Sometimes, survival is an opportunity given by God, and living is the greatest hope. No matter who abandoned you, don't give up on yourself. And "Hawthorn Sister" is such a person. Because of her disability, she was abandoned by her biological parents, and her parents became her spiritual pillar. ......
The plight of the family, whether stars or ordinary people, can not choose their own birth, born in what kind of family is doomed. There are many parents in the world who love their children so much that we can't repay their kindness. The father carries the whole family, and the mother is pregnant in October. She didn't understand when she was a child, and she didn't know her parents' difficulties until she grew up. In addition, some parents will abandon their children for various reasons after their children are born, and adoptive parents will be born.
There are many feelings, family ties, friendship and love in the world, all of which are our emotions. Many people meet their biological parents and healthy parents, so they are in a dilemma. On the one hand, they will give life, on the other hand, they will be raised. Perhaps, we can't empathize, because we are not the parties, and we don't know what they have experienced since childhood, whether it is bitter or sweet, and no one can measure it. In other words, their life experience, coupled with psychological shadow, will certainly be much stronger than their peers.
In fact, whether it is biological parents or healthy parents, there are good and bad, but there is no doubt that some affection and love can not be as heavy as a steelyard. Love is the most amazing thing, which can make people want to cry and laugh. I think many people will say that biological parents only have children, have no education and have no love at all. Come to think of it, is this really the case? My biological mother was pregnant in October, and her body suffered a lot, and this process was the most painful.
There are many beautiful things in the world. When you see the evil side, there will always be bad feelings in your heart, but if you look at it with a good eye, the result will be different. Whether you are a biological parent or a health care parent, nothing is impossible as long as you are grateful. Because that is not only to let go of ourselves, but also to let go of our parents, each has its own difficulties, and life is short. What we have to do is to live well and cherish the present time. So is Zhang Yueqiao, whose parents are the most important family members in her life.
Zhang Yueqiao, male, 1984, from Tengzhou, Shandong. She likes singing and dancing since she was a child. That's why we learned about such a farmer singer in the program on the Avenue of Stars. That year, she won the runner-up of the year on the Avenue of Stars, which was not easy. Many people know that her acting career is not easy, but her life experience is even more distressing. Because no one will succeed casually, everyone has gone through countless hardships before reaching the other side of success.
Zhang Yueqiao didn't know his life story until her wedding day. Before that, she always thought that her parents were her biological parents. On August 6th, 2007, Zhang Yueqiao and Lian Jie got married. Before she got married, her parents tried to tell her, but they insisted on not letting their children have any psychological shadow. Father Zhang Zongshui and mother Han Banglan always cry when they mention her past. Finally, they tell their daughter on the wedding day, and they are relieved at that moment.
While combing her daughter's hair, Han Banglan said heavily, "Qiao Yue, you are my parents' good daughter. You're getting married today. I want to tell you a message. In fact, you are not our own daughter. " Magic Joe heard this moment, a happy mood, lost the colorful clouds at that moment. She said she could accept it. Let her mother go on. 1984 10, Mr. and Mrs. Zhang Zongshui went to the market and found her abandoned on their way back. At that time, she was still a baby, with six fingers in her left hand and spinal problems.
The couple lost their parents when they saw such a small child, and they felt very uncomfortable. They couldn't bear to leave her and take it home. Zhang Yueqiao is full of parents' kindness. There are three brothers in the family, but her parents treat her as a real girl. Her appearance added extra expenses to the families who were not rich. In order to treat her, her parents tried their best to make money and suffered a lot.
After three operations, her spine and left palm returned to normal. In that scene, she thought her parents did it, but she didn't expect it to be her own daughter. Her parents are so kind to her that she can't repay them. On the wedding day, she was in tears and could not bear to leave her biological parents. Fortunately, she married a good man and her in-laws spoiled her. Her participation in "Avenue of Stars" was supported by her husband and parents, so she stood bravely on the stage and was affectionately called "Sister Hawthorn" by the audience.
Before that, she always had a knot in her heart and knew that it was not easy for her adoptive parents. But after giving birth, she thought of herself, where her biological parents were, and her husband could see her heart. Zhang Yueqiao would also say to her husband, "I want to find my biological parents. I understand that I can't decide anything. I just want to take a look at it from a distance. " My husband is very understanding and supportive, because things will always come out at that moment. She just wants to find her biological parents and ask Han Banglan if she has any keepsakes.
Han Banglan knew that the girl had her own ideas when she was older and wanted to find her biological parents, so she told her and dug up some clothes of that year. She began to look for relatives. In the meantime, regardless of her mother's feelings, she found many places to no avail. They also posted a notice of finding relatives on social platforms. Soon after, they contacted her, a couple in their fifties.
After the paternity test, she was full of expectations, but the fact is very realistic. She is not her parents' biological daughter. She was very upset. When she returned to her mother's house, she found that something was wrong with her mother. She felt uncomfortable, but her husband standing by saw all this. Later, I also did ideological work with my wife: "You see, you look for your biological parents, but you ignore your healthy parents. After all, you have been raised for 23 years ... ". However, her husband's words woke her up. She stopped looking for relatives and said to her parents, "Mom and Dad, you are the most important people to me."
Looking for relatives ignores healthy parents. Since then, Zhang Yueqiao has stopped looking for relatives even if she doesn't want to, because in her eyes, healthy parents are the most important. After all, what her parents did to her in those 23 years, she saw it in her eyes and silently remembered it in her heart. I also told my parents with practical actions that my love for them will not change. Although she is not related by blood, she is closer than relatives. She thought it was over. Unexpectedly, after becoming famous, there was a "family tide", which undoubtedly added a lot of troubles.
20 16 July, Zhang Yueqiao received a phone call saying that she was her biological parents. But she has no plans for these, because she has parents, a family and a career, which are not so important to her. On the occasion of her performance, the couple went directly to Han Banglan's house, ate and drank, and stayed for almost a week. When they left, they did not forget to ask the fare. One by one, it lasted for half a year, and the Han Banglan couple couldn't bear it.
Unexpectedly, my mother, who has been suffering from diabetes, was hospitalized and her condition began to deteriorate. After they sent their mother to the hospital, Zhang Zongshui held a family meeting: "Your mother is seriously ill, not a small amount, you four share it equally." Zhang Yueqiao saw this and said, "Dad, my brothers are all in the countryside and don't have much money. I will bear the money alone. " But her father disagreed, and she went on to say, "Dad, you once said that you raised me as your own daughter, and I should pay for it."
Zhang Zongshui understood her daughter's idea and agreed. A week later, my mother's condition began to improve. When she took her parents home, she understood that "the tide of recognizing relatives" was a great hidden danger for her parents. She posted a statement on social platforms, warning those people that she didn't want to find her biological parents any more. This kind of thing happens by fate, there is no need to force it.
Conclusion In 2020, 36-year-old Zhang Yueqiao has a happy family and healthy parents. As for her biological parents, she doesn't want to find them, because in her mind, healthy parents are her biological parents.
Life can't be smooth sailing, but the painful past will always pass, and all we have to do is bite the bullet, carry off those unbearable things and greet the new life with a smile.