The source of the so-called sense of ceremony is not a simple ceremony or a gift, but the moment you remember when you do something at a certain time and place. For example, weddings are so complicated and stylized. Why do you insist? Because people need a line to divide the past and the future, and tell themselves that they are responsible for a family from the beginning. This change needs to shine like a star to be remembered.
Just like when the little prince met the fox for the first time, the fox told the little prince that acquaintance needed a certain ceremony, because with this ceremony, many things that were originally irrelevant were given meaning. If you don't celebrate any festivals, life will become a dry desert with no hope and a lot of fun.
The sense of ceremony in marriage makes us learn to keep a poetic and romantic distance in the real life of running around for life and bending over for five buckets of rice.
When I was a child, my family was in a bad condition, so I could only eat meat on holidays. Usually, I am mainly a vegetarian. But one day, it's mom's birthday, dad will buy meat and fish to go home, and then a braised pork and sweet and sour fish will look gorgeous. At that time, eating cakes was not fashionable, just like Chinese New Year. My mother always complains that my father is not willing to spend money indiscriminately and what birthday the old couple have, but from her eyes, I feel extremely happy.
I often think that they have been married hand in hand for 30 years and have never really complained. Is it trivial or trivial?
That's not true. It is because of their sense of ceremony that reminds each other of gratitude and cherish. Solve countless trivial troubles in marriage with understanding, tolerance and love.
One of my sisters gave birth to a little daughter after marriage, which is very polite. Since then, my sister's whole heart has been placed on her daughter, and only the baby is the biggest in her eyes, ignoring her husband and herself.
On the wedding anniversary that year, my husband specially ordered a high-end restaurant. She grabbed a shirt casually and came out without makeup. The husband said, would you please dress up? This is our anniversary. I also prepared a surprise for you.
At first, she felt very troublesome and unnecessary. She said, "Do you know how busy and tired I am every day? ..... "But at her husband's request, she changed into a beautiful long skirt and painted light makeup. They drove to a restaurant that had been booked for dinner, and she also received a bouquet of carefully customized roses. Very happy!
At that moment, looking at the shining stars outside the window and looking at the opposite husband, she suddenly burst into tears. Since then, every anniversary, they will put down their children, put down the complicated affairs around them, and go hand in hand to a date that belongs only to each other.
It turns out that the sense of ritual in marriage is a very good preservative. It is to separate the two sides from family roles and daily affairs, look at each other and find love and attachment again. I think this sense of ceremony is really great. Because only a family whose parents love each other and communicate sincerely will raise a truly happy and loving child.