Nowadays, the pace of life is very fast, and people's pressure is increasing. Stress comes from all aspects, such as study, work, family and so on. When a person is stressed, the mood will become bad and it is easy to produce negative emotions. Next, I will show you how to get rid of the influence of negative emotions. Welcome to read!
1, keep smiling.
In life, some negative people always look sad and unhappy, as if nothing can make them happy. People with negative emotions rarely tell their friends about themselves, and they always feel responsible by themselves. To get rid of negative emotions, you need to keep smiling. Although this can't be immediate, it can make you farther and farther away from negative emotions.
2. Appropriate diversion.
Many friends with negative emotions are always thinking about something that makes them unhappy and can't get rid of the influence of that thing on themselves. Maybe if you focus on another thing and divert your attention properly, you can forget that thing and get rid of negative emotions.
Step 3 sleep.
In fact, when I am upset or have negative emotions, I usually want to go home quickly and take a hot bath in the bathroom. Lie in the warm bed again and have a sleep. Woke up the next morning, full of energy, alive and kicking, and everything went.
4. Tell your friends.
I believe that many friends have one or two close friends around them. You all know each other and know everything. When you have negative emotions and troubles, don't hide them in your heart alone. Tell your friends sometime. Some things will be much better if you say them, and friends will certainly comfort you.
5. Do more and talk less.
Nowadays, many friends always think too much, but do nothing or do too little. Thinking too much will make a person very impetuous and anxious, which will eventually lead to negative emotions. We should put what we want into action and really realize it, so that we can have a sense of accomplishment.
6. Keep exercising.
If you have negative emotions for a long time, the whole person looks listless and lazy. I suggest that everyone must keep exercising. Exercise can not only strengthen our physique, but also improve our mood.
7. read books.
Everyone knows that knowledge is power, and people can't stop learning. Friends with negative emotions may be because they don't understand some problems and have too much confusion, all of which are caused by too little experience. In the book, you can see many other people's life experiences. Maybe you can find a solution. If you calm down and read, the negative emotions will disappear automatically.
8. Listen to music.
If you have negative emotions for a long time, it will have a great impact on a person, not only uncomfortable, but also greatly reduce the efficiency of doing things and cause great losses. Music is a magical thing. It can be divided into many kinds. It can encourage us, hypnotize us and help us get rid of negative emotions.
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If it is not a workplace grouch, negative emotions will affect OL health.
"Always endless classes, endless things, and let people live?"
"One person is used by two people, why not pay twice as much?"
"Is it annoying to have a meeting every day?"
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In the workplace, we can hear such complaints almost every day. Like an invisible virus, they spread unconsciously, forming a terrible "black hole" with negative energy, devouring our career ideals, work enthusiasm and life goals, and even affecting the development of our career.
Nine adults complain every day.
People in the workplace will inevitably have such and such disappointments, so they will complain.
14 years ago, Xiaoli entered a state-owned enterprise after graduating from college with excellent academic performance. Although it is a state-owned enterprise, its benefits are not good and it has been on the verge of bankruptcy. She complains worriedly every day: "Why am I in danger of being laid off as soon as I graduate?" Later, she jumped to a newly established private enterprise and had a new complaint: "Why is the salary so low?" Later, she jumped ship and became a foreign company executive with unlimited scenery, but she was still very angry: "The treatment is good, but the pressure is also great!" With so many people staring at my seat, I can't relax for a moment. I don't even have time to get married and have children! "
Unlike Xiao Li, Elaine is troubled by complicated interpersonal relationships. Yilin works in a trade union in a public institution and often has to deal with various departments. Soon after arriving at the unit, she found that there were too many people here, and the relationship between departments was complicated and subtle, so it was difficult to carry out the arranged work. If you can't finish the task in the end, the fault always falls on yourself. "Alas, the work is so hard to do!" This sentence became her mantra.
The data shows that with the increase of competitive pressure, the number of "grumblers" has also become extremely large. A survey on the complaints of people in the workplace shows that nearly 90% of people in the workplace complain every day. Among them, 65.7% people complain about 1 ~5 times a day, 13.8% people complain about 6 ~ 10 times a day, 4.8% people complain about more than 20 times a day, and only 1 1.2% people say.
We found that in the common work of 2 1, 10 is more likely to make people depressed. Any job can lead to or aggravate depression. However, if people engaged in high-pressure work learn to be kind to themselves and seek professional help when necessary, there is still great hope to control the pressure.
No. 1: nanny/carer
Nanny/carer comes first in stress. Nearly 1 1% of nannies have experienced severe depression. (The proportion of the unemployed population is 13%, and that of the general population is 7%. )
Christopher Wilde, a clinical psychiatrist at Tufts University and the author of Psychology of Children, said that the daily work of nannies or caregivers is to feed, bathe and provide care for those who can't express gratitude, and those who are taken care of are either too weak, too young or not used to expressing gratitude at all.
"The pressure of this job is really great. I take care of patients all day and never get positive feedback. " A nurse said this.
Second place: restaurant waiter
Next to the nanny/caregiver is the restaurant waiter. These people usually have low wages and hard work, and countless people tell them what to do every day. 65,438+00% workers experienced severe depression in the past year, and 65,438+05% restaurant waitresses also experienced the same situation.
Dr. Legg said, "Waiter is a thankless job. People who give and receive services are sometimes really rude, and at the same time, this job requires a lot of physical strength. When people are depressed, it is difficult to get the energy and motivation to work, but it is really difficult to work hard at the same time. "
Third place: social workers
It is not surprising that social workers are at the forefront of this survey. I have to face unimaginable crises every day-abused children, families on the verge of breaking up, and red tape, which makes this job very stressful and usually requires 24-hour standby.
Wilder said, "To do a good job, you must work very hard and make sacrifices frequently, which has become a certain social culture." "Because social workers work with people who are in urgent need of help, it is impossible for them not to make great sacrifices at work. I have seen many such examples, and they are really consumed very quickly. "
Fourth place. : health care workers
Medical workers include doctors, nurses, therapists and other similar professionals. The job seems tempting, but in fact, they are likely to pay a lot, but in the end they get nothing. Medical workers not only work long and irregular hours, but also are always life and death. In other words, the pressure is beyond words.
Wilder said: "They have to face illness, trauma and death every day, and they have to negotiate with patients' families. Their eyes are gloomy, and they look at a miserable world. "
Fifth place: artists, entertainers and writers
The income of these jobs is unstable, the working hours are not fixed, and they have to endure loneliness.
Artists are usually more prone to mental illness. About 9% people have experienced severe depression in the past year, especially men engaged in this kind of work, and the rate of severe depression is the highest (nearly 7% of full-time working men suffer from severe depression).
Legg said, "I often see artists and artists suffering from bipolar disorder (depression and mania). Many of their mental illnesses have not been diagnosed or treated. People who work in the art field are very common, which is related to their lifestyle. "
Most of the complaints are to vent their inner anguish.
There is no denying that everyone has complaints. Most of the dissatisfaction in the workplace comes from the imbalance between income and pay, the obstruction of self-worth and the frustration of interpersonal relationship.
According to the survey, 74.7% of people in the workplace said that their complaints were mainly to vent their inner anguish, while 36.2% hoped to solve the problem by complaining. Workplace experts believe that work occupies most of the daily time of people in the workplace, and daily work is full of contradictions, which need people in the workplace to solve and coordinate with their own abilities and efforts. In this process, once the inner balance is not reached, complaints will pop up inadvertently or flash in your mind. When this contradiction accumulates to the point where it cannot be solved, people in the workplace will find themselves really "Xianglinsao".
The greatest use of complaining is to vent dissatisfaction, and we can't expect it to really change the status quo. Many complainers have complained for years, but they still suffer from jobs with low wages and no promotion opportunities. They have become a "trouble" that everyone has avoided.
Complaining transmits negative energy.
People who complain are disliked because they will make listeners feel anxious, which will not only make themselves, but also make people around them lose motivation. No matter what you are complaining about, you are conveying a negative emotion. "For the organization, this is a virus that is easy to spread on a large scale. It will seriously erode the healthy' organism' of the organization and generate huge negative energy, which will affect the normal operation and future of the entire organization. " Workplace psychologists believe that "the biggest harm of workplace complaints lies in the destruction of the working atmosphere. Modern organizations pay attention to the atmosphere of teamwork, and the cohesion and communication among team members determine the combat effectiveness of the organization. The destruction of the working atmosphere will directly lead to the decline of organizational combat effectiveness. "
Experts point out that too many complaints will have a negative impact on people's physical and mental health, and complaining to others will leave a very negative impression on others. Professionalization is very important in the workplace Positive emotions and behaviors are the basic qualities that people in the workplace need, and they are also boosters for career development. People in the workplace should be able to radiate positive energy in their work and life and turn complaints into ambitions, not just passive responses.
Lingda has been in a state of "complaining while working" for a year. A colleague in her office left last year, and the work that should have been done by three people fell on her and her colleague Jason. Sister Zhang's children are small, and Ling Da has to undertake more work. In order to finish the task on time, she often works overtime, so she is full of complaints. Complaining is complaining, and the situation has not changed. Finally, she realized that it was useless to complain behind her back, so she knocked on the boss's office and asked for more staff. The boss was surprised: "I always thought you were understaffed." Why didn't you say so earlier? " A week later, the new person was in place, and Lingda was finally "freed".
What happened to Linda is not a case. A large number of facts have proved that active and effective communication is always much better than complaining. Find the key person of the problem, reflect the problem with a peaceful mind, and ask the other person to solve or help solve it-this is the best way to solve the problem.
How to get rid of negative emotions
Do you find life boring? Or often think that you are unhappy; I even keep asking myself what is the meaning of life.
Have you ever had these pessimistic thoughts? It's quite possible. It is normal to have some pessimistic thoughts occasionally, but life will not be easy because of it. If you allow negative thoughts to spread, you will fall into severe depression. This is why we should take action as soon as possible to get rid of this pessimism.
Although these suggestions will not help you solve practical problems, they can help you break the negative mentality and get rid of depression. If you think you have psychological problems, don't hesitate to see a psychiatrist.
1, consciousness adjustment method
People's consciousness can regulate the occurrence and intensity of emotions, and some people with high level of ideological accomplishment can often regulate emotions more effectively than those with low level of ideological accomplishment. A person should try to control the change of mood with consciousness, and he can control his mood by adding "I should …" and "I can …" and what he wants to do.
2. Language adjustment methods
Language is a powerful tool to express one's emotional experience. Emotional reactions can be caused or suppressed by language, and even the silent inner language can play a regulatory role. Lin Zexu hangs a banner on the wall that says "Control Anger", which is a good way to control and adjust emotions with language.
3. Attention transfer method
Shift your attention from negative emotions to meaningful directions. When people are depressed and upset, watching movies and TV works to adjust their emotions and reading blasphemy memoirs can get good results.
4. Action transfer method
To overcome some long-term negative emotions, we can use new jobs and new actions to transfer the interference of negative emotions. Beethoven once joined the army to overcome the pain of lovelorn, which might as well be a good choice. The biggest psychological problem is to suffer from loss; The biggest mental burden is the shackles of fame and fortune. People should not blindly pursue fame and fortune, nor should they lack self-motivation and spirit of struggle. Health first, nourishing the heart, indifferent to fame and fortune. Happiness lies in contentment and physical and mental health. Mr. Liu, a master of fine arts, is over 90 years old and still full of energy. The secret of its longevity is: "Don't be shocked by humiliation, look at bloom before the court;" I have no intention of staying, and I have no intention of staying. I wish the clouds in the sky would be smooth. "A person learns to be optimistic, indifferent to fame and fortune, keep a healthy mood, and his fate will always be in his own hands.
Step 5 change the surrounding environment
The best way to change your mood is to change your surroundings. When you are depressed, you will connect your problems with your surroundings. Chances are, your surroundings will always remind you that you are a loser. This may become a vicious circle. The solution is change. Change is not necessarily revolutionary. Cleaning, increasing lighting or adding knickknacks can change the atmosphere of the whole room.
Step 6 break old customs
Following the same living habits all day will make you fall into a monotonous and depressed state. This often leads people to fall into old practices. In order to change, you have to temporarily change your living habits from time to time. If possible, take a day off. Do something you don't usually have time to do, or do something you've never tried before. In the long run, rest and adjustment from time to time will help you get rid of the haze and make your work more efficient.
7. Communicate with animals and nature
You may smile when you think about how seriously human beings take their little problems. Animals don't think so. Birds are not unhappy because they are not eagles or because other birds find delicious food. Animals live in the present and unconditionally show their love for life. Observing them and communicating with them will help you solve your own problems.
8. Let's move.
JunnyCash once famously said, "When you are in a bad mood, start to keep up with the rhythm." Dancing really puts everyone in a good mood. The same is true of other sports. Fitness and walking will dispel the lethargy caused by depression. The more passionate moments you have, the happier you will be.
9. Be ambitious.
Carl Sagan, a professor at Cornell University in the United States, whose work is Dark Blue Dot, once proved that we are all tiny creatures living on a small planet in a huge universe. In the long run, everything will be forgotten. Some people are depressed about this, but it is really unnecessary. Forgetting means that the problems we face are not so absolute. In a million years, no one will remember what you did or didn't do. It is important to cherish and enjoy every minute of our life now.
10, help yourself.
Finally, the best way to get rid of depression is to take action. What's your biggest problem? How can we alleviate the pain? Once you stop being depressed and start looking forward, you won't feel so miserable. Action will occupy your mind and make you look to the future. Once you achieve something, you will be motivated, and a positive attitude will make it easier for you to move forward.
How to get rid of negative emotions in the workplace
Do you feel that you are tired all day, that you haven't been promoted or raised, that your goal of success seems out of reach, or that you have never felt really happy with a monthly salary of over 10,000 yuan, and sometimes you even feel that your family, career and colleagues are in a mess? ...
A survey recently released by the American Psychologist Association shows that about 65% of American employees have negative emotions in their hearts, which are manifested as dissatisfaction with the status quo and deep fatigue. The worst case is that you are overwhelmed and suffer from serious physical and mental diseases.
Knowing that thousands of people feel the same way may make you feel much more relaxed. After reading the following nine rules put forward by experts, you are not far from entering the workplace easily and pursuing success wholeheartedly.
Rule 1: Make full use of the Internet.
The Internet can not only chat and send emails, but also be the best helper in your career. If you have any questions about finding a job. Com will teach you how to make a good resume, how to pass the interview and ask for salary in an appropriate way. If you are starting a business. Net will tell you how to plan and raise funds. In short, there are all kinds of contents on the internet. Take a little time to master it and find the website that can help you the most, and you will always feel that the future is bright.
Rule 2: Evaluate your own advantages and disadvantages correctly.
Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses, and let those friends who are familiar with you and can speak frankly modify this list. Then decide how to make full use of each of your strengths and effectively avoid exposing your weaknesses.
Rule 3: Overcome fear.
The key to developing potential is to overcome the fear that everyone has. You can start with small things that have nothing to do with work. For example, take the initiative to greet friends you just met and watch horror movies alone. Always try something you want to do but are afraid to do, so that you can gradually have fearless courage in your work.
Rule 4: Make life full of order.
An orderly life will make you clear-headed and feel comfortable every day. It is necessary to tidy up the desk before going to work every day and regularly clean up the files and emails in the computer. Just seeing a desk full of reports, memos and letters to reply is enough to make you feel confused, nervous and worried. Besides, don't underestimate family life. The success of a career is often directly related to family life. A leisurely morning and a rich breakfast may determine your mood and work efficiency in a day. No one thinks that going to work unkempt and hungry will make a good day.
In the past two years, psychological capital, as a brand-new concept, has exerted more and more influence. The so-called psychological capital refers to who you are, that is, a person's psychological state and quality. Whether managers or employees, everyone has a psychological capital, and the quality of capital is very important to work performance. In fact, people's psychological state and quality have always been concerned.
In the past two years, "psychological capital", as a brand-new concept, has exerted more and more influence. The so-called psychological capital refers to "who are you" and refers to a person's psychological state and quality. Whether managers or employees, everyone has a psychological capital, and the quality of capital is very important to work performance.
In fact, people's psychological state and quality have always been concerned, but only recently have they been put forward as the concept of capital in enterprises or workplaces and systematically analyzed and studied. Psychological capital at least includes the following aspects: hope: a hopeless and self-destructive person cannot create any value.
Optimist: Optimists attribute bad things to temporary reasons and good things to lasting reasons, such as their own abilities. Resilience: psychological ability to recover quickly from adversity, conflict, failure, responsibility and pressure.
Rule 5: Keep a peaceful mind.
No stress is the key to keeping a good mood. To this end, you should engage in at least one sports activity every day for at least half an hour; It's best to open up a place at home where you can be completely undisturbed and stay there for a quarter of an hour every day. During this time, I just want something positive that will make you happy. This short-term charging will be of great help to your mood.
Rule 6: Don't trust others blindly.
Don't expect everyone you work with to think from your standpoint. Recognizing this, you will reduce a lot of disappointment and depression. Be careful to choose those who you want to trust or express your feelings to.
Rule 7: Stick to your own values
Be sure to find out what you want most: money, a changing life, challenges and excitement, or constantly surpassing yourself, and then think about whether your current job can provide you with these material conditions or spiritual feelings. If the two are far apart, you should consider changing your job.
Rule 8: Stay energetic.
If you are a mental worker, the reason for your fatigue is rarely due to your overwork. Many times, our fatigue is not because of work, but because of anxiety, tension or unhappiness. Please try to "pretend" that you are full of enthusiasm and interest in your work, answer every phone call with a smile, say "great" from the heart when the boss tells you to work overtime on weekends, and cheer yourself up every morning ... Don't think it's superficial. This is a very important psychological hint.
Rule 9: Adapt to the inevitable.
There is a proverb in English that says "Don't cry for spilled milk". In life, everyone will encounter unpleasant things: he finally got the appreciation of his boss, but he was transferred to another place; I went all out to bid, but I lost the opportunity because the final data was not verified ... Instead of letting these irreparable facts ruin our emotions and our lives, we should accept these things and adapt to them. Remember, sometimes it's useless to regret. We have lost a lot, as long as we don't lose the lesson.
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