The old people in our impression usually pay more attention to diet, light, less oil, less stimulation and less drinking.
"Grandma who eats food" is different, greasy, spicy, chilled and white wine. As long as she wants to eat, there is basically no taboo.
The most enviable thing is grandma's straightforward personality, which doesn't like to be angry and never cares.
In her own words: "Mentality determines everything. Some things can't be solved by eating one meal, so eat two meals. "
For grandma, her personality is straightforward, and many things in life are affordable, and some unhappy things are digested at that time, so she can solve them by "eating one meal" or "eating two meals".
However, for many people, when they are depressed, "eating one meal" or "eating two meals" can not only help them get rid of negative emotions, but also produce more negative emotions because of overeating, the most typical of which is regret and loss of control, and they can't wait to spit out everything they have eaten.
I don't know what it's like not to be in it.
Many things in life are like drinking water, knowing yourself and yourself.
Some things, for some people, may not be things at all, but for others, these things are just internal obstacles that they have been unable to overcome.
When these negative emotions accumulate in the body, it is easy for people to fall into depression.
What are we experiencing when we are depressed?
When we are depressed, each of us will experience different emotions, such as:
Sadness, anger, anxiety, worry, panic;
Not confident, not interested in anything;
Fatigue, loss of appetite, difficulty sleeping, etc.
Even, we are not interested in doing what we like, just like losing our sense of taste, everything feels dull.
People will become depressed when they are depressed for more than two weeks and have not improved. At this time, we will feel:
Can't experience any happiness in life;
Life is hopeless;
Can't concentrate on things;
Have the idea of self-harm or suicide;
We will be more and more immersed in denying the past, constantly criticizing ourselves, denying ourselves, feeling disappointed in ourselves, losing confidence in the future, and even having suicidal thoughts.
Generally speaking, when we are depressed or depressed, our appetite, sleep, attention, thoughts and motivation to do things will be affected.
Among them, emotional overeating is a very common manifestation.
Facing the great pressure of life and work, negative emotions will make us feel empty, especially emotionally. Therefore, constantly filling our bodies with food can give us a short and illusory satisfaction.
This is why many of us have the urge to eat and drink when we are unhappy.
Why do we fall into depression?
So, what makes us trapped in depression for a long time?
When we are depressed, we are repeatedly troubled by some negative emotions and lose the motivation to do things. Even if you do what you originally liked, it's "eating without knowing the taste."
Since you can't experience happiness, you lose the meaning of doing it, and "don't want to do it" becomes a natural result.
Once this emotion starts, it will spread to many things, such as not wanting to wear a mask, not wanting to make up, not wanting to go out, then giving up dieting, giving up exercise, giving up self-discipline … finally, giving up on yourself.
I remember reading an article, one of which impressed me deeply:
Some people feel too tired to exercise, so they are lazy. If they can sit in life, they will never stand. After a long time, my body becomes weak and I often feel that I have no strength. Not to mention struggling to stand up and exercise.
This forms a vicious circle. The less you exercise, the more tired you feel. The weaker you are, the less you want to exercise.
This cycle also applies to the periodic changes of depression. When we are depressed, we will have some negative thoughts in our minds:
"I won't like doing it."
"I have no strength."
"What's the point?"
These negative thoughts, in turn, make us not want to do things and communicate with others. In the end, we can only let negative energy lead us by the nose and continue to immerse ourselves in low emotions and endless cycles.
What causes us to feel depressed?
Life is hard and things change.
In our life, each of us will experience all kinds of hardships, emotional troubles, economic problems, birth and death, and so on. These things will come out from time to time to temper our minds.
Sometimes, even after a period of depression, I realize that I am sick, but when I look back, I can't remember what it is.
In addition to these external things and environment will lead to our depression, medicine has also confirmed that genes and personality also play a vital role in these factors.
For example, the "cancer character" mentioned in an article that broke the news some time ago refers to a kind of sensitive, suspicious and sulky person.
This kind of people always like to think the worst, and they are in a state of depression for a long time, which leads to the violation of the body's immune system, so the incidence of cancer is higher than the average person.
The most typical example is the sentimental and unhappy Lin Daiyu written by Cao Xueqin. She is brilliant, smart and beautiful, but she is sickly and unlucky.
It is precisely because of sensitivity, paranoia and sentimentality that people with this "cancer personality" are often more likely to cling to one thing over and over again, and always sulk and feel sad about the same thing.
Life is lucky for a straightforward and carefree person like "grandma who eats food"
However, a leopard cannot change his spots.
For people with "cancer personality", sensitivity, paranoia and sentimentality in personality do not mean that they can be changed.
The mood is depressed, how should you die?
In the adult world, all beings suffer and have to die.
So, when we are depressed, how should we die?
Psychologists believe that people's attention is limited. When we focus on negative emotions or thoughts, we ignore other information and blindly look for evidence to support these negative thoughts.
It is precisely because of this that we will find more and more information to prove that these negative thoughts are true and reliable, thus allowing this negative energy to spread indefinitely.
In other words, when we are depressed, we will focus on the negative emotions themselves, thus providing them with energy for growth.
Faced with this situation, we first need to pay attention to our attention and learn to control our attention. Only in this way can we bring a beam of light to the darkness and let ourselves see hope.
Therefore, we should learn to divert our attention from depressed emotions, especially when some negative thoughts appear.
When training to divert attention, you can try to focus on the senses, take a few deep breaths first, and try to do the following exercises after breathing evenly:
Find five things you can see;
Find 4 voices that you can hear;
Touch 3 items;
Explore two smells with your nose;
This kind of attention training can help us find awareness and return to rationality, and it is simple to operate and can be done anytime and anywhere.
When you are in a bad mood, fall in love with yourself.
In addition to this special attention training, psychologists also suggest that the most effective way to improve mood and motivation is actually "behavioral therapy".
In an article published before, I talked about the relationship between motivation and behavior. It's not what we used to think, "you can start to act only with motivation", but "you can generate motivation only with action".
Such as the "flywheel effect":
In order to make the stationary flywheel turn, we must first make great efforts to make the wheel turn. After a few turns, the wheel will turn faster and faster, and it will be easier for us to push it.
Because of depression, I have no energy and motivation to do things, so I need to force myself to act and find the motivation to do things.
Remember the story of the peasant couple who became popular because of dancing a while ago?
My husband lost confidence in life because of an unexpected car accident and got depression. In order to treat him, his wife takes him to dance every day. Unexpectedly, she not only helped her husband cure his heart disease, but also made CCTV news.
Action is a good medicine to cure the mood.
While they concentrate on dancing, they not only find the motivation to do things, but also can easily divert the attention of negative emotions, killing two birds with one stone.
Therefore, when we are depressed, we might as well find something we like to do.
Just like the movie "The Bucket List", make a dream list for yourself and give yourself a chance to do something that I have always wanted to do, but I always can't find time or spend money.
When you are depressed, pamper yourself, have a love affair with yourself, and help yourself out of the trough of life.
Life is like day and night, and after darkness comes light.
It is the difficult self-crossing in the dark that makes us stand firm in the light.
At the bottom, don't forget to look up at the sunshine and tell yourself that everything will pass.