How far can parents protect their children? What Ma Lu saw refreshed many people's cognition.
A father in Qingdao asked for help, saying that his 8-year-old daughter was at school age and was kept at home by her wife. For several years, children don't go out, don't go to school, have no friends, and don't even know their grandparents. Now she doesn't even call her father.
He and his wife have been separated for four years, and they are very worried about their daughter, but no matter how to persuade them, no matter who they talk to, she insists on her own practice.
Why did mom do this? Her answer is even more incredible.
Mother said she didn't restrict the children's freedom. Her daughter can play any game she wants and learn anything she wants. But kindergarten teachers don't like this kind of education. Teachers like children who listen to her. My daughter once attended kindergarten for a few days. She was worried that the teacher would wronged the child and simply left her daughter at home.
Mother also showed her daughter's paintings. A child who has never been to school can paint like this. Looks really talented.
The child not only draws well, but also writes well. He casually wrote the word "elder brother", which looked like a seal on a book. The child seems very eager to learn.
It turns out that this mother gave birth to a daughter at the age of 4 1. She loves her daughter very much and values her daughter more than anything else. Her mother is afraid that her children will be bullied and wronged when they go out, so she will have such overprotective behavior.
We don't deny that if parents have the knowledge and ability to teach their children to learn, their children can also become talents. For example, Zheng, the king of fairy tales, compiled his own textbook to teach his son to read.
But teaching knowledge by yourself is not to isolate children from the world. Children will grow up one day, and parents can't accompany them for life. Children who grow up under excessive protection are more vulnerable when they grow up.
"Parents' love for their children is far-reaching. "If you really love your children, you should plan for their future. No matter how much you love them, parents should teach them these two abilities.
One: the ability to communicate with people.
Normal children, when they are young, will play with their partners at school and gradually exercise their interpersonal skills in the process of dealing with kindergarten children.
If children are allowed to live in a closed environment, they will lack language skills and will not talk and deal with people for a long time, which will easily lead to autism or mental disorders.
Two: independent consciousness and self-care ability.
Many parents, when their children are young, are afraid that their children will be hurt if they don't do well, or they won't do it. They don't let their children exercise anything except study.
For example, it turns out that a girl in Grade Two is afraid to pour hot water or plug in an outlet, and she can't dress herself in Grade Two. This is the result of parents' excessive worry about over-protection.
Children will grow up after all, and they can't even take care of their own lives. In the future, they are more likely to be laughed at and feel inferior.
Just like the once famous "Oriental prodigy" Wei Yongkang, he knew more than 1000 Chinese characters at the age of two, went to primary school at the age of four, went to junior high school at the age of eight, and was admitted to the master's degree and doctor's degree of Chinese Academy of Sciences at the age of 17. However, three years later, he was dismissed because he could not take care of himself.
Therefore, for a child, no matter how great his achievements are, no matter what kind of talent he has, the ability to learn to communicate with others and take care of himself is the most basic. No matter how much parents love him, they should also know how to teach him these two skills.
As Wei Yongkang's mother cried, "I don't blame my children, only my own educational methods."