The benevolent is broad-minded
Wise people can think of things that ordinary people can't think of, but sometimes they are not understood, or they expect too much from people around them, which leads to disappointment and wisdom is easily hurt.
Longevity for the Benevolent: Confucius' Concept of Health Care
"Benevolent people live long" is the general outline of Confucius' health preserving theory. What kind of people are "benevolent"? People who are "kind", "kind" and "kind".
"Benevolent people live long" comes from The Analects of Confucius, Yongye. Confucius said, "The knower enjoys water, while the benevolent enjoys Leshan. Those who know move, those who are good are quiet. Those who know are happy, and those who are benevolent are longevity. "
Confucius even earnestly warned the old people: "... extremely old, with weak blood and gas, you must quit" (The Analects of Confucius, Ji Shi). This word "virtue" is nothing more than seeking profits by name. The older you get, the more vigilant you should be.
Han Yu highly summarized "benevolence": "Benevolence is benevolence" (Jin Xuejie). Benevolent people must have love, broad mind and psychological balance.
People are happy, relaxed and confident.
In life, why are some people particularly willing to do good deeds and help others? The survey found that when they did this, they were in a particularly good mood and their self-esteem was improved. They are really happy.
Psychologists analyze the reasons for helping others: first, it will improve personal mood, make it better, and effectively reduce physical and mental stress; Second, the positive role of helping others and the reduction of physical and mental stress will have a positive impact on their health. This shows that helping others has intrinsic rewards, strengthens altruism and prevents selfishness.
Even if the helper doesn't feel happy immediately, in the long run, he will reap the benefits of doing good deeds and helping others, such as self-confidence, self-esteem, self-awareness and getting rid of stress. Young people, in particular, will be proud of doing good deeds and helping others.
Helping others can get rid of bad mood.
Usually, we always think that people who are in a good mood are willing to help others. In fact, many people in a bad mood are also willing to lend a helping hand to others.
Cialdini, a psychologist, and others found through experiments that students who were unhappy with their poor exam results, when they were walking on campus, Lu Yu's books and papers suddenly fell all over the floor, and they were more likely to help him than usual.
Cialdini believes that doing so is a kind of self-satisfaction, which can bring inner rewards to oneself, and at the same time, seeing people who are as unlucky as themselves can help offset bad emotions. This is why some people who are in guilt, sadness or other negative emotions will take the initiative to help others and make themselves feel needed. Generosity is a way of self-satisfaction to cheer yourself up. Cialdini and his colleagues believe that in the process of personal growth, helping others is initially caused by material rewards, followed by social rewards and finally self-rewards. Many people are charitable, willing to listen to other people's troubles and like to help the weak. One of the important psychological reasons is that doing so can make them feel better and get happiness and satisfaction.
Helpers have positive psychological characteristics.
A kind of psychology that cares about people's excellent quality and beautiful mind is called positive psychology. Positive psychology has shifted from focusing on human diseases and weaknesses to focusing on human excellent qualities. It believes that charitable donors have the following positive psychological characteristics.
First, pay attention to people's positive subjective experience, happiness, satisfaction and happiness, and remain optimistic and loyal to future life; Second, they have positive psychological characteristics, certain love ability, working ability, positive world outlook, creative courage, positive interpersonal relationship, aesthetic experience, tolerance and wisdom. Third, have positive psychological qualities, including a person's sociality, virtue as a citizen, altruistic behavior, tolerance for others, professional ethics and social responsibility, and become a healthy family member. People in a positive state are not necessarily rich, but they must be happy, happy and optimistic.
Helpers live longer.
A psychological study shows that people with positive emotions, such as helping others, can endure pain more than the average person. If you put your hand in cold water, ordinary people can only endure 60 to 90 seconds, but those who have the best positive emotion measurement and the highest score can often endure longer.
People with positive emotions live longer. Psychologist seligman tested 70 patients with heart disease, of whom 17 were tested as "the most pessimistic patients". Later, 16 died after a second heart attack. And 19 people were tested as "the most optimistic people", and only one person died of a second heart attack.
Positive optimism is the first line of defense against disease. Optimistic people seldom suffer from depression. Being positive is a kind of love, an excellent psychological quality and attitude towards life. That is, as the ancients said, "the benevolent lives long."
Pass on charity habits to children.
Foreign families will cultivate their children's habits in these areas from an early age:
Be kind to animals. Sometimes, parents or relatives will give their children a stray dog as a small gift, which not only gives them a small partner, but also gives them a relieved heart. The data shows that 80% of children who are accompanied by small animals will have the awareness of caring for animals when they grow up, and 57% of children have more affinity for people than children who have never raised animals.
Help neighbors and respect the elderly. For example, in America, community service is perfect. Many families will regularly volunteer at the nearest community service station to maintain the community environment, buy food, read newspapers and tidy up the yard for the elderly in the community. Parents will be happy to take care of their children when doing these things. This can not only narrow the distance between neighbors, but also cultivate children's moral character of helping the weak and respecting the elderly.
Donate clothes and toys. Children will donate their worn clothes and toys to local charities or charity shops under the guidance of their parents. Some parents will donate their own things, set an example for their children and explain the donation process. More often, they will leave the initiative to their children. This way, children can know how much "property" they have and how to manage it in an orderly way.
Donate blood. Parents will let children know their blood type and health status, eliminate their misunderstanding and fear of blood donation, and then choose a formal and safe blood donation institution to help children realize their desire to donate blood.
Organize charity activities. After parents give their children such advice, children should choose the theme and form of charity activities independently. For example, a small charity party is held on a child's birthday. Before inviting friends to attend, the young host will inform everyone in advance that they need to bring a small birthday gift, and after the birthday, the young host will donate it to charity. You can also gather other children living in the same block, set up a "flea market" in your garden, sell second-hand goods, and use the proceeds to make the next donation.
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