to rely on, and take on the heavy responsibility of raising their families and children through self-reliance to make full preparations for the arrival of the next relationship.
2, a stable source of life
Before a woman divorced, her husband was mainly responsible for bringing home the bacon, so she didn't have a stable job and income, and she didn't have to face the problem of living alone. After divorce, women lost their main source of livelihood. If a child decides to support himself, it is far from enough to rely solely on her ex-husband's compulsory support, which will easily affect the quality of life.
It is very important to have a stable job and an income to meet the basic needs of life. If a woman has no job after marriage, she needs to consider the source of life security after divorce in advance, so she will not be in a hurry if she is prepared in advance. In addition to fighting for more division of property within the legal framework, it is best to find a job in advance to earn money and ensure the quality of daily life after divorce.
3. Friends who often get together for the first time
People can't live without friends in society. Women in marriage need friends, especially after divorce. Divorced women need time to find the next relationship, whether it is preparing for a long-term single life or delaying remarriage for their children. It's easy to feel lonely, and having friends who often get together not only helps to dilute.
Loneliness is also conducive to getting out of the shadow of divorce as soon as possible. Some women are afraid of being looked down upon and gossiped after divorce, because they are embarrassed to meet their friends. Actually, it's not necessary Since you have chosen divorce, you should face it bravely, not to mention the increasing divorce rate in today's society. Divorce should be regarded as a relief from an unfortunate marriage, not a shameful thing.
4, the hobby of entertaining yourself
Divorced women not only have a lot of free time at work, but also have a rich spare time, which can not only relieve loneliness in self-entertainment, but also get happiness from hobbies. There are many items suitable for women's entertainment, which can be chosen according to their own specialties. Conditional women can take more time out to travel and have a good rest in nature; Those who have no financial ability can write something or chat online, share their thoughts with netizens, or exchange some questions with netizens for advice: those who have artistic cells can practice calligraphy, learn to draw, and cultivate their sentiments: even practicing yoga, playing ball games and running can enrich their lives, which is much better than dwelling at home and daydreaming.
? What are the psychological stages of divorced women? 1. Confused and struggling stage.
Divorce is like the sudden death of love without warning, which makes people feel at a loss. Some women feel the sky is falling after divorce and don't know what to do with their future. The vows of eternal love that I once loved are now just words. At this stage, women are anxious about not only the sadness of the end of this marriage, but also what to do in the future. How difficult it is for a person's road is a problem that many divorced women need to face. Because of the dependence in the marriage stage, many women give up their favorite jobs and choose some low-paid jobs close to home in order to take better care of their children. But once divorced, they will lose their financial dependence, and their future life will be confused and helpless. Therefore, I have always supported female friends to choose their own broad road and create more value for themselves. The greater your value, the less a man dares to do evil, and his heart will be tightly bound by your value.
Replacement numbness stage
What do divorced women lack most? It is emotional loneliness. Some women are disheartened and will choose single life, while others are more willing to replace that tragic marriage with new feelings. Man struggles upwards, water flows downwards, and there is nothing wrong with starting a new chapter. I'm afraid. I'm afraid to move on to the next relationship to escape. The decline of marriage is not the fault of only one person, but the result of two people. Some women completely blame men for the failure of marriage, and without any reflection, they confidently break into the next relationship. If the shortcomings are not corrected, emotional setbacks will follow. The more frustrated and brave you are, the more bumpy your emotional path will be. You will find that many women will fall into such a strange circle: after the first divorce, they talked about a lot of feelings and finally ended up falling apart.
3. Release and release stage
Divorce is not terrible, there is nothing wrong, but it is wrong not to get out. Women should not depend on men. Men are like duckweeds, drifting with the tide, not knowing when they will be uprooted. Once something special happens, even the man who loves you the most can't protect you. As a woman, it is a skill to stand firm when getting married. If you can still stand firm after divorce, it is not a skill, but a skill that is gradually developed. For a woman, divorce is either a revolutionary change or endless depravity. As a woman, no matter what sadness you encounter, you should learn to love yourself. Many divorced women will be relieved. They will strive to improve themselves, find the joy of life, get busy and forget those bad memories. Take part in a training course for women, such as body training, making western pastry, hand knitting, health care and so on. At the same time, you can expand your circle of friends and make yourself more confident.
Several situations in which remarriage is not recommended. 1. marital infidelity
Cheating is divided into emotional cheating and physical cheating, but in either case, it is irresponsible to the other party. This is the bottom line of marriage and the principle that both husband and wife should abide by. Freedom and restraint coexist. Some cheaters will plead after the incident: I am just impulsive, pursuing novelty, and the person I love most is you. Please forgive me.
Human desire, especially lust, is the most primitive instinct from the deep heart, and it is by no means an impulse. It is the choice made by reason and desire after hundreds of rounds of fierce fighting. Passion is hard to control. Once this bottom line is broken, it will be like a runaway wild horse, and it is difficult for reason to tie it down. This is why many people have the physique of "love rat" and "love rat", which is natural. So, if there is such a thing as cheating for the first time, there must be a second and third time? The difference is that it will be found several times. Therefore, for those who cheat, don't have too much illusions.
To say the least, the derailed party cried and made various guarantees. Do you trust the other party's guarantee, or out of consideration for the children's future, or the pressure of public opinion? If you choose to bear and forgive silently, then it will be difficult for the married life to develop in a healthy direction, because the emotional balance between the two sides has been broken. If you encounter other problems in your marriage life, and both husband and wife can't express their feelings normally, problems will follow.
No matter how flat the crumpled paper is, there will be creases; No matter what scar removal products are used, scars will leave traces; No matter how "marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished", it can't return to the initial emotional state of the two. The original intention can't go back, so what's the happy ending?
? 2. Domestic violence
I once saw a news item on the Internet. A man knelt at the door of a company. The sign said: Wife, I was wrong. Please give me another chance. When the reporter heard the news, he went to interview and learned that the man decided to divorce him because of his wife's domestic violence. Men do this to save. However, the man knelt all day, and no one came up to intercede for him. The reporter further interviewed the insider and realized that this is not the first time that a man has knelt here and begged for mercy.
There is only the difference between zero sum and countless domestic violence. Some domestic abusers actually don't look innocent, but when they have emotions, they are like a different person. When he calms down, he can realize that his behavior is extremely wrong, and then he cries and writes down various guarantees to ask for forgiveness. When the victim relented, she believed him, but what was waiting for her was the next violence. In this cycle, domestic violence seems to be a bottomless abyss.
Domestic violence is not only an extreme behavior caused by a specific event, but also the deeper reason is that the patriarchy and patriarchy left over from the long feudal society are still deeply rooted in some people's hearts, or that the growing environment of his family has brought great trauma to his mind and spirit, which led to his alienation as a way to solve problems and vent his emotions in adulthood. They have a "domestic violence gene", and once it is activated into a dominant gene, they can't control it themselves.
? 3. Three views disagree
A senior I met in high school got along well. Recently, it was found that he was divorced, and the reason for the divorce was surprising enough: the woman needed a sum of money for business, so she couldn't take it out for the time being and wanted to use the house as a mortgage. The seniors disagreed, and the two sides were deadlocked, which eventually led to divorce. As far as the incident itself is concerned, no one is right or wrong. It's just that seniors want a stable life, while women prefer to take risks. Not knowing who is right and who is wrong is the most deadly, which will lead to endless quarrels between the two sides. Unless one party compromises, it is also extremely reluctant. Attitude towards money, career and family? These three problems are not prominent when you are in love, because you only care about romantic things at that time, but when you step into the marriage hall and face the reality, these problems are undoubtedly exposed.